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I am 31, and considering moving to Australia…

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WhereamIgoing25 · 28/05/2025 21:34

So, as the title says: I am 31 years old, currently living in London, single (actually just been dumped by someone I was dating for a few months!), no dependents and a bit fed up with life here / in the UK… and thinking of moving to Aus for a year or so.

Don’t get me wrong - I have a pretty active social life, and I am close to my family and friends - but apart from that I don’t feel like anything is keeping me here. Especially not my job / career! It wouldn’t be a permanent move (I don’t think) but I am ready for a change.

Thought I would turn to MN for some advice! I’ve never been to Aus / NZ but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind to visit / move there.

Pros? Cons? Did you do it? Would you do it if you could? Best cities to move to? Are there really spiders and snakes everywhere?

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Rumpoleoftheballet · 29/05/2025 20:26

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:50

There are people like that everywhere in the world indeed. So living in Saudi Arabia is just the same as living in Sweden.
And living in Knightbridge is the same as living in Dagenham.
Do some thinking before blurting stuff out.

What? Clearly there are different experiences in different countries however there is racism and misogyny the world over. I think you need to re-read my post rather than having a go at me.

JungAtHeart · 29/05/2025 19:17

I live on an island and a few weeks back I was in a small local bar with my cousin and he got talking to an Australian couple who were visiting the island with her parents. She went to Australia on a short term visa in her twenties and decided she wanted to stay. She met her husband in a bar and told him she needed to get married so she could stay in the country. They got married the next month and have been married thirty eight years now 😂 I say go!

CosyFanTucci · 29/05/2025 16:38

I lived there for a few years on a work visa. Loved it. Aussies were very friendly and I made lifelong friends. Still go back when I can. A couple of points:
You can have very different experiences depending on where you settle. I lived in Melbourne but visited Sydney, Hobart, Adelaide and Perth several times. I can say with certainty that I'm much more of a Melbourne (and maybe Hobart) person than I am a Sydney sort. And I really liked the places within two or three hours of Melbourne - the mountains, forests, etc.
Also, the cost of living and accommodation is extreme. Don't underestimate that.

JHound · 29/05/2025 16:28

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 13:11

Well considering 30% of Australians were born in a different country that just reflects that men are awful surely?
Unless you have some sort of racist picture in your head of who is Australian?

I think she is talking about Australian men as opposed to foreign men who live in Australia. I was one of that 30% but would not refer to myself as “Australian” even if technically I am.

JHound · 29/05/2025 16:25

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 11:40

Well, that’s colonials for you. They don’t even have what it takes to produce Andrew Tate.

They produced Nick Adams who is pretty diabolical

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 15:56

Sorry, meant it's good you find the NHS adequate where you are, not that your family suffered in Oz, obviously

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 15:54

Right, that's good, but as you say there is a huge disparity. No GP appointments here. What freaks me out though is the record of the local maternity unit. Very glad I didn't have my kids here.

Not that Australia is much safer for babies, what with the dingoes.

Bluebellwood129 · 29/05/2025 15:24

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 15:17

I wouldn't live in Oz if you paid me. I am much better suited to countries with wolves or at least foxes than wolf spiders. Still, my brother was treated most excellently by his oncological team in Sydney, and his cancer was fortunately detected early, because he was able to see a doctor. This is not the reality for swathes of people in the UK. Perhaps you live in a place where you have GP access, though.

Our family have had some appalling experiences of the healthcare system in Australia. I'm lucky enough to live in an area of the UK with decent primary care access and proximity to a couple of leading oncology centres but appreciate that's not the case for everyone. There's no denying that the healthcare systems in both countries could be vastly improved though.

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 15:17

Bluebellwood129 · 29/05/2025 13:57

Australia probably isn't the country for you either then.

I wouldn't live in Oz if you paid me. I am much better suited to countries with wolves or at least foxes than wolf spiders. Still, my brother was treated most excellently by his oncological team in Sydney, and his cancer was fortunately detected early, because he was able to see a doctor. This is not the reality for swathes of people in the UK. Perhaps you live in a place where you have GP access, though.

ScienceDragon · 29/05/2025 15:05

I forgot that there is also a castle on the Sunshine Coast. Had a quick google, and there are also a few other castles scattered around. There is also a big medieval festival in South East Queensland every year Abbey Medieval Festival.

