Page 22 | To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

YourAmplePlumPoster · 2025-05-29T18:22:14+00:00

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 22:09

Figcherry · 29/05/2025 21:55

Why would you wear pj’s to Tesco?
That’s just slobby.

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I would like someone to explain why they've worn their pjs to the supermarket and if they would wear their pjs to work.

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sunights · 29/05/2025 22:09

If I'm paying to stay in a lovely boutique hotel, then coming down early in my pj's for coffee and breakfast is part of the luxury.

My pj's are nice loungewear style/ don't look like pj's but also don't look like clothes you'd wear for a day out.

I'm usually the first person downstairs, sit alone and don't interact with others, so really don't expect anyone to care.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:08

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:06

Wait... from under your desk? 😂

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I'm making this worse aren't I?!? She was checking the connections and crawling about on the floor. I went into another office every time she had to do anything after that. I also learned to do a lot of the IT stuff myself!

recipientofraspberries · 29/05/2025 22:07

Figcherry · 29/05/2025 22:03

Well if I knew your reason I’d be more empathetic but quite frankly until then yes, I would judge.

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But this is the whole problem with judging - people who are struggling, and with whom you'd have empathy if you "knew their reason", are facing judgement from all around them because people are making assumptions and judgments based on nothing but surface impression. What you just said is the entire problem with judging.

Renabrook · 29/05/2025 22:07

They do it to gove fodder for people who need to come up with something to put on MN

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:07

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 22:07

@ilovesooty

I'm talking about an understanding of people who are brave enough to say that on some days even getting up and outside the door is a monumental struggle. They don't deserve to be shamed for that.

But we're not talking about people who find getting outside the door a struggle: we're talking about people choosing to wear a dressing gown and a pair of novelty slippers to the shops/school run.

If you genuinely can't manage day to day life you don't think "I'll choose to put on a huge pair of yeti slippers and a dressing gown to go to the shops". You wear a t-shirt and hoody and tracksuit bottoms. It's completely performative.

How do you know the difference?

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 22:07

@ilovesooty

I'm talking about an understanding of people who are brave enough to say that on some days even getting up and outside the door is a monumental struggle. They don't deserve to be shamed for that.

But we're not talking about people who find getting outside the door a struggle: we're talking about people choosing to wear a dressing gown and a pair of novelty slippers to the shops/school run.

If you genuinely can't manage day to day life you don't think "I'll choose to put on a huge pair of yeti slippers and a dressing gown to go to the shops". You wear a t-shirt and hoody and tracksuit bottoms. It's completely performative.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:06

TheNightSurgeon · 29/05/2025 22:03

I'm going to need to know what job you did 🤣

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In an office, nothing dodgy honestly!

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:06

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:05

In an office! She was the IT person and I'm still mentally scarred by the sight of her emerging from under my desk in a basque several sizes too small!

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Wait... from under your desk? 😂

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:05

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 22:04

@XenoBitch

Why do you care?
What actual impact does it have on you? If none, then move on.

That's not how this works. It's a chat forum: people give their opinions on anything that suits them. As I'm sure you know.

Yes, I know.
This place is a way for people to ait those inside thoughts that should have stayed in their head.
But when you are the target/subject, you can understand why some people get upset, yes?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:05

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:02

Where did you work? 😂

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In an office! She was the IT person and I'm still mentally scarred by the sight of her emerging from under my desk in a basque several sizes too small!

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 22:04

@XenoBitch

Why do you care?
What actual impact does it have on you? If none, then move on.

That's not how this works. It's a chat forum: people give their opinions on anything that suits them. As I'm sure you know.

Tiddlywinkly · 29/05/2025 22:03

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:01

I know. I have been ill and don't care. I got out.

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Genuinely - good for you.

UnhappyHobbit · 29/05/2025 22:03

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 21:56

But my day clothing and shoes will also traipse dog poo and pubes (??!!) around my house too.

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Well my love, invest in “indoor clothes” and this will minimise the risk of you snuggling in bed with rogue remnants of faeces.

