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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 20:14

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:57

Quite the opposite, my dear. I never mock people I fancy.

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Oh that’s nice to know I won't need any smelling salts.

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MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:57

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:38

I'm beginning to think MatildaMovesMountains fancies me. I'm afraid I'm not available.

Quite the opposite, my dear. I never mock people I fancy.

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:56

Won't I though - don't feel too sure. I'm buttoning on my boots as I type.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:38

I'm beginning to think MatildaMovesMountains fancies me. I'm afraid I'm not available.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:36

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:32

I may wear a strand of pearls and kid gloves actually.

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Bring it on. Though I doubt you will actually do it.

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MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:35

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:35

I'm not angry. Just a bit sarcastic.

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You're a seething cauldron of futile rage, Madam. It will be your DOOM.

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:35

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:22

Your constant anger will shorten your life.

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I'm not angry. Just a bit sarcastic.

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MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:32

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:31

I'm going to have one more beer and then parade naked up and down the road in front of OP's house. Just because.

I may wear a strand of pearls and kid gloves actually.

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:31

I'm going to have one more beer and then parade naked up and down the road in front of OP's house. Just because.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 30/05/2025 19:28

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 17:12

Pj's are for the home. Pj's are for the home. What person doesn't understand this?

Mine were fine in John Lewis thanks. I can recommend them after surgery - loose and comfortable

soupyspoon · 30/05/2025 19:27

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/05/2025 19:24

I’d qualify that a bit - people who choose not to work.

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Yes good point that is true

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:25

Nah. This is all tied up with people who throw a rage on an Easyjet flight and those who are disrespectful to people in authority. Hence the signs up everywhere about abuse. This is just part of a downward trend in our society. I can go to breakfast dressed like a tramp because I can.

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/05/2025 19:24

soupyspoon · 30/05/2025 19:09

Yes exactly this, this isnt about the working classes, a lot of these observations are about people that dont work.

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I’d qualify that a bit - people who choose not to work.

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:22

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:11

It's a bit like the families that send their children to school in nappies when they should have long been out of nappies. It's feckless behaviour that is excused. The same as the feckless behavior of grown adults wandering around in Asda midday in pj's or turning up for breakfast in pj's. Let alone the ones who are apparently going to the movies in pj's and a comfort blanket. F$ck off and grow up, FFS.

Your constant anger will shorten your life.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 30/05/2025 19:22

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 17:07

So why didn't you get washed and changed into fresh normal clothes seeing as you're capable of doing it. I can only assume that people going down to brekkie in pj's fresh out of bed in a hotel or a shop don't know how to wash or dress themselves like a small child. It's childish, infantile behaviour.

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Making judgements on other people based on such minimal and trivial information is the stuff of school playgrounds, so you’re in no position to call anyone else childish. You seems so very determined to convince everyone how superior you are because of your huge amounts of decorum and self respect as clearly demonstrated by your attire. It all seems very shallow to me.

MatildaMovesMountains · 30/05/2025 19:22

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 18:10

Very soon, people will be taking a dump in public on the pavement and posters on here will be saying it's their rights, innit. That’s the way things are going here. The number of notices around saying "abuse will not be tolerated" towards public servants suggests an infantilised society where grown adults act and behave like toddlers, including refusing to dress appropriately in public.

Very soon you'll be busting a gasket! I bet you're brighter red than a turkey cock already 😅. And on a Friday evening too! Have a 🍺, get that stick out of your proverbial and let joy into your narrow little life.

PinkArt · 30/05/2025 19:17

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:11

It's a bit like the families that send their children to school in nappies when they should have long been out of nappies. It's feckless behaviour that is excused. The same as the feckless behavior of grown adults wandering around in Asda midday in pj's or turning up for breakfast in pj's. Let alone the ones who are apparently going to the movies in pj's and a comfort blanket. F$ck off and grow up, FFS.

You sound so unhinged cross about what other people chose to wear. Have a cup of chamomile tea.

ExpressCheckout · 30/05/2025 19:15

Longleggedgiraffe · 30/05/2025 18:56

This is better than people who come into supermarkets having just cleaned out the horses stables.

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Oh that's a bit grim too, although at least you can smell the horse poop and avoid. But I'm not changing my opinion on the wearing of nightwear at the shops, it's lazy and gross 😷

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:11

It's a bit like the families that send their children to school in nappies when they should have long been out of nappies. It's feckless behaviour that is excused. The same as the feckless behavior of grown adults wandering around in Asda midday in pj's or turning up for breakfast in pj's. Let alone the ones who are apparently going to the movies in pj's and a comfort blanket. F$ck off and grow up, FFS.

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soupyspoon · 30/05/2025 19:09

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/05/2025 09:36

To me, the C word is not associated with WC people. As I said, rather with slobbish and/or antisocial behaviour, which is perhaps more associated with what some sociologist has called the ‘underclass’.

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Yes exactly this, this isnt about the working classes, a lot of these observations are about people that dont work.

NameChangedForThis2025 · 30/05/2025 19:08

I wouldn't do it, I'd feel too self-conscious but I wouldn't be fussed if someone else did. Tbh I wouldn't mind being so zero f*cks given!

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:05

EdithBond · 30/05/2025 18:49

So let’s get this straight.

Indian street wear (Kurta pyjamas), traditionally worn for festive occasions or evening outings, were adopted by British colonialists as sleepwear because the British were too prudish and buttoned up to wear it in the day: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/history/article/origin-pajamas-pjs

Fast forward a century or so, and because some European tourists may now wear this ‘sleepwear’ to breakfast in hotels in India, the hotels ban pyjamas: traditional Indian dress?

And you think that’s a good thing? To nick someone’s clothing style, then expect them to ban it in their own hotels/country because it offends you to wear it? Bit colonialist, don’t you think?

Like wearing kilts to bed, then asking Scottish hotels to ban them because it offends you if people wear them out.

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A ridiculous and irrelevant post. Clearly the hotel which was an upmarket one has seen Brits coming down for breakfast in their underwear or jimjams and decided to ban it.

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ObelixtheGaul · 30/05/2025 19:03

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 18:48

79% suggests mumsnet doesn't have as many silly people as are posting here 🙄 🤣

But clearly it has enough silly people who think wearing pyjamas has a connection to passing fecal matter in public or being naked judging by some of the comments on here.

It's not that I wear pyjamas out myself, because as I said before, I don't. It's the foolishness of being so concerned by what other people are wearing when it does not impact on your personal life and values in any way that I find silly. And many agreeing with you simply indicates how rife the silly absorption with humans doing harmless things like wearing pyjamas is on this site.

Longleggedgiraffe · 30/05/2025 18:56

ExpressCheckout · 29/05/2025 19:36

Yep, agree with others who say it's grim. People food shopping in clothes they've obviously slept in 😷

This is better than people who come into supermarkets having just cleaned out the horses stables.

Buxusmortus · 30/05/2025 18:50

ruethewhirl · 30/05/2025 17:49

You'd ask a hotel for a refund because a guest came down in PJs??

What an earth do you expect the hotel to do about it, throw them out? (after allowing them time to dress so as not to offend your delicate sensibilities, of course)

Seriously, I think you might need a bit more to occupy your mind...

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The restaurant manager could ask them to leave and return when dressed properly. Plenty of hotels and restaurants have dress codes, it's easy to make it clear that slippers, dressing gowns etc are not acceptable in the restaurant.
I doubt you get people having breakfast in their pyjamas at the Ritz.
As others have said, if you want to have breakfast in your night clothes then have room service.