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I am 31, and considering moving to Australia…

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WhereamIgoing25 · 28/05/2025 21:34

So, as the title says: I am 31 years old, currently living in London, single (actually just been dumped by someone I was dating for a few months!), no dependents and a bit fed up with life here / in the UK… and thinking of moving to Aus for a year or so.

Don’t get me wrong - I have a pretty active social life, and I am close to my family and friends - but apart from that I don’t feel like anything is keeping me here. Especially not my job / career! It wouldn’t be a permanent move (I don’t think) but I am ready for a change.

Thought I would turn to MN for some advice! I’ve never been to Aus / NZ but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind to visit / move there.

Pros? Cons? Did you do it? Would you do it if you could? Best cities to move to? Are there really spiders and snakes everywhere?

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TheGoddessFrigg · 29/05/2025 12:19

DO iT. One of my work colleagues went on a sort of adult gap year - ended up in Queensland. Did bar work first of all but she is working as a social worker and loving it. Her life just looks so envious.
It's a huge regret of mine that I never did something similar. And now Im too old, poor and disabled to go.

JessaWoo · 29/05/2025 12:17

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 11:42

Captain Cook never meant to map Australia. He was looking for the Salisbury Cathedral gift shop and took a wrong turn.

Actually, going by the replies on this thread, England really should have colonised Australia much earlier than they did, enabling the history (and the gift shops) of the future to be much richer for potential immigrants from their own country.

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 12:11

The majority of men everywhere are awful. Women are not exactly breaking their necks around the world to get their mitts on British men.

I say this as a NZer who married an Englishman, and I'm still surprised about it.

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 11:42

Captain Cook never meant to map Australia. He was looking for the Salisbury Cathedral gift shop and took a wrong turn.

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 11:40

Longdarkteatimeofthesoul · 29/05/2025 04:04

Well there is your definitive answer! You must stay in England for better gift shops!

Yes this did make me laugh too - how bizarre!

ScienceDragon · 29/05/2025 11:40

If anyone wants "white history" in Australia:

Here's a state-by-state list of "white" (i.e., colonial or European-settler) historical tourist attractions across Australia. These are places tied to British colonisation, European exploration, early convict and settler history, gold rushes, pastoral expansion, and colonial architecture.

New South Wales (NSW)

  • Hyde Park Barracks, Sydney – UNESCO-listed convict site built in 1819.
  • Old Government House, Parramatta – Australia’s oldest surviving public building, Georgian-style, 1799.
  • Port Macquarie Penal Settlement – Early 19th-century convict history site.
  • Bathurst – NSW’s first inland settlement, with gold rush heritage and colonial buildings.
  • Berrima – Historic village with 1830s sandstone courthouse and gaol.
  • Goulburn – Australia’s first inland city, rich with colonial churches and rail history.
  • Maitland Gaol – Former high-security prison with colonial roots.
Victoria (VIC)
  • Sovereign Hill, Ballarat – Goldfields living museum; colonial life during the 1850s gold rush.
  • Old Melbourne Gaol – 19th-century gaol where Ned Kelly was hanged.
  • Port Fairy – Historic fishing village with well-preserved 1800s buildings.
  • Walhalla – Remote gold mining town nestled in the mountains.
  • Castlemaine – Another goldfields town with grand colonial buildings.
  • Werribee Park Mansion – 1870s Italianate mansion built by a pastoral family.
  • Lorne and the Great Ocean Road – Built by WWI returned soldiers, with memorials and early tourism infrastructure.
Queensland (QLD)
  • Cooktown – Site of Captain James Cook’s 1770 beaching of the Endeavour.
  • Newstead House, Brisbane – Oldest surviving residence in Brisbane, 1846.
  • Toowoomba – Garden city with many preserved 19th-century buildings.
  • Charters Towers – Boomtown from gold rush era, with grand facades and theatres.
  • Maryborough – Historic port and colonial town with Mary Poppins connection.
  • Herberton Historic Village – Reconstructed pioneer village in the Atherton Tablelands.
South Australia (SA)
  • Port Adelaide – Maritime and rail heritage precinct with colonial buildings.
  • Hahndorf – German-settler village, but with strong 1830s colonial elements.
  • Ayers House, Adelaide – 19th-century mansion of former Premier Sir Henry Ayers.
  • Burra – Historic copper mining town with old cottages and dugouts.
  • Moonta Mines – Cornish mining heritage on the Yorke Peninsula.
Western Australia (WA)
  • Fremantle Prison – UNESCO-listed convict-built prison.
  • The Round House, Fremantle – Oldest building in WA, built by convicts in 1831.
  • Albany – First colonial settlement in WA; features ANZAC history and 19th-century buildings.
  • York – WA’s oldest inland town with heritage buildings.
  • Toodyay – Historic town with colonial pubs and homesteads.
  • Greenough – Semi-abandoned historic settlement with stone buildings from the 1860s.
Tasmania (TAS)
  • Port Arthur Historic Site – Former penal settlement, haunting and powerful.
  • Richmond – Home to Australia’s oldest bridge and jail, stunning colonial village.
  • Hobart’s Battery Point – Charming neighbourhood with original cottages and sandstone homes.
  • Cascades Female Factory – Convict site focused on female prisoners.
  • Ross and Oatlands – Georgian villages with historic wool industry and beautiful architecture.
Northern Territory (NT)
  • Adelaide River War Cemetery – Colonial and WWII memorial site.
  • Finniss River Overland Telegraph Station ruins – Key in connecting Australia by telegraph in the 1800s.
  • The Residency, Alice Springs – Colonial government building in central Australia.
  • (Note: Much of NT’s tourism focuses on Aboriginal heritage, but a few colonial traces exist around early overland routes and military history.)
Australian Capital Territory (ACT)
  • Lanyon Homestead – Restored colonial estate from the 1830s.
  • Blundells Cottage – Stone cottage from the 1860s, once part of Duntroon Estate.
  • St John’s Anglican Church, Reid – Historic 1845 church in Canberra.
  • Old Parliament House – Built in 1927, technically Federation-era, but holds colonial political legacy.
A lot of the above have gift shops.