I don’t mean to pass on my ocd madness but sharing is caring

Figcherry · 29/05/2025 22:03

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 21:58

I wore PJ bottoms to John Lewis. I'd had my gallbladder out and had nothing that didn't touch the various incisions. Do I care if I was judged? No, I was comfortable

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Well if I knew your reason I’d be more empathetic but quite frankly until then yes, I would judge.

TheNightSurgeon · 29/05/2025 22:03

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:01

I worked with someone wore basques to work. Now that was inappropriate!

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I'm going to need to know what job you did 🤣

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:02

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:01

I worked with someone wore basques to work. Now that was inappropriate!

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Where did you work? 😂

ilovesooty · 29/05/2025 22:02

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 21:59

@ilovesooty

It's a shame that for some posters those standards don't stretch to a modicum of empathy and sensitivity.

But why is empathy needed? No one is forced to wear their pyjamas on the school run. A small handful of people with very chaotic lives or living in poverty or with depression may not be able to afford more than a couple of outfits, yes, but if you're living on the breadline you're not going to be able to buy novelty slippers?

I'm talking about an understanding of people who are brave enough to say that on some days even getting up and outside the door is a monumental struggle. They don't deserve to be shamed for that.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/05/2025 22:01

TheNightSurgeon · 29/05/2025 22:00

🤣🤣 this is quite the take.

Why are PJs private?

Why is a set of flannel PJs intimate?

Why is someone being covered from neck to ankle akin to wearing a basque and suspenders?

Why would you assume any piece of clothing is performative rather than all that person can manage that day for whatever reason?

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I worked with someone wore basques to work. Now that was inappropriate!

NAMECHANGE87554 · 29/05/2025 22:01

Loveduppenguin · 29/05/2025 20:03

I’ve dropped my dc to school whilst in my pjs but I don’t get out of the car to drop them so no one knows to be fair 😅 If I had to get out of the car i wouldn’t do it…

One of my work colleagues would do this, until one day her car broke down and she had to face roadside assistance in her jammies😂

I personally don't wear knickers under PJs so I see PJ bottoms as being like underwear. I always wonder if the people wearing PJs out don't either. It just seems really dirty to be out in them after sleeping in them.

More fool them if they sit down somewhere and pick up bedbugs in thier fluffy dressing gown

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:01

Tiddlywinkly · 29/05/2025 22:00

Fair enough. Yeah I'd say that's a bit grim

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I know. I have been ill and don't care. I got out.

recipientofraspberries · 29/05/2025 22:00

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 21:59

@ilovesooty

It's a shame that for some posters those standards don't stretch to a modicum of empathy and sensitivity.

But why is empathy needed? No one is forced to wear their pyjamas on the school run. A small handful of people with very chaotic lives or living in poverty or with depression may not be able to afford more than a couple of outfits, yes, but if you're living on the breadline you're not going to be able to buy novelty slippers?

And no one on the breadline has ever been given a gift of novelty slippers, or spent a rare bit of spare cash on a pair?

Tiddlywinkly · 29/05/2025 22:00

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 21:57

Sometimes, I have been in those sweat pants and hoody for days. Not changed at all.

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Fair enough. Yeah I'd say that's a bit grim

XenoBitch · 29/05/2025 22:00

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 21:59

@ilovesooty

It's a shame that for some posters those standards don't stretch to a modicum of empathy and sensitivity.

But why is empathy needed? No one is forced to wear their pyjamas on the school run. A small handful of people with very chaotic lives or living in poverty or with depression may not be able to afford more than a couple of outfits, yes, but if you're living on the breadline you're not going to be able to buy novelty slippers?

Why do you care?
What actual impact does it have on you? If none, then move on.

TheNightSurgeon · 29/05/2025 22:00

Thepeopleversuswork · 29/05/2025 21:56

Because, as a PP said, sleepwear has an intimacy that loungewear (I hate that word) doesn't have. Its private.

So wearing it to the shops is a bit like going out in a basque and a suspender belt. It's deliberately taking something private and designed for a small group of people's eyes only and making it performative.

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🤣🤣 this is quite the take.

Why are PJs private?

Why is a set of flannel PJs intimate?

Why is someone being covered from neck to ankle akin to wearing a basque and suspenders?

Why would you assume any piece of clothing is performative rather than all that person can manage that day for whatever reason?