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I am 31, and considering moving to Australia…

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WhereamIgoing25 · 28/05/2025 21:34

So, as the title says: I am 31 years old, currently living in London, single (actually just been dumped by someone I was dating for a few months!), no dependents and a bit fed up with life here / in the UK… and thinking of moving to Aus for a year or so.

Don’t get me wrong - I have a pretty active social life, and I am close to my family and friends - but apart from that I don’t feel like anything is keeping me here. Especially not my job / career! It wouldn’t be a permanent move (I don’t think) but I am ready for a change.

Thought I would turn to MN for some advice! I’ve never been to Aus / NZ but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind to visit / move there.

Pros? Cons? Did you do it? Would you do it if you could? Best cities to move to? Are there really spiders and snakes everywhere?

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NattyTurtle59 · 29/05/2025 09:41

Hwi · 29/05/2025 07:23

A different life in an English-speaking ex-colony? Different?

Of course it's different! Your ignorance is showing.

rosiegoodwin5432 · 29/05/2025 09:38

Do it!! I moved to Melbourne (from London) 5 years ago when I was 28 and my only regret is coming back. Currently planning a move back but have a partner who's visa situation makes it a but more complicated. I went on a working holiday visa without a job, but I had some savings and it took me 4 weeks to get a job in advertising which was what I did in London and made lots of friends via work. I had better pay, better standard of living, and generally a better lifestyle especially if you like outdoor activities (in my opinion). Coming from London, you'll find renting cheaper in Aus. Sydney was not my vibe but Melbourne was great and I stayed for a year. Obviously nowhere is perfect and everyone has different experiences, but really, what's the worst that can happen? Your friends in London will still be here when / if you come back.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 29/05/2025 09:37

I’m sure that this has already been said, but it’s just for a year (maybe with the possibility of extending on a 3 year working holiday visa as explained in one of the first posts, for which you will be eligible until you’re 35, @WhereamIgoing25), and as you’re single and feeling adventurous, footloose and fancy-free, I think it would be a great thing for you to do.
One of my neplings has just gone to Perth on a working holiday visa and is having an amazing time, enjoying the beaches and outdoor life. They went without knowing anyone and before leaving, got a place to live in a very friendly house, over Zoom. I think there are plenty of job opportunities, as well, depending on your field. I’d say go for it, if you hate it you can come back early and if you don’t, you can stay longer/see about staying permanently.
Good luck with your decision!

Jackiepumpkinhead · 29/05/2025 09:31

If you can, I would recommend you do. Have spent a lot of time in Australia and really enjoyed it. Wouldn’t want to live there (it’s overrated in mvho), but a great place to travel and explore. Plus you’re close to Fiji/Thailand (depending where you are), so more places to explore.

Hoogey · 29/05/2025 09:28

Do it! Wish I had instead of settling for a bloke who left me with 2 children. You can only regret not doing it, not actually doing it! May meet the man of your dreams and have a great life x

YourSignalFadedIntoAnotherWorld · 29/05/2025 09:26

Go for it. what have you got to lose? If you don't like it, come back.

I got accepted years ago for work there. I didn't quite have the balls to do it and I regret that I didn't at least try it.

Springtimehere · 29/05/2025 09:19

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Starlia · 29/05/2025 09:02

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 08:18

As for the comments about Australian(s) being very white and not very diverse, roughly one third of us were born overseas and nearly 50% have a parent born overseas. In a country of 25 million. Frankly it’s astounding how the armchair critics sit back in good old mother England and decry how backward we are here and fail to see how they are themselves being raciest, smug and small minded.

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The racism and ignorance on these threads is astounding. Several time I’ve seen comments about ‘no culture’, ‘no old buildings’, ‘too far away from places with history’ when what they mean is that they’re only interested in white European history.
In Australia you have access to a myriad of ancient cultures, including China, south-east Asia, and Indigenous cultures in New Zealand and the Pacific.

OP, Australia is different to the UK. You might experience culture shock. But there’s every chance you’ll love it. There are so many British people here who love it.

JessaWoo · 29/05/2025 09:00

Kalithoscope · 29/05/2025 05:18

@JessaWoo that's not flipping the narrative on its head, it's just more ignorance. the houses were cookie-cutter and went as far as the eye could see yeah not in my bit. God I would never talk like this about someone else's country, you sound as silly as the posters you are (rightly) slating.

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I’m simply relating what my DH’s thoughts were. It’s fine if you don’t agree with them, but sensibly, the population density of the two countries is very different, particularly in urban areas. The styles of housing are not similar.

Starlia · 29/05/2025 08:54

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:53

How old are the oldest buildings in the "neighbourhood"? What was before that?
Yes nothing, so no history

This is incredibly racist, ignorant and offensive. There was and is a complex Indigenous culture living in Australia for tens of thousands of years before they were colonised.

MyBirthdayMonth · 29/05/2025 08:50

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 04:00

Yes, Australia has a ‘National Trust’ but it’s not a ‘National Trust’ like the UK. The two are not even remotely close in terms of quality and quantity of the property and grounds you can visit - not to mention cafe/ gift shops attached.
They are simply not the same. Mottisfont, Sissinghurst, Fountains Abbey etc, endless examples of gorgeousness you will not see in Australia.

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I'd take a beachfront cafe at Byron Bay or a Greek restaurant in Melbourne over an overpriced and unimaginative National Trust cafe any day.

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 08:49

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:53

How old are the oldest buildings in the "neighbourhood"? What was before that?
Yes nothing, so no history

Wow so there was noting in Australia before the British invasion? So incredibly offensive.

