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Cruel unsolicited advice?

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Canthelpmyface · 28/05/2025 21:58

When my baby was 4 days old, a midwife "advised" me to never leave the house without makeup again.

Context- my newborn was rushed to A&E the evening before so had spent all night in hospital with no sleep and had to drive to a different hospital the following morning for the heel prick test. The midwife said 'can I offer you some advice? Never leave the house again without makeup, you are far too pale'.
Clearly makeup wasn't a priority that morning 🙄 AIBU to think this was cruel?

OP posts:
MaryGreenhill · 28/05/2025 22:02

Did you mishear the midwife OP ?
Only I can't imagine any professional NHS staff would ever say anything about your looks .

Illegally18 · 28/05/2025 22:02

Canthelpmyface · 28/05/2025 21:58

When my baby was 4 days old, a midwife "advised" me to never leave the house without makeup again.

Context- my newborn was rushed to A&E the evening before so had spent all night in hospital with no sleep and had to drive to a different hospital the following morning for the heel prick test. The midwife said 'can I offer you some advice? Never leave the house again without makeup, you are far too pale'.
Clearly makeup wasn't a priority that morning 🙄 AIBU to think this was cruel?

that is the weirdest thing to say!

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 28/05/2025 22:02

That’s an awful thing to say to a new mum, or to anyone frankly. She may have been joking, but it clearly wasn’t the time for jokes. Try to put it behind you.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 28/05/2025 22:00

Seems like incredibly odd advice to give. Are you sure they weren’t joking?