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I am 31, and considering moving to Australia…

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WhereamIgoing25 · 28/05/2025 21:34

So, as the title says: I am 31 years old, currently living in London, single (actually just been dumped by someone I was dating for a few months!), no dependents and a bit fed up with life here / in the UK… and thinking of moving to Aus for a year or so.

Don’t get me wrong - I have a pretty active social life, and I am close to my family and friends - but apart from that I don’t feel like anything is keeping me here. Especially not my job / career! It wouldn’t be a permanent move (I don’t think) but I am ready for a change.

Thought I would turn to MN for some advice! I’ve never been to Aus / NZ but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind to visit / move there.

Pros? Cons? Did you do it? Would you do it if you could? Best cities to move to? Are there really spiders and snakes everywhere?

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JessaWoo · 29/05/2025 05:08

Passwordsaremynemesis · 29/05/2025 04:52

Exactly. Saying Australia is racist, then in the very next breath saying we have no (white) history or culture! It really is irritating.

I find it more incredible that it is people from the colonising country saying Australia has no culture.

Also, to flip the narrative on its head, my DH had to go to England from Australia on business. He hadn’t been before. He came back and said he hated it - there were too many people, the houses were cookie-cutter and went as far as the eye could see, and the weather was miserable. It just seemed grim to him.

Tourmalines · 29/05/2025 05:03

Plenty of British racist’s .

Passwordsaremynemesis · 29/05/2025 04:52

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 04:49

What amazes me is how Australia is declared racist and lacking in culture by mn. When they themselves are ignoring Australia’s indigenous culture. Almost like they are being the racist that they are accusing Australians of being.
Ironic. 🤷🏻‍♀️. funnily enough the only country I’ve ever experienced unpleasant behaviour was in England. “Oh you’re from Aus -tra - lia are you” as if it were a particularly nasty thing.

Exactly. Saying Australia is racist, then in the very next breath saying we have no (white) history or culture! It really is irritating.

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 04:49

What amazes me is how Australia is declared racist and lacking in culture by mn. When they themselves are ignoring Australia’s indigenous culture. Almost like they are being the racist that they are accusing Australians of being.
Ironic. 🤷🏻‍♀️. funnily enough the only country I’ve ever experienced unpleasant behaviour was in England. “Oh you’re from Aus -tra - lia are you” as if it were a particularly nasty thing.

chunkybear · 29/05/2025 04:42

My mum took early retirement and went there at 49. She had a brother and his family an hours drive away and went with her partner, so had some local family support, here's a few things she used to say ..
It was years ago now, she's dead bow, but I'd say to consider:

Cities aren't the same, small in comparison to London or UK cities
Villages and countryside - very different - not really desirable IMO just remotel
Lack of culture you'd expect to get in the UK, it's all very different
Spiders - snakes etc are huge/deadly or both
The heat can be incessant, not just a few days or weeks like the UK
It can feel very remote for some people

Absolutely visit for an extended holiday and recce too to see what would be good
Check out the rental or buying market, I believe Sydney is horrific but other cities may be better
Really do your research as it's very different to the UK, which maybe good !

theyoungishman · 29/05/2025 04:39

Absolutely give it a go!
I emigrated to Perth and I couldn't be happier- the people are wonderfully welcoming, the lifestyle doesn't even compare to the UK- high salaries, a big safe and clean city, healthy lifestyle, beautifully fresh (and cheaper than UK) food. There is so much to see and do, and so many activities are free of charge.

We have very distinct seasons here and I'm very cozy right now watching the rain and reading my book as we come into winter.

Ignore those coming on to give the usual spiel 'it's racist, backwards, uncultured' 🙄 I suspect a certain level of jealousy as well as ignorance in these posts!!!

You've really got nothing to lose, go for it!

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 04:33

Maplewood6 · 28/05/2025 21:47

I seriously considered moving to Australia in my late 30s, went through all the checks and got accepted. Then I visited it again, and thought, 'No'. I'm London-based and I didn't feel the cities over there compared. I thought Melbourne was the nicest but not enough to make me leave the UK. There just didn't seem to be enough going on for me (bit of a culture vulture). I'm also terrified of spiders and strong tides so all of the outdoorsy stuff was a total no-no for me. The thing I felt it lacked the most though, which really took me by surprise, was the lack of history. Over here, we're exposed to old buildings etc everywhere we go. I didn't realise how important that was to me (even though I've absolutely no idea how it actually enriches my life here) but it made a big difference. Also having Europe and all those cultures on our doorstep is amazing - Australia is just so far away from everywhere. In the end I didn't go and have no regrets. Obviously loads of people go and absolutely love it. Just remembered - sunny days on tap was lovely.

Except for the 60,000 years of Indigenous history. What you really mean is lack of WHITE History.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 29/05/2025 04:33

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:08

Pro - your english accent will add class to any gathering you attend.

Another pro - Aussies don't give a shit about which class you're from.

echt · 29/05/2025 04:23

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:08

Pro - your english accent will add class to any gathering you attend.

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echt · 29/05/2025 04:22

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:00

Yes, Australia has a ‘National Trust’ but it’s not a ‘National Trust’ like the UK. The two are not even remotely close in terms of quality and quantity of the property and grounds you can visit - not to mention cafe/ gift shops attached.
They are simply not the same. Mottisfont, Sissinghurst, Fountains Abbey etc, endless examples of gorgeousness you will not see in Australia.