I also forgot Bundaberg Rum Factory up near, well, Bundaberg (Queensland) - watch out for the drop bears there!

I think we need a sticky thread on what to see and do in Australia.

Tournament Weekend - Abbey Medieval Festival

https://www.abbeymedievalfestival.com/tournament-weekend/

Bluebellwood129 · 29/05/2025 13:57

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 10:51

I'm more concerned about the hospitals and GP access to be honest.

Australia probably isn't the country for you either then.

Goalie55 · 29/05/2025 13:53

Never been but I do follow this woman who moved out there last year and I find her interesting to watch.
www.instagram.com/lucyfarfromhome?igsh=cTAyemgwNGh4cHU4

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 13:46

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 29/05/2025 13:41

The OP isn’t talking about emigrating, just going over there for a year!

That’s true. Can’t think of any reasons not to then :)

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 13:41

And before anyone says it. No cloudehill is not on par.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 29/05/2025 13:41

The OP isn’t talking about emigrating, just going over there for a year!

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 13:32

The big ram? No, I’m surprised you didn’t list dog on a tuckerbox.
Sure Australia’s coastline is quite nice if that’s your thing. I wouldn’t give up the beautiful gardens and parklands of England for it.

GlutesthatSalute · 29/05/2025 13:13

Shh, let them keep up with their "Everyone from X country is xenophobic / racist" schtick. They genuinely can't see the irony.

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 13:11

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 29/05/2025 11:14

Australian men are awful.

Well considering 30% of Australians were born in a different country that just reflects that men are awful surely?
Unless you have some sort of racist picture in your head of who is Australian?

coolmum123 · 29/05/2025 13:06

Do it! MY DS is out there right now. He went for 1 year and has extended, eventually will be coming back but will have been out there around 2.5 years before he does so. We went out there to visit and really liked it. Yes it is far away, and there really isn't much history or culture. Also there are these random pronouncements - something about the Fathers of our land -when you are out and about which sound quite insincere but hey we had a blast and DS is having a blast too.

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 13:04

@ScienceDragon- fantastic list. I'd add Bendigo to the list of places to go in Victoria- another gold mining town with the amazing Golden Dragon Museum dedicated to the culture and history of Chinese Australians, particularly in the region.
Built on the historical site of one of Bendigo's Chinatowns, the museum's precinct also includes Chinese Gardens and a temple to Kuan Yin.

Jk987 · 29/05/2025 13:02

butterfly55 · 29/05/2025 12:53

Just to add, if it was me, I would avoid the West coast, as it's far more isolated then the East Coast

If you avoid the entire West Coast, you’ll miss Perth, Broome, Monkey Mia and all that’s in between! It’s a huge country but well equipped and in many cases has many well trodden paths.

Jk987 · 29/05/2025 12:57

A million % do it! Do it while you’ve got no ties! You don’t have to commit to a whole year but chances are you’ll want to stay until the visa runs out! The beauty of it is that if you go with a positive attitude and enough money, you’ll make it work and have the time of your life! I don’t even know you but I’m excited for you!

I did a year there in 2002 and it was a life changing adventure😎

butterfly55 · 29/05/2025 12:53

Just to add, if it was me, I would avoid the West coast, as it's far more isolated then the East Coast

butterfly55 · 29/05/2025 12:47

Me and DH toured Australia last year, doing a self drive. I am actually wearing my Bondi Beach t-shirt as we speak! It was probably the most beautiful country I've ever been to. Breathtaking vista's. Lovely people. Every town was like a picture postcard. Never drove anywhere that looked rough! Super clean. We only did part of the East Coast, and our favourite was Sydney. It is so vibrant and I'd say mostly full of people around your age. We found the cost of living okay, and eating out very reasonable. Having googled property on return, it is very costly to buy, so you would be stuck renting. Coogee, Bondi, Brontie - lots of places near to Sydney were also lovely.

Re spiders/creepies, we saw one tiny spider the whole 3 weeks we were there - and that was out in the sticks on a wine tour. Absolutely didn't see anything else, not even when we went looking in the Botanical gardens!! Only saw Kangaroos in one town as well. It's hugely over-hyped. Our DD lives there and is terrified of spiders, and I think in the 18 months she's been there, she's seen maybe 3, and there's never ever been one in their apartment.