Plus for uniquely Australian cultural icons:

New South Wales (NSW)

  • Big Banana – Coffs Harbour 🍌
  • The OG of the Big Things (1964), now a full tourist park with rides, ice skating, and more.
  • Big Prawn – Ballina 🦐
  • Controversially preserved (and cleaned up) thanks to Bunnings.
  • Big Merino – Goulburn 🐏
  • you can climb inside and look out through his eyes.
  • Big Golden Guitar – Tamworth 🎸
  • Pays homage to Tamworth’s country music scene.
  • Big Ugg Boots – Thornton (near Newcastle) 👢
  • World's largest pair of Uggs outside the Mortels Sheepskin Factory.
  • Big Chook – Moonbi 🐓
  • Guarding the gateway to the poultry capital of Australia.
  • Big Axe – Kew 🪓
  • A tribute to the timber industry; heavy lumberjack vibes.
  • Big Bottle – Mangrove Mountain 🍾
  • Built to promote a winery; now a real estate office
Victoria (VIC)
  • Big Koala – Dadswells Bridge 🐨
  • Large, slightly terrifying grey sentinel on the Western Highway.
  • Big Ned Kelly – Glenrowan 🤠
  • Looms large over the town where Ned made his last stand.
  • Big Miner – Ballarat ⛏️
  • Located near Sovereign Hill, he’s got a proper goldfields beard.
  • Big Cigar – Churchill 🚬
  • Tall and phallic, allegedly a tribute to Sir Winston Churchill. Allegedly.
  • Big Strawberry – Koonoomoo 🍓
  • Part of a farmgate cafe with jams, sauces, and sweets.
Queensland (QLD)
  • Big Pineapple – Woombye 🍍
  • Arguably the most beloved of the Bigs; now a heritage-listed site.
  • Big Mango – Bowen 🥭
  • Went famously “missing” in a 2014 stunt. Found behind a tree.
  • Big Cow – Yandina 🐄
  • Recently restored, once used to promote a dairy farm.
  • Big Cassowary – Mission Beach 🪶
  • Danger chicken on steroids. Locals know to give it space.
  • Big Peanut – Tolga 🥜
  • Homage to the Atherton Tablelands' peanut farming.
  • Big Crocodile – Normanton 🐊
  • Replica of “Krys,” a real 8.6m crocodile shot in 1957.
  • Big Macadamia Nut – Nambour 🌰
  • Once part of a nut-themed tourist park, now a coffee shop.
  • Big Dugong – Cardwell 🐋
  • Built to raise awareness about the endangered sea cow.
South Australia (SA)
  • Big Lobster – Kingston SE 🦞
  • “Larry the Lobster” – absolutely massive, slightly haunted-looking.
  • Big Olive – Tailem Bend 🫒
  • Advertises the olive industry. Comes with Big Olive Oil bottles.
  • Big Winch – Coober Pedy ⛏️
  • In the opal capital of the world, it's both sculpture and lookout.
  • Big Galah – Kimba 🦜
  • Halfway across Australia.
  • Big Scotsman – Adelaide 🧔‍♂️
  • "Scotty" is Australia’s first Big Thing (1963), quietly standing on a pub roof.
Western Australia (WA)
  • Big Ram – Wagin 🐏
  • Not to be confused with the Big Merino. This one’s got visible... attributes.
  • Big Orange – Harvey 🍊
  • Located at the old Harvey Fresh juice factory.
  • Big Camera – Meckering 📸
  • Yep. A building shaped like a camera, with a museum inside.
  • Big Crocodile – Wyndham 🐊
  • Because every WA town north of Perth needs a Big Croc.
  • Big Western Rock Lobster – Dongara 🦞
  • Great selfie material on the Coral Coast.
  • Big Apple – Donnybrook 🍏
  • Donnybrook is apple country; it had to be done.
Tasmania (TAS)
  • Big Spud – Sassafras 🥔
  • “Kenny the Kennebec” – smiling tuber and roadside icon.
  • Big Penguin – Penguin 🐧
  • Stands guard on the north coast, dressed up for events.
  • Big Tassie Devil – Mole Creek 😈
  • Located at a wildlife sanctuary. Fittingly fierce-looking.
  • Big Platypus – Latrobe 🦦
  • Town claims the title "Platypus Capital of the World."
Northern Territory (NT)
  • Big Aboriginal Hunter – Anmatjere Man, near Aileron 🪓
  • Towering steel statue paying tribute to Indigenous history (a notable outlier among “white” Big Things).
  • Big Boxing Crocodile – Humpty Doo 🥊🐊
  • A croc. With boxing gloves. And a serious attitude.
  • Big Stockman – Katherine 🐎
  • Part of the NT’s cattle-ranching pride.
  • Big Beer Can – Daly Waters Pub 🍺
  • Celebrates NT’s deep and spiritual connection to beer.
Australian Capital Territory (ACT) Not a Big Thing mecca, but:
  • Big Mushroom – Belconnen Markets 🍄
  • Children’s play area, shaped like a mushroom.
  • Big Owl – Belconnen 🦉
  • Technically an artwork, but has gained cult status

