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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:58

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 18:49

So I still maintain, if you're able to put on clean pyjamas to go out, you're able to put on day clothes. And going out in pyjamas is an odd choice.

I still maintain it's no one else's business.

I agree.

But it is an odd choice

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:58

XenoBitch · 31/05/2025 18:23

How does it affect you what @sashh wears?

It doesn't affect me.

It it is an odd choice.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 18:49

So I still maintain, if you're able to put on clean pyjamas to go out, you're able to put on day clothes. And going out in pyjamas is an odd choice.

I still maintain it's no one else's business.

XenoBitch · 31/05/2025 18:23

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:14

Look, if you can get pyjamas made from materials that are ideal for psoriasis, you can get day clothes made of the same material... Pyjamas aren't made of magical materials only used for pyjamas and no other clothes.

If your disability allows you to put on pyjamas... it will allow you to put on day clothes of a similar style.

Pyjamas are often pull on elasticated waist trousers and some sort of shirt.... These are very available as day clothes.
So the "trump" of disability doesn't really win here.

So I still maintain, if you're able to put on clean pyjamas to go out, you're able to put on day clothes. And going out in pyjamas is an odd choice.

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How does it affect you what @sashh wears?

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 18:20

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:18

Because you can absolutely get fay clothes that are made from the same materials and are just as easy to put on.

It's odd to choose to go out in bed clothes.

But you're still having to pay for double the clothes....if it's a cost thing, that does not help.

Stop being judgemental and let people make their own choices for what works for them.

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:18

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 08:24

Maybe it's a cost thing? PJs for bed and PJs for not irritating a skin condition have a duel purpose. Not everyone can afford an extensive wardrobe, particularly if they can't work/are limited in their earnings abilities.

As long as people are clean and comfortable, what's the problem?

Because you can absolutely get fay clothes that are made from the same materials and are just as easy to put on.

It's odd to choose to go out in bed clothes.

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 18:14

sashh · 31/05/2025 09:24

  1. I don't, but I understand it, I live most of my life in PJs.

  2. You have obviously never has psoriasis.

  3. You have no idea about disabilities

But hell, judge away from your point of superiority.

Look, if you can get pyjamas made from materials that are ideal for psoriasis, you can get day clothes made of the same material... Pyjamas aren't made of magical materials only used for pyjamas and no other clothes.

If your disability allows you to put on pyjamas... it will allow you to put on day clothes of a similar style.

Pyjamas are often pull on elasticated waist trousers and some sort of shirt.... These are very available as day clothes.
So the "trump" of disability doesn't really win here.

So I still maintain, if you're able to put on clean pyjamas to go out, you're able to put on day clothes. And going out in pyjamas is an odd choice.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 13:31

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 13:22

Glad we agree.

To be honest I'm slightly jealous of anyone who can wear a wrap dress as I feel in permanent danger of my boobs falling out!

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 13:22

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 13:13

You appear to struggle reading, but I actually agreed it comes down to personal choice 🙄

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Glad we agree.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 13:13

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 13:07

Just as some find pjs worn outside awful.

You appear to struggle reading, but I actually agreed it comes down to personal choice 🙄

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 13:07

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 10:06

I didn't own any dresses and wasn't wasting money on something I wouldn't wear again. I also have fat thighs and would have needed chub rub shorts which would have irritated. And you're right, it's personal choice, personally I think wrap dresses are awful.

Just as some find pjs worn outside awful.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 12:28

Get changed, washed your face and do better.

How on earth would anyone know if someone has washed their face or not? Mine looks no different before or after!

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 11:24

Daybrake · 31/05/2025 10:43

This is bare minimum you don’t deserve any kudos for getting your child to school.

We all pay taxes so all children have the opportunity to get an education. This also enables parents to work or get some time to do themselves or whatever they spend their day doing.

In some countries children - especially girls - don’t have that opportunity for an education . And a lot of parents really struggled with children at home during lockdown.

You should be grateful if anything, for being able to drop your kids off for 6 hours a day! not thinking you’ve achieved some great feat because you dropped off your kids in PJs.

Get changed, washed your face and do better. Raise your bar! Being slightly less worse than the strange guy in Tesco wearing swimming shorts is no flex either.

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Oh my goodness you're reaching now aren't you.

Some children don't have access to education so make sure you're properly done up for the school run?

Daybrake · 31/05/2025 10:43

looselegs · 31/05/2025 10:11

School run- at least they've got their kids to school and on time!
Tesco- I've seen a guy in swimming shorts in a supermarket. Small ones. Would much rather see pj's!

This is bare minimum you don’t deserve any kudos for getting your child to school.

We all pay taxes so all children have the opportunity to get an education. This also enables parents to work or get some time to do themselves or whatever they spend their day doing.

In some countries children - especially girls - don’t have that opportunity for an education . And a lot of parents really struggled with children at home during lockdown.

