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AIBU about wedding accomodation allocation

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anotherpyjamaday · 28/05/2025 23:42

Genuinely don't know if I'm being unreasonable or whether I should say something!
Husband's nephew is getting married in August. Over a year ago a group chat was set up asking about who needed accommodation booking at the cost of £150 per night. We put our names down for this as the venue is an hour away from where we live and it's always nice to stay together as family, have breakfast together etc.
We've just found out that we've been allocated a room in a hotel which is separate from the venue (about 5 mins away in a taxi) when everyone else in the family has been allocated rooms at the venue. When I googled the hotel I saw that I could book a room there for the same night of the wedding for £90 however we have already paid the £150 directly to the couple getting married as they have block booked all the accomodation.
Am I being unreasonable to feel unhappy about this? Should we speak to our nephew about it or just let it be and enjoy the day?

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BrummieGinge889 · 29/05/2025 00:27

Yeah screw that. I'd ask for money back. Might as well drive home or book it yourself.

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 29/05/2025 00:16

I’m at the point in my life where no one tells me where I’m gonna sleep 😆 you should join me here! It’s great. In this situation I would (get DH to, as it’s his side) say ‘ok thanks for letting me know our allocation. It doesn’t suit us so we’ll find our own accommodation - please can we have our £150 back. Here are my details. See you at the wedding! Exciting!’

Thunderpants88 · 29/05/2025 00:01

I would text and say “hey DN excited for your big day. Thanks for arranging accommodation. We thought we would be in the venue with everyone else, I’m guessing there isn’t enough space so we will pass thanks. Would you be able to fire me back the £150 please here are my bank details”

then book your own accommodation where ever you want

HeddaGarbled · 28/05/2025 23:53

My guess is they had more people wanted accommodation than they were expecting, so have found you somewhere else. That will have been a bit stressful for them, so I wouldn’t be stroppy about it, but I might politely enquire about a £60 refund once the wedding and honeymoon is over.

DelphiniumBlue · 28/05/2025 23:52

If it's your husbands nephew, then he could tell him that you see the room at x hotel is only £90 and that presumably some of the difference will be for the taxis from the wedding and back in the morning for breakfast, and for the cost of breakfast at the hotel with everyone else. Ask if they are booking the taxis and can they confirm about the breakfasts so that that there's no problem on the day.
If they answer that positively, then that will probably cover most of the difference between £90 and £150.

Devianinc · 28/05/2025 23:52

No, I’d ask for my money back and not go. How disrespectful and how dare she allocate any of your funds for something you haven’t asked and booked. Wedding couples are from another planet.

CaramelGhost · 28/05/2025 23:50

Absolutely speak up.

stonebrambleboy · 28/05/2025 23:49

I'd definitely speak to the nephew.

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