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It's a different country with a different culture and history. Why would it be like the UK on?

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:08

Pro - your english accent will add class to any gathering you attend.

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 04:05

Yes, I suppose we'll never know why Australia didn't keep its ruined monasteries from 1132. A mystery for the ages...

Longdarkteatimeofthesoul · 29/05/2025 04:04

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:00

Yes, Australia has a ‘National Trust’ but it’s not a ‘National Trust’ like the UK. The two are not even remotely close in terms of quality and quantity of the property and grounds you can visit - not to mention cafe/ gift shops attached.
They are simply not the same. Mottisfont, Sissinghurst, Fountains Abbey etc, endless examples of gorgeousness you will not see in Australia.

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Well there is your definitive answer! You must stay in England for better gift shops!

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:00

Yes, Australia has a ‘National Trust’ but it’s not a ‘National Trust’ like the UK. The two are not even remotely close in terms of quality and quantity of the property and grounds you can visit - not to mention cafe/ gift shops attached.
They are simply not the same. Mottisfont, Sissinghurst, Fountains Abbey etc, endless examples of gorgeousness you will not see in Australia.

Starlia · 29/05/2025 03:56

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:43

I think I said the equivalent? That’s what I meant.

Many of us would prefer to surf, sail across the Great Barrier Reef, and go dragon boating across Broken Bay every Thursday morning than look at old castles though.

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 03:51

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:13

England is so beautiful. You will be losing the national trust, the equivalent doesn’t exist in Australia.

Apart from the National Trust of Australia and all its equivalents in each state and territory, you mean?

It is true that Australian has been tremendously lax in preserving all its medieval castles, though. Outrageous.

EconomyClassRockstar · 29/05/2025 03:47

Admittedly, 112 is probably a bit too late to decide to emigrate. But, other than that!

EconomyClassRockstar · 29/05/2025 03:46

We were 31 when we moved with all our kids to a whole new country. It was the best thing we ever did. 31 is a great age to make a change and try new things in your life so just do it! Also, so is 41, 47, 53, 67, 112....it's never too late to try anything!

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:43

echt · 29/05/2025 03:30

The point was that you said it didn’t exist. It does.

I think I said the equivalent? That’s what I meant.

IcyPlumOtter · 29/05/2025 03:38

No history? Backward? Sexist? ... then let's look at the historical data for Australia... There's a few world first in terms of progressiveness...

World's first universal suffrage of all adults regardless of race, sex, religion, class and property ownership - South Australia - 1894! (*)

World's first full federal suffrage for women - 1902 (NZ had voting first, but Australia included women running for office as well as voting)

World's first woman elected to parliament - 1921

World's first 8 hour day - 1856 - gave women as well as men the right to only work 8 hours per day, unbelievably important.

World's first disabled and old aged pension - 1908 - for all.

World's first universal health insurance system - 1970s (Norway made employers do it first, but this was by a government).

World's first women's hospital staffed by women doctors and surgeons - 1890s, at a time when most countries didn't even allow women to study medicine.

(* Unfortunately it took until the 1960s for Aboriginal people to get the vote in all state, federal and city jurisdictions in Australia, but they could vote in some areas from 1890s.)

And some more recent data....

Australia has the highest number of foreign born citizens of any nation that is not a tax haven, 30% - and the highest of western nations.

Australia's population is 17% Asian, highest of western nations.

UN always rates Australia as either number one or a top ten nation for:

Safety for migrants.

Nation where migrants can reach their potential.

The safest country for international students - with a special mention for African students (by UN)

The world's highest participation of immigrants in politics (by UN)

One of the best places in the world to be a woman (UN)

and one of the least corrupt countries in the world (again, UN).

So yeah, Australia has its share of dickheads, and backward, racist, sexist morons, but as a nation over all? Not worse than elsewhere in the west. Just look at the government it elected in 2025 - landslide to the Left running on a very-pro women agenda.

Melbourne is the best place to live but very expensive - Geelong or one of Victoria's other regional cities might be a good alternative.

Donttemptthegods · 29/05/2025 03:34

I moved out at 30. Lots of people come out in their 30s so you’re not alone. Will I return to the UK, who knows?

I rarely see spiders and have only seen 1 snake.

I’m Sydney based.

Come out with the idea of staying 1 year. If you hate it, go home. If you like it, you’ve got 2 more years to find a way to stay.

Do it now whilst you can still squeeze in 3 WHVs before the deadline age of 35.

Back · 29/05/2025 03:30

Just do it! Have an adventure! I've lived in Perth 10+years and I love it - the climate, the lifestyle, the people, the healthcare, beautiful beaches.

And no, spiders and snakes are not everywhere! That really is not something to hold you back.

Search hashtags like traveloz on insta for inspiration.

Ignore all the miseries on here - go have some fun!

echt · 29/05/2025 03:30

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:23

Nah that’s not even remotely on par.

The point was that you said it didn’t exist. It does.

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:23

Nah that’s not even remotely on par.

Longdarkteatimeofthesoul · 29/05/2025 03:21

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 03:13

England is so beautiful. You will be losing the national trust, the equivalent doesn’t exist in Australia.

https://www.nationaltrust.org.au/
Except of course Australia's National Trust?

National Trust

The National Trusts are Australia’s leading conservation organisations. Our mission, which started with the conservation of historic Sydney architecture, has grown to include natural, Indigenous and cultural heritage in every state and territory.

https://www.nationaltrust.org.au