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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:23

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 08:20

The thing is though, others will consider it a strange choice to care what others are wearing, when it doesn’t affect you. Everyone is different.

Go out in your pajamas if you want. But it's is an odd choice.

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:22

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 08:20

Joggers and pj bottoms are usually made of different material. Maybe joggers irritate the skin condition the PP clearly stated they have?

I was using that as an example. Cotton pull on trousers and cotton tops are easy to come by.

It's is an odd choice to choose pyjamas over any other casual clothes that are as easy to wear.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 08:20

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:19

A t shirt and joggers is as easy to put on as PJs. So I don't really understand why you'd go out in them. I have exactly zero tops with buttons to do up. They're either t-shirts, long sleeve tops, jumpers, hoodies or have zips.

It's a strange choice to deliberately wear bed clothes out and about.

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Joggers and pj bottoms are usually made of different material. Maybe joggers irritate the skin condition the PP clearly stated they have?

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 08:20

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:19

A t shirt and joggers is as easy to put on as PJs. So I don't really understand why you'd go out in them. I have exactly zero tops with buttons to do up. They're either t-shirts, long sleeve tops, jumpers, hoodies or have zips.

It's a strange choice to deliberately wear bed clothes out and about.

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The thing is though, others will consider it a strange choice to care what others are wearing, when it doesn’t affect you. Everyone is different.

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:19

sashh · 31/05/2025 08:05

I don't.

Many people are the same. Physically I can't do buttons.

In addition I have psoriasis so I have to be careful with clothing for that too. Pyjamas are great for me.

A t shirt and joggers is as easy to put on as PJs. So I don't really understand why you'd go out in them. I have exactly zero tops with buttons to do up. They're either t-shirts, long sleeve tops, jumpers, hoodies or have zips.

It's a strange choice to deliberately wear bed clothes out and about.

Gettingbysomehow · 31/05/2025 08:16

In the 60s and 70s you never saw anyone out in PJs because people had standards and self respect.

sashh · 31/05/2025 08:05

Asdada · 30/05/2025 08:59

I haven’t RTFT but someone is too bone idle to whack some clothes in the morning people can judge away! If the person doesn’t want to be judged, they can put some clothes on!!! There are disabilities, yes, but anyone that has the physical ability to get out of the house has the physical ability to put clothes on.

I don't.

Many people are the same. Physically I can't do buttons.

In addition I have psoriasis so I have to be careful with clothing for that too. Pyjamas are great for me.

ObelixtheGaul · 31/05/2025 07:32

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 05:51

I find dresses really uncomfortable even without having just undergone surgery.

Like you said, it's a personal choice. Not sure how it affects anyone else.

I'm still waiting for an answer to the question of how it affects someone else. Nobody since to want to tell me...

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 05:51

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 04:17

Personal choice, I've gone for dresses, especially wrap ones.

I find dresses really uncomfortable even without having just undergone surgery.

Like you said, it's a personal choice. Not sure how it affects anyone else.

BeanQuisine · 31/05/2025 04:36

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 19:05

A ridiculous and irrelevant post. Clearly the hotel which was an upmarket one has seen Brits coming down for breakfast in their underwear or jimjams and decided to ban it.

Ha, no, a most pertinent post indeed.😁

One which reveals you were completely unaware that pyjamas originated in India (a place you've doubtless never been) and that in England, they were originally regarded as posh evening wear by the jewellery and make-up set.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 04:17

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 30/05/2025 19:28

Mine were fine in John Lewis thanks. I can recommend them after surgery - loose and comfortable

Personal choice, I've gone for dresses, especially wrap ones.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 04:12

Point is, there'll be people in similar situations, who would still take time to get dressed.

Having other things on your mind doesn't automatically mean going around in pjs, otherwise most visitors in hospitals would also be in pjs.

It's a personal thing.

phlebbo · 30/05/2025 23:52

neverbeenskiing · 30/05/2025 09:28

I'm sorry for your loss 💐
Sounds like a horrible night for you both but I'm sure it was a great comfort to your boyfriend that you were there...even if you were in your pyjamas!!

There are some really nasty, judgemental posts on this thread.

Thank you so much ❤️
After a few hours of broken sleep, I picked his sister up from the train station and the three of us have spent the rest of the day trying to figure out what happens next and enjoying a few glasses of their father’s favourite wine! Lots of tears but also laughter.
Now we’re all sitting in our PJs waiting for our Domino’s to be delivered. I’m thinking I should change into my finery to answer the door, don’t want to delivery driver to think we’re chavs 😉

ruethewhirl · 30/05/2025 21:57

Buxusmortus · 30/05/2025 18:50

The restaurant manager could ask them to leave and return when dressed properly. Plenty of hotels and restaurants have dress codes, it's easy to make it clear that slippers, dressing gowns etc are not acceptable in the restaurant.
I doubt you get people having breakfast in their pyjamas at the Ritz.
As others have said, if you want to have breakfast in your night clothes then have room service.

