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To be fuming with MIL and Husband?

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skydiver1985 · 29/05/2025 00:41

Had a DH family wedding today. Lovely day, I had to leave at around 7pm as our childcare could only stay until then so got home to the DC. Husband staying until end with rest of family. All fine.

DH and MIL just got back to our house. Asked how they got home, DH came up with a lie about someone driving them back. Could tell was lying and challenged. Turns out he had driven them both back in his MIL car. He’s been drinking all day. So has she.

We are supposed to be going away tomorrow for our anniversary (MIL is here to stay for weekend to have the DC).

now I feel completely pissed off at both MIL and DH for DH driving back? Why not get a cab? It’s just beyond selfish on all fronts. Now I feel like I don’t want to go away tomorrow.

MIL didn’t hear our confrontation but I shouted and told him he was selfish and I’m fuming etc. should I confront her tomorrow too? Although she’s supposed to be having our kids for the weekend while we go away?

sorry for such a long rant!!

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HappyFellWalker · 29/05/2025 01:41

As awful as that is..what mother would allow her son to drive drunk and not have a problem with it.
If it was me I would cancel that trip and he'd know that would be something you would never put up with again and by doing that you're also sending that message to your MIL without the confrontation. Let him explain why she's no longer needed to babysit

Redglitter · 29/05/2025 01:23

3 beers all day? Yeah so he did. That means at least 5

I wouldn't be leaving the children with your MIL she's proved she can't be trusted to make good decisions when it comes to safety

LastPostISwear · 29/05/2025 01:18

skydiver1985 · 29/05/2025 01:14

He’s said he had 3 beers throughout the day and that this is fine to drive on. I’m not sure this is true though, not sure how I would know for sure either way

If he came home drunk, it doesn’t matter what he drank. He still drunk drove

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skydiver1985 · 29/05/2025 01:14

He’s said he had 3 beers throughout the day and that this is fine to drive on. I’m not sure this is true though, not sure how I would know for sure either way

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ILoveBrum · 29/05/2025 01:00

MumChp · 29/05/2025 00:45

I would confront both.
They drove home drunk?

I would be way too angry to go on a weekend away.

Me too & no chance would I be letting her (or him) anywhere near my kids alone.

crumblingschools · 29/05/2025 00:56

Will she be driving the kids anywhere?

Weepixie · 29/05/2025 00:49

I wouldn’t be going away and leaving the children with a granny who’s so irresponsible. It could be the next decision she makes is that the kids don’t really need car seats if they all nip out to Tesco’s. In fact she wouldn’t be having them alone again for a very long time.

And as for your husband - I wouldn’t be able to look at him and he’d have to go even temporarily.

MumChp · 29/05/2025 00:45

I would confront both.
They drove home drunk?

I would be way too angry to go on a weekend away.

PassingStranger · 29/05/2025 00:42

Disgusting, selfish idiots. Grrrrr.

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