Plus more Australian wildlife parks than you can shake a stick at.

All capital cities have art galleries, multiple museums, theatres, major sporting events, etc. Depending on time of year and location, lots and lots of great markets, including craft markets. Then there are all the shows (aka fairs) both in capital cities and rural locations. Multiple winegrowing areas. Tasmania is an artisans mecca.

then there is the Great Barrier Reef. And the Great Barrier Reef. Did I mention the Great Barrier Reef? It does stretch for over 1400 miles (miles for UK readers). And over 16,000 miles of coastline.

Stay out of long grass, and the snakes will leave you alone. Don't stick your hands into dusty, cobwebby corners, and the spiders will leave you alone. Don't ever try and corner a kangaroo - their kick is vicious. Avoid cassowaries - they still think they are dinosaurs. If a swimming hole has a crocodile sign, then stay away - you cannot spot a crocodile if they don't want you to see them.

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 11:40

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 29/05/2025 11:14

Australian men are awful.

Well, that’s colonials for you. They don’t even have what it takes to produce Andrew Tate.

JHound · 29/05/2025 11:28

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 08:15

Anyone who describes Australia as “very white” has never been to western Sydney. Or the equivalent in Melbourne. Just ridiculous.

I think they also mean the media etc. Western Sydney is just one pocket of Sydney. I don’t think Australia is as white as people think it is, but looking at TV and media I can see why people would get that impression. There are lots of Asian people (South and East) but I find that UK does a better job of representing its diversity in business, culture and government.

JHound · 29/05/2025 11:24

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 29/05/2025 11:14

Australian men are awful.

I would say dating in Oz was….interesting! 😂

But I did find it to be quite a bro culture.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 29/05/2025 11:14

Australian men are awful.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:53

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 10:51

I'm more concerned about the hospitals and GP access to be honest.

I think that would be an issue in most cases if you move somewhere as a new retiree.

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 10:51

I'm more concerned about the hospitals and GP access to be honest.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:46

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 10:44

Where would I rather face old age? The answer is not the UK.

For me it has to be the UK - old age without family support. Yikes! 😀

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 10:44

Where would I rather face old age? The answer is not the UK.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:41

Also OP - planes travel in both directions.

I equally know plenty of people who moved to Australia and disliked it. So they moved back. I will say for me - though it has many pros I am not missing it since I moved back. The distance was tiring and I realised I cannot live without my family nearby. I also find the cultural mix in the UK was more suited to me.