You should be grateful if anything, for being able to drop your kids off for 6 hours a day! not thinking you’ve achieved some great feat because you dropped off your kids in PJs.

Get changed, washed your face and do better. Raise your bar! Being slightly less worse than the strange guy in Tesco wearing swimming shorts is no flex either.

looselegs · 31/05/2025 10:11

School run- at least they've got their kids to school and on time!
Tesco- I've seen a guy in swimming shorts in a supermarket. Small ones. Would much rather see pj's!

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/05/2025 10:06

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 31/05/2025 04:17

Personal choice, I've gone for dresses, especially wrap ones.

I didn't own any dresses and wasn't wasting money on something I wouldn't wear again. I also have fat thighs and would have needed chub rub shorts which would have irritated. And you're right, it's personal choice, personally I think wrap dresses are awful.

sashh · 31/05/2025 09:24

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:19

A t shirt and joggers is as easy to put on as PJs. So I don't really understand why you'd go out in them. I have exactly zero tops with buttons to do up. They're either t-shirts, long sleeve tops, jumpers, hoodies or have zips.

It's a strange choice to deliberately wear bed clothes out and about.

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  1. I don't, but I understand it, I live most of my life in PJs.

  2. You have obviously never has psoriasis.

  3. You have no idea about disabilities

But hell, judge away from your point of superiority.

Dangermoo · 31/05/2025 09:18

Tiredofwhataboutery · 31/05/2025 08:51

I don’t really care if I’m honest but I just think it’s a bit attention seeking. If you were buying pjs to double up as daywear you’d get plain ones surely?

I just give people who are visibly eschewing social norms a wide berth.

People avoiding social norms? 😆 🤣 I've seen it all now. Let's all walk around like the Stepford Wives instead. You're not giving them a wide berth though are you. You're on here sharing your iritation at something that has bugger all to do with you.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 09:13

LBFseBrom · 31/05/2025 09:09

I think 'social norms' should be challenged and admire those who buck trends and traditions. My mother was always going on about what was 'done' and 'not done', most of what she talked about was ridiculous.

I'm not mad about the idea of people going out and about in nightwear though - but have yet to see that except for putting bins out very early in the morning. It obviously isn't that widespread.

I’ve seen it once, in Asda at the pharmacy late at night, and from what I could tell they’d come to pick up a prescription urgently. So it can’t be widespread in the 5 counties and 3 countries I’ve lived in as an adult.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 09:13

Tiredofwhataboutery · 31/05/2025 08:51

I don’t really care if I’m honest but I just think it’s a bit attention seeking. If you were buying pjs to double up as daywear you’d get plain ones surely?

I just give people who are visibly eschewing social norms a wide berth.

Why plain ones? Are all your day wear clothes plain? Mine aren't. But you wouldn't bat an eyelid if I was in a patterned pair of cotton trousers and a t-shirt?

LBFseBrom · 31/05/2025 09:09

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 09:01

I just give people who are visibly eschewing social norms a wide berth

I doubt those people would be too bothered about you giving them a wide berth, so I guess everyone’s happy! They can wear what they want, you don’t have to go near them.

I think 'social norms' should be challenged and admire those who buck trends and traditions. My mother was always going on about what was 'done' and 'not done', most of what she talked about was ridiculous.

I'm not mad about the idea of people going out and about in nightwear though - but have yet to see that except for putting bins out very early in the morning. It obviously isn't that widespread.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 09:01

I just give people who are visibly eschewing social norms a wide berth

I doubt those people would be too bothered about you giving them a wide berth, so I guess everyone’s happy! They can wear what they want, you don’t have to go near them.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 31/05/2025 08:51

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 08:24

Maybe it's a cost thing? PJs for bed and PJs for not irritating a skin condition have a duel purpose. Not everyone can afford an extensive wardrobe, particularly if they can't work/are limited in their earnings abilities.

As long as people are clean and comfortable, what's the problem?

I don’t really care if I’m honest but I just think it’s a bit attention seeking. If you were buying pjs to double up as daywear you’d get plain ones surely?

I just give people who are visibly eschewing social norms a wide berth.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 31/05/2025 08:24

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:22

I was using that as an example. Cotton pull on trousers and cotton tops are easy to come by.

It's is an odd choice to choose pyjamas over any other casual clothes that are as easy to wear.

Maybe it's a cost thing? PJs for bed and PJs for not irritating a skin condition have a duel purpose. Not everyone can afford an extensive wardrobe, particularly if they can't work/are limited in their earnings abilities.

As long as people are clean and comfortable, what's the problem?

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 31/05/2025 08:24

ButteredRadishes · 31/05/2025 08:23

Go out in your pajamas if you want. But it's is an odd choice.

I’ve never been out of the house in pyjamas. I just don’t care what other people wear. It doesn’t affect me.

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