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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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SoFullOnMj · 06/06/2025 19:51

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:28

How does a child feel being dropped off at school by a parent who can't even make an effort to look presentable. Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

Well. I wouldn't drop my children off at school or go for breakfast at a hotel in my pjs.

However, my mum used to drive me to the school bus stop (a couple miles, not walking distance) in her pjs.

I had an early start, about 6:30am. I thought it was kind of her to drive me. Sure it was a bit embarrassing with her turning up in her pjs, but you know what, mum had a lot to deal with. Abusive ex husband, turbulent relationship with her partner, raising 3 children on just her income, mental health and substance use problems. The fact she was existing and hadn't caved into her suicide plan was pretty good going on her part. I think I'll forgive her the pjs.

Who cares what other people wear. Leave them be. You never know what's going on in someone else's life. And even if nothings going on and they simply just fancy being comfortable and have the confidence to do so, well good for them!

Not my cup of tea, but each to their own and fair play to them.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 06/06/2025 19:45

YourAmplePlumPoster · 06/06/2025 19:44

Well said. Just do it. Apart from that it seems to be yet another revolting slob behaviour copied from Americans, like wearing the low hanging jeans where you can see underwear and crack.

I thought it was copied from the middle classes?!

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 06/06/2025 19:44

Well said. Just do it. Apart from that it seems to be yet another revolting slob behaviour copied from Americans, like wearing the low hanging jeans where you can see underwear and crack.

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OonaStubbs · 06/06/2025 19:30

Wearing pyjamas or other sleepware in public should be banned outright.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 06/06/2025 19:27

I have a teacher friend who did Zoom classes during lockdown. Any child that turned up in pjs was told to get dressed just as they would for a normal school day.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 06/06/2025 19:10

Trousers and sleepwear are not the same. Sleepwear is worn in bed. As are slippers which they also traipse around in. You're not getting it are you? Imagine going out wearing slippers and treading all the germs around the house. Our shoes are left at the front door, as we did when living in Asia.

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ObelixtheGaul · 06/06/2025 18:59

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 19:48

The whole concept originated by middle class fashionistas as The Guardian reveals. The A list celebs turn up to events in expensive designer silk pj's. The working class demean themselves wearing Disney, snoopy or other grotesque outfits in public. It's almost like it's planned.

So it's only demeaning when 'the working class' do it. It doesn't lead to fecal matter on the street, etc, when the middle classes do it. They can handle it. It's the breeding, you know.

People do not demean themselves. Others choose to demean them. Other choose to make an issue where none exists.

Again, I raise the point that there was a time when women wearing trousers was seen as demeaning, immoral, etc.

I guess that was when standards slipped, huh?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 06/06/2025 14:08

My Dad was a postman. I guess that makes me working class.

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ruethewhirl · 06/06/2025 13:33

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:09

Do you not comprehend that this was a middle class fashion trend but it has now turned into a way for the working classes to take even less pride in themselves?

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You are really not coming across as a pleasant individual on this thread. But hey, at least you’re not working class, eh?

fiveIsNewOne · 05/06/2025 21:25

It isn't that deep.

School run isn't a social occasion for the parents, it isn't a professional presentation. Especially in the morning, there typically isn't any need for interaction, the parent is just a tool enabling the child's attendance.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:46

"They were careless people, Tom and Daisy - they smashed things up and...then retreated back into their money...and let other people clean up the mess they'd made." The Great Gatsby.
As I said upthread, I suspected this was a trend encouraged by irresponsible rich people as defined in that Guardian article. It has done nothing for the self esteem of working class people to look gross in public in their snoopy and Disney pj's.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 05/06/2025 20:28

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:24

I didn't say scummy. I said working class people.

You have called it childish, infantile, a gateway to taking dumps in the street, feckless behaviour, demeaning.

It's very clear what you think.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:27

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 20:10

Hmm..you sound very similar to somebody on the cinema thread. I'm done with feeding you.

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That's good. My ankles are sore from you nipping them.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:25

Perhaps you regard the working class as scummy.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:24

I didn't say scummy. I said working class people.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 05/06/2025 20:13

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:09

Do you not comprehend that this was a middle class fashion trend but it has now turned into a way for the working classes to take even less pride in themselves?

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I don't think you understand that it still is a middle class trend and you're determined that only scummy people would do it.

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 20:10

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:07

Oh you would. No worries. I have a man at home, not a cat.

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Hmm..you sound very similar to somebody on the cinema thread. I'm done with feeding you.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:09

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 05/06/2025 20:01

Only demeaning if you don't like Disney or Snoopy.

And usually only very snobby people who wish they were more well to do than they are don't like them.

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Do you not comprehend that this was a middle class fashion trend but it has now turned into a way for the working classes to take even less pride in themselves?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 20:07

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 19:52

I'm sniffing an incel.

Oh you would. No worries. I have a man at home, not a cat.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 05/06/2025 20:01

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 19:48

The whole concept originated by middle class fashionistas as The Guardian reveals. The A list celebs turn up to events in expensive designer silk pj's. The working class demean themselves wearing Disney, snoopy or other grotesque outfits in public. It's almost like it's planned.

Only demeaning if you don't like Disney or Snoopy.

And usually only very snobby people who wish they were more well to do than they are don't like them.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 05/06/2025 19:55

I'm more interested in where the giraffe and tiger print onesies in the Guardian article come from!

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 19:52

I'm sniffing an incel.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 05/06/2025 19:52

YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 19:51

Your attention is unwanted. Perhaps you have a cat who need the attention more than I do. I wouldn't want your cat to miss out on his tea.

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Don’t worry, I hate cats.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 19:51

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 05/06/2025 19:41

I feel sorry for you so I’m giving you the attention you crave 😘

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Your attention is unwanted. Perhaps you have a cat who need the attention more than I do. I wouldn't want your cat to miss out on his tea.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 05/06/2025 19:48

The whole concept originated by middle class fashionistas as The Guardian reveals. The A list celebs turn up to events in expensive designer silk pj's. The working class demean themselves wearing Disney, snoopy or other grotesque outfits in public. It's almost like it's planned.

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