Called “greedy” at work

What gave them the right to decide on a joint Buffet . Fuck right off

I've said, very clearly, that my comment was taking the piss out of the posters using the word "need" in relation to ops food intake. As in no-one NEEDS to eat more than half a poached chicken breast and raw carrots every 2 days or do. In fact, i believe humans can survive weeks without food.

However, youre free to infer whatever you wish from my comment of course. I can't do much about that

Tell them to fuck off nasty bastards

Not very often one gets a free lunch so why not! Colleague sounds annoying 😑

I would have probably thought to myself that’s a lot of food to be eating, but I wouldn’t have said anything out loud.

I've been in that situation where there was just one veggie option that I could eat but others ate the lot. The same happened when I'd ordered the veggie option on a flight and in the event there was none left for me.

@Megifer Ok. Yes, you did emphasize the word 'need'. But I'm still puzzled. Genuine question: why is someone 'not fun' if they don't eat a lot because they only eat what they believe a human needs? Or even if they don't eat a lot for other reasons? (I am NOT that person, by the way. I love food and I'm not slim. The nurse at my last medical said I was overweight.)
But I know some great people who don't enjoy food much and they can still be fun to be with. And if I'm eating out, I don't really care what other people are eating.

@Megifer

i can see where those other posters are coming from tbh.

youre insinuating that anyone who think getting up four times to a buffet is greedy must be on the verge of disorder eating and is rubbish company.

It was very clear as I used the reference to how much humans need food to live.

kindly I think there's a tendency to see things that aren't there when youre slim and assume everything is a dig. I know i used to feel like that. Bit of a chip on my shoulder about it etc. Caused many arguments over completely benign comments that I'd completely misread.

I wouldn’t take home stale buffet home for my son 🤢.

I would think OP was a bit greedy though - going up 4 times is a lot - and I am fat! I wouldn’t say anything though

I agree.

And they were, as there was still loads left at 4pm

Apologies if I didn't read it right. But maybe you didn't express it 'very clearly' though, seeing as I wasn't the only one who misunderstood?

Agree.

Clearly it wasn’t a dig at slim people as not all slim people eat like the way you describe or have that kind of attitude to food about only ever eating what you “need”.

You weren’t body shaming and there was no mention of people’s size. Slim does not necessarily equal tiny appetite /under-eating/unhealthy attitude to food . So that could’ve described anyone. I was the one eating all the office treats after lunch back in my size 6-8 era 😂

Anyone can have a weird attitude in regards to how others eat, I’ve seen larger sized people comment critically on how much or what others are eating and slimmer people who just mind their own business.

You thought wrong then. I was very clearly sneering at those banging on about op taking more than she "needed" - i deliberately used that word.

I thought it was a dig at slim people too. You seemed to be sneering at people who don't eat a lot or who eat healthy stuff.

No, op didn't come back. There were a lot of responses that agreed with her, as I could understand otherwise. It seems there may be more to it, as I thought.

Did the OP ever come back to tell us what she contributed to the buffet before noshing through four plates? I think that's probably the most telling part of all of this.

Never seen anybody do this tbh. I just see people indulging as a treat, as that is what restaurants are for.

I'm slim, uk size 8-10, healthy but the amount of times I've heard people sneering, and judging because, "You'll not be able to eat that much! Or "skinny minnie won't eat that!"There are too many to count. They even do it in third person right infront of me, "Oh Today'sworldandbiscuits won't eat that, this is why she is so slim." It is apparently fine to say this though isn't it? Imagine I said; "Oh Vera will eat that huge cake, that's why she is so fat." I'm a BMI 22; we have lost track of what a health weight actually looks like, so people think healthy woman are food dodgers. Even my own dm will say: "are you eating?" because she seems to think anything under a UK size 12-14 means eating disorder.

There has been times I've been told to stuff my face at work buffets, or directed around like child aa though I'm not going to eat it. After having my fair share, I even had somebody urging me to go back for more then a, "that's why she's so slim" comment when I refused. I hadn't eaten any less than anybody else there.

How has op's body been commented on though?

I agree that digs at slim people are coming from the same bad place as digs at larger people. All these comments come from a place of judgement.

Eating less is fine, eating more is fine, being in a bigger body is fine and being in a smaller body is fine. What isn’t fine is feeling entitled to comment (directly or indirectly re pointed comments on food) on another person’s body. That is kind of disgusting

It’s a weird thing on mumsnet that when someone acts greedy they can’t ever be called greedy.its just a describing word like kind, of miserable, or apathetic or whatever. If someone is behaving in a greedy way then that’s the word that best describes them at that point 🤷‍♀️

You really did take it wrong. It wasnt even a dig at light eaters. It was clearly a dig at the "you should only take what you NEED" posters, as technically humans only NEED a small amount of certain food groups to remain alive.

Light eaters are slim people. My apology if I took it up wrong.

My post was not a dig at slim people, at all.

Truly baffled at why you thought that.