The Ritz no (obviously 🙄), budget hotels I really wouldn't waste any of my precious holiday time judging. I don't do it myself and I do think it looks odd, but life's too short imo to waste mental bandwidth judging strangers' clothing choices.

Needmorelego · 30/05/2025 21:14

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 20:29

Plain to see these people wandering around Asda, Lidle or whatever don't work. They're there in their pj's at noon in the supermarket. Sorry to sound "judgemental."

Why are you there at noon?

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 30/05/2025 21:13

DaffodilHead · 30/05/2025 21:02

It properly takes no effort at all to throw a floaty caftan over your pyjama shorts and bung on a massive pair of sunglasses to nip to the shop or school run or whatever. People are grim. If people can't be bothered to dress themself then I assume they're probably not washing properly either....

Why do you begrudge people comfort and time?

Hollowvoice · 30/05/2025 21:13

Haven't rtft cos CBA but from what I did read... If someone slept in say joggers and t-shirt then went straight out after getting up would anyone know?

DaffodilHead · 30/05/2025 21:02

It properly takes no effort at all to throw a floaty caftan over your pyjama shorts and bung on a massive pair of sunglasses to nip to the shop or school run or whatever. People are grim. If people can't be bothered to dress themself then I assume they're probably not washing properly either....

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/05/2025 20:58

@MumbleBumbleAppleCrumble I agree that people have become very casual in the work place.
This thread as usual has turned it into a class marker, standards have slipped across the board.

@YourAmplePlumPoster
Plain to see these people wandering around Asda, Lidle or whatever don't work. They're there in their pj's at noon in the supermarket. Sorry to sound "judgemental."

Not necessarily lounge-wear, casual co-ords and pyjamas look similar.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 30/05/2025 20:45

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 20:29

Plain to see these people wandering around Asda, Lidle or whatever don't work. They're there in their pj's at noon in the supermarket. Sorry to sound "judgemental."

Heard of shift work, OP? Or annual leave?

What are you doing in Asda at noon anyway? Not working, I presume?

PinkArt · 30/05/2025 20:34

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 20:29

Plain to see these people wandering around Asda, Lidle or whatever don't work. They're there in their pj's at noon in the supermarket. Sorry to sound "judgemental."

With such poor grasp of spelling and grammar, presumably you don't work either, OP?

MumbleBumbleAppleCrumble · 30/05/2025 20:29

Agree. I’d add to that work attire. When I started in my career I actively (and successfully) fought against the rule that we had to wear suits (and ties for guys) in the workplace. Sure if there’s a client meeting or something, but on a cold rainy Friday when I’m doing admin? It’s desperately uncomfortable. And besides, a suit is not necessarily smart, people can look far better dressed in a nice jacket and jeans etc. than some ancient shiny black thing you picked up years ago from Next or somewhere awful.
BUT my goodness now. To be fair, I’m in a different sector, but since lockdown it’s as if not only style but common decency in dress has gone out the window. People turn up in shorts or tracky bums! I get odd looks if I have a nice pair of shoes or a blazer - oooh where are you going later.
What’s happened to pride in one’s appearance? Style is great fun we need to get it back!

YourAmplePlumPoster · 30/05/2025 20:29

Plain to see these people wandering around Asda, Lidle or whatever don't work. They're there in their pj's at noon in the supermarket. Sorry to sound "judgemental."

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EdithBond · 30/05/2025 20:29

soupyspoon · 30/05/2025 19:09

Yes exactly this, this isnt about the working classes, a lot of these observations are about people that dont work.

Anyone on this thread from The Underclass?

Just to clarify, that’s anyone who doesn’t work (presumably, in a paid job). Buy-to-let landlords. People who live off trust funds. Unpaid carers. Sold your business for a few mill? Footballers wives. Live off shareholdings? SAHMs. People with serious disabilities or illnesses. Recovering from a serious accident? State pensioners? Non-working Royals and Aristocracy?

Come on you Underclassers, you need to fess up. Do you ever walk the dog of a morning with an overcoat thrown over your PJs.

If so, you must be wrong in the heid. Or as us more awake types prefer to call it: mentally unwell. In fact, maybe that’s why you don’t work. Because you’re mentally unwell.

In any case, you’re disgusting slobs. The epitome of how Great British Standards of a twice-weekly bath are slipping. You should leap in the shower as soon as you’re out of bed, pop on a freshly ironed shirt before sitting down to breakfast (brioche if you can’t afford bread), then make your face up, pop on some diamonds and away you go to Asda/Harvey Nics etc.

Otherwise, the Spies will report you to the Ministry of Fashion.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/05/2025 20:22

soupyspoon · 30/05/2025 19:09

Yes exactly this, this isnt about the working classes, a lot of these observations are about people that dont work.

How would you know if random lady wearing pj's in supermarket/school run doesn't work?
Not everyone works 9 to 5.
Are you suggesting that only the unemployed are slobby?
Edit, typo.

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