So go, just GO!

Give it a minimum of 2 years. If you don’t like it - move back.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:38

Downsides - personally I found Australia has a huge bro culture - moreso than the UK. Although in some other respects less sexist (they are far less disparaging of female sports.)

It is more of a nanny state than I expected and that was a huge cultural shock to me and more health and germ conscious than the UK.

Oz is far less racist than foreigners think it is (Europe inc. the UK would erupt into WWIII if it had Australian immigration rates and if 28% of their populations were foreign born) but far more racist than Australians think it is (I will never forget going to a corporate event and seeing people in blackface. In 2012!!!! This was Queensland though. But still….)

Passwordsaremynemesis · 29/05/2025 10:36

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:28

As somebody who was a patient in both I actually found the NHS better and definitely covers far more without any expectation of gap payments.

Private healthcare cover is far better in the UK but Oz is miles ahead in ease of booking GPs.

I’ve also been a patient in both, and found Australian hospitals and healthcare to be infinitely better.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:32

There are not snakes everywhere - I never saw one in a decade outside a zoo.

There are spiders outside, especially on lamposts but I don’t see the big deal regarding spiders.

Best city comes down to personal choice. My favourite Australian city is Melbourne. I never got to live there though. I like big multi-cultural hubs so Sydney and Melbourne are my top two.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:30

Hwi · 29/05/2025 09:55

Same legal system, same political system, same medical system (they accept our sub-standardly trained doctors without additional checks, unlike the US), same language, same road system, same educational system. Sooooo different. I could continue with the 'differences', but it would be wasted on some people.

You have never lived in Oz and should just say that.

It is and feels different to the UK.

Obviously less different than if OP moved to Vietnam or Iran or India.

But different nonetheless.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:28

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 10:22

If you've ever spoken to a British doctor working in Australia, you would know that our health system is massively better resourced and more functional than the NHS.

Medicare and the NHS are both universal health systems but they operate very, very differently in everything from taxation to GP funding to Australia's large private health system and use of private health insurance in public hospitals.

As somebody who was a patient in both I actually found the NHS better and definitely covers far more without any expectation of gap payments.

Private healthcare cover is far better in the UK but Oz is miles ahead in ease of booking GPs.

JHound · 29/05/2025 10:27

I did the exact same thing you did at the exact same age.

I had however visited Oz before but not the city I first moved to. I would say you only have one life - do it. I am very very glad I did even if looking back I have mixed feelings on if I should have gone.

But I needed the experience, made lifelong friends, got a second passport. In the end I moved back as I had no family there but I know plenty others who stayed (I was there a decade.)

The only con is the distance from family and how hard it is to keep in contact with friends / family. I also lost contact with some of my “newer” friends.

Also if you don’t have the requisite skills the path to staying long term can be hard (was easy for me as I was a highly skilled migrant and it took me 4 years to get me Oz passport but others I know had to move back to the UK against their will).

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 10:22

Hwi · 29/05/2025 09:55

Same legal system, same political system, same medical system (they accept our sub-standardly trained doctors without additional checks, unlike the US), same language, same road system, same educational system. Sooooo different. I could continue with the 'differences', but it would be wasted on some people.

If you've ever spoken to a British doctor working in Australia, you would know that our health system is massively better resourced and more functional than the NHS.

Medicare and the NHS are both universal health systems but they operate very, very differently in everything from taxation to GP funding to Australia's large private health system and use of private health insurance in public hospitals.

NattyTurtle59 · 29/05/2025 10:13

Hwi · 29/05/2025 09:55

Same legal system, same political system, same medical system (they accept our sub-standardly trained doctors without additional checks, unlike the US), same language, same road system, same educational system. Sooooo different. I could continue with the 'differences', but it would be wasted on some people.

You have no idea what you are talking about. Anyway, do people actually move to another country and then spend their time thinking about the legal system, political system, road system ( have you ever travelled long distance on an Australian road?) or even the medical system? What makes you think the education system is the same? People are generally more interested in the history, geography etc. You sound odd.

Hwi · 29/05/2025 09:55

NattyTurtle59 · 29/05/2025 09:41

Of course it's different! Your ignorance is showing.

Same legal system, same political system, same medical system (they accept our sub-standardly trained doctors without additional checks, unlike the US), same language, same road system, same educational system. Sooooo different. I could continue with the 'differences', but it would be wasted on some people.

LadyGillingham · 29/05/2025 09:41

go there for a holiday and decide?

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