To buy a new door by myself???

I understand that most people like to ask their partners so seeing both together is efficient.

Solidoor have nice doors.

No, but I do recall the time my late husband told some workmen: "Bad news lads - the wife's not happy!"

(They'd made a mess of building the steps up to a new porch and DH had to deal with it because I was at work.)

Out of interest I wonder if a man has ever been told he cant have a quote unless his wife is there...I very much bloody doubt it 😂

I've had this scenario with a quote to change our porch roof and windows - the guy even looked shocked when I could explain the difference between oriel, bay, bow and boxed windows and even more shocked when I said I was interested in architecture - but STILL he refused to quote me "unless your husband is at home"

When his bosses rang to chase me up over the "quote appointment", I told them that seeing as I was the one ordering the work and paying for the work, I was going to go with a company who didn't insist on my husband being there - my husband trusts me.

Is your door wooden? Unless you really want to spend a lot of money on a new front door, surely the old lock can be removed with some sort of brass plate or whatever put over the hole and a new lock fitted?

It’s infuriating isn’t it? I used to buy houses and renovate them for a living. One of my trades recommended a kitchen company so I arranged for them to come and quote. He came out to scope it but refused to give me a quote without speaking to my DH. I explained that this was my actual business, I was managing the project, and it was absolutely nothing to do with my DH. He still kept insisting that I rang him in work. My head was nearly exploding at this point!

We’ve had loads of work done on our own home and DH usually deals with that. Funnily enough I’ve never once been asked for permission for him to agree to a quote. 🙄

Happened to me with a conservatory and solar panels same situation as you, told them both to do one !

I've had exactly the same crap from someone who offered me a quote for rendering my house. (Came to the door.) I told him that I own the house and that the deeds are in my name. He still insisted that he had to see my husband.

In the end, I gritted my teeth and told the young man (truthfully) that I'm a widow.

"Oh," quoth he, "It'll be 'Ms' then."

After he'd gone, I got a phone call to confirm that I'd agreed to see their rep at 7 that evening. I had made no such agreement - I had an exercise class on that night.

I complained about the lack of insensitivity of their young man plus the fact that he'd lied about the appointment. (I had agreed to a phone call. Nothing else.)

I'll not be using them.

had similar when looking for a new car - repeatedly speaking to my husband when not only was it not for him he couldn’t bloody drive !

Um they can take a long walk off a short pier, don't let it worry you and just buy a new door somewhere else!

What if you don't have a husband?

Doesn't matter if you're single as they only need to get you to agree as the sole owner. An agreement from one joint owner is pointless, they need you both.

I imagine their aim is to sell you a lot more than a front door and on credit secured against your home. This would be why they'd want you both their so anyone with a legal/financial interest in the home would be present to sign up.

I own my own house. My boyfriend was at mine when I had a visit from the B&Q kitchen chap - every single question was directed at boyfriend despite him not doing any cooking, food prep, any shopping/cupboard Tetris and telling the chap I OWNED THE HOUSE maybe 5 times.

I did give him short shrift in the end and told him to leave. I got a follow up call a few days later asking how the visit went and in no uncertain terms told them why I wouldn't be entertaining a quote from them.

@ImWearingPantaloons Delighted to hear this.

I can't even process the idea that your husband has to be present. Is it 1950?WTAF!

I was told by a company (can’t remember which) that they like the husband to be there in case the wife agrees to something then when the husband is told he cancels the order because he doesn’t like it. What a fucking cheek.

I agree. Essentially they want you to make a quick decision. Generally for married couples that means both people need to be there. For singles it's more complicated - I'd imagine they probably target single people less anyway on the assumption they have less money. It's all a racket.

But that won't stop them saying "let me ask my dad/boyfriend " though. It's normally only said to very pushy salespeople who won't let you have time to think so it's really a company problem.

Use another firm and write to the CEO of this one to tell them why.

This.

I am 100% the decision maker on things like this in my house, and there is no world where DH would make this decision without me.

However in nearly all scenarios I will get a quote and say I need to discuss it with my husband before I agree (as code for, I’m not making a pressured decision while you’re stood over me, so leave me alone and I’ll get back to you if I want to go ahead).

How much did they quote you?
`You don't need to buy a door from a stupid company like this. They're a rip off, just like window companies.

You can get a solid oak door from Wickes for £280. I would recommend hiring a carpenter or good handyman to cut it to size and fit the lock. You can get it all done for under £500 easily.

https://www.wickes.co.uk/Wickes-Carolina-External-4-Panel-Glazed-Oak-Door---1981-x-762mm/p/205882?gclsrc=aw.ds&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMAX%20Shopping%20-%20Doors&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20231667777&gbraid=0AAAAADs4IsbDLuKDS6hOuhl4ElryakvFx&gclid=CjwKCAjwi-DBBhA5EiwAXOHsGaD0osasxKYLRpNUm4eHAw6RZyMnV2X21-hpXddCwAnxAFV97nsbzBoCN38QAvD_BwE

If you are near Derby I can recommend https://tradewindows.com , they have a great showroom with loads of doors on display and will give you a quote on the spot. I had both doors done a couple of years ago and they have been great.

The sexism is outrageous of course. But, word to the wise, NEVER engage with anyone who calls unsolicited at your house offering services, roof repairs, her-washing or anything else.

They are most likely con artists and will use high-pressure techniques to get you to buy something outrageously priced. Always try to find local recommendations for any kind of tradesperson and do your research. You’ve dodged a bullet on this occasion but please learn a lesson from this.