Sassybooklover · 29/05/2025 08:44

Visit for a year on a working/holiday visa and see how you like the country. Too many people move to other countries without every really visiting or because they think the 'grass is greener'. Australia has it's plus points but equally it has it's minus too (like any other country). Don't go thinking it's Utopia. I have family out in Australia who emigrated in the early 70's as 'Ten pound Poms', back then life was tough. The Australian government wanted the Brits going there to settle but the people didn't, and it was incredibly hard to find someone who would employ you! Obviously things have moved on since then. Look at different areas in Australia, to see where you can afford/like. Living somewhere permanently is vastly different to being on holiday. Look at the rules for emigration. For example you can't apply to Citizenship after you are 45, so you need to do this well before. They don't want people draining their medical system. Do you have a skill they require, to live there permanently? Research research research!!

Hwi · 29/05/2025 08:37

Passwordsaremynemesis · 29/05/2025 07:33

Are you serious? Of course it’s different, and thank god for that!😁

It is in the same league as 'I am going travelling on my gap yah to show how independent and strong I am' - mum, mum, can you Facetime me and wire some money to me? Google-maps, can you please build a route for me? Accommodation aggregator, can you please book accommodation for me? Google translate, can you please translate what I am about to say into google and translate it for me? To experience 'different' you don't go to a country with the same language, same legal system, same customs, same system of medical care (only paid for). You just hop on a bus in Victoria and go and try it in a really different country - Poland, Hungary, Bulgaria. Learn the language and try to figure out life in a totally different paradigm - like a trip to the early 20th century culturally.

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 08:36

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:53

How old are the oldest buildings in the "neighbourhood"? What was before that?
Yes nothing, so no history

You are being very racist. Your “nothing” is the land, rock carvings, art. You are being extremely offensive.

CallItLoneliness · 29/05/2025 08:32

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:53

How old are the oldest buildings in the "neighbourhood"? What was before that?
Yes nothing, so no history

It is national reconciliation week in Australia, so it is a particularly offensive week for you to be spouting 'terra nullius'. Please stop.

Stifledlife · 29/05/2025 08:32

Very different culture. Much more free and easy, so if things not being done "properly" is going to wind you up, don't go.. The australian government created a little character called "Norm" and the ad campaign was "sometimes near enough isn't good enough"

Work out the things that are going to make you miserable and take steps to mitigate.. invest in airconditioning, or a fabulous view if you need to remind yourself why you came.

Stick to the edges of the country if you want a sea breeze.

The tap water is lovely. What's limescale?

Work out what sort of feel you want the city to have. Brisbane is much more shorts and T shirt than Sydney, which is more cospopolitan and laid back than melbourne, which is more vibrant but more straight laced (more British if you like - people will queue in melbourne. They won't in sydney). Adelaide is more of a backwater, and Perth is like Sydney was 40 years ago. Darwin is bloody hot and full of men.

The sense of humour is very different, very dry and very pervasive. People let things go more and care less than the british about most things.

Don't underestmate how bewildering it is when you know what you want at the supermarket but have no idea what it's called.

Be prepared to travel.. everywhere is a long way away, except that isn't far in australian terms. You can drive for 2 hours in sydney, and still be in sydney.

Always keep enough in your bank account so if it all gets too much you can get on a plane home. Just knowing it's there is probably enough to stop you needing to use it.

Go with the right frame of mind, and you'll have a fantastic time. Underestimate how different every single thing is, and you'll dissolve in a pool of frustration.

Rumpoleoftheballet · 29/05/2025 08:30

What?? Clearly living in different places won't be the same but racism, misogyny and exists the world over.

Bubblesoffun · 29/05/2025 08:18

As for the comments about Australian(s) being very white and not very diverse, roughly one third of us were born overseas and nearly 50% have a parent born overseas. In a country of 25 million. Frankly it’s astounding how the armchair critics sit back in good old mother England and decry how backward we are here and fail to see how they are themselves being raciest, smug and small minded.

Toootss · 29/05/2025 08:17

But Australia flights might damage your budgetting

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 08:15

Anyone who describes Australia as “very white” has never been to western Sydney. Or the equivalent in Melbourne. Just ridiculous.

Passwordsaremynemesis · 29/05/2025 08:14

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 29/05/2025 08:04

I wouldn’t move to somewhere I haven’t been before, no. I went to Australia for a year when I was 18 and was surprised how much of a culture shock it was, and how far away it felt. It’s REALLY far. Burger King is called Hungry Jacks for god’s sake. WTF! It’s another world 😆

But seriously I did find the culture so different, everything was kind of very flat and cookie cutter. Coming from London you’ll find it VERY white too. And I didn’t find it the eternally positive and fun and nice atmosphere people imagine it to be.

Very white? It really isn’t at all, the only other place if lived that is as multicultural is London.

WomenInSTEM · 29/05/2025 08:12

I can't comment on living in Australia, although I have visited and loved it.

I can definitely recommend living abroad though. I lived in an Eastern European country and then a South East Asian country in my 20s and early 30s. It was a great experience, and even the tricky parts helped me grow up and become more independent.

Maraa · 29/05/2025 08:04

Honestly, do it. Worst case scenario, you come back to England. In your situation, I feel like you’ll always wonder what if. My partner did this then came home and we got together and had kids and he is so glad he did it. On the other hand, I have two friends who went abroad “for a year”, one is settled in Australia with a family and another is living life in Spain on her own

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 29/05/2025 08:04

I wouldn’t move to somewhere I haven’t been before, no. I went to Australia for a year when I was 18 and was surprised how much of a culture shock it was, and how far away it felt. It’s REALLY far. Burger King is called Hungry Jacks for god’s sake. WTF! It’s another world 😆

But seriously I did find the culture so different, everything was kind of very flat and cookie cutter. Coming from London you’ll find it VERY white too. And I didn’t find it the eternally positive and fun and nice atmosphere people imagine it to be.

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