It's too late for us to emigrate - in our 50's now. Would I go in your circs? A million percent. Me and DH were watching something on TV the other night and Sydney popped up - we both cried! It's literally heaven on earth. We both wish we had been born there. When we retire, we will be going there for 3 months at a time.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 29/05/2025 12:23

ScienceDragon · 29/05/2025 11:40

If anyone wants "white history" in Australia:

Here's a state-by-state list of "white" (i.e., colonial or European-settler) historical tourist attractions across Australia. These are places tied to British colonisation, European exploration, early convict and settler history, gold rushes, pastoral expansion, and colonial architecture.

New South Wales (NSW)

  • Hyde Park Barracks, Sydney – UNESCO-listed convict site built in 1819.
  • Old Government House, Parramatta – Australia’s oldest surviving public building, Georgian-style, 1799.
  • Port Macquarie Penal Settlement – Early 19th-century convict history site.
  • Bathurst – NSW’s first inland settlement, with gold rush heritage and colonial buildings.
  • Berrima – Historic village with 1830s sandstone courthouse and gaol.
  • Goulburn – Australia’s first inland city, rich with colonial churches and rail history.
  • Maitland Gaol – Former high-security prison with colonial roots.
Victoria (VIC)
  • Sovereign Hill, Ballarat – Goldfields living museum; colonial life during the 1850s gold rush.
  • Old Melbourne Gaol – 19th-century gaol where Ned Kelly was hanged.
  • Port Fairy – Historic fishing village with well-preserved 1800s buildings.
  • Walhalla – Remote gold mining town nestled in the mountains.
  • Castlemaine – Another goldfields town with grand colonial buildings.
  • Werribee Park Mansion – 1870s Italianate mansion built by a pastoral family.
  • Lorne and the Great Ocean Road – Built by WWI returned soldiers, with memorials and early tourism infrastructure.
Queensland (QLD)
  • Cooktown – Site of Captain James Cook’s 1770 beaching of the Endeavour.
  • Newstead House, Brisbane – Oldest surviving residence in Brisbane, 1846.
  • Toowoomba – Garden city with many preserved 19th-century buildings.
  • Charters Towers – Boomtown from gold rush era, with grand facades and theatres.
  • Maryborough – Historic port and colonial town with Mary Poppins connection.
  • Herberton Historic Village – Reconstructed pioneer village in the Atherton Tablelands.
South Australia (SA)
  • Port Adelaide – Maritime and rail heritage precinct with colonial buildings.
  • Hahndorf – German-settler village, but with strong 1830s colonial elements.
  • Ayers House, Adelaide – 19th-century mansion of former Premier Sir Henry Ayers.
  • Burra – Historic copper mining town with old cottages and dugouts.
  • Moonta Mines – Cornish mining heritage on the Yorke Peninsula.
Western Australia (WA)
  • Fremantle Prison – UNESCO-listed convict-built prison.
  • The Round House, Fremantle – Oldest building in WA, built by convicts in 1831.
  • Albany – First colonial settlement in WA; features ANZAC history and 19th-century buildings.
  • York – WA’s oldest inland town with heritage buildings.
  • Toodyay – Historic town with colonial pubs and homesteads.
  • Greenough – Semi-abandoned historic settlement with stone buildings from the 1860s.
Tasmania (TAS)
  • Port Arthur Historic Site – Former penal settlement, haunting and powerful.
  • Richmond – Home to Australia’s oldest bridge and jail, stunning colonial village.
  • Hobart’s Battery Point – Charming neighbourhood with original cottages and sandstone homes.
  • Cascades Female Factory – Convict site focused on female prisoners.
  • Ross and Oatlands – Georgian villages with historic wool industry and beautiful architecture.
Northern Territory (NT)
  • Adelaide River War Cemetery – Colonial and WWII memorial site.
  • Finniss River Overland Telegraph Station ruins – Key in connecting Australia by telegraph in the 1800s.
  • The Residency, Alice Springs – Colonial government building in central Australia.
  • (Note: Much of NT’s tourism focuses on Aboriginal heritage, but a few colonial traces exist around early overland routes and military history.)
Australian Capital Territory (ACT)
  • Lanyon Homestead – Restored colonial estate from the 1830s.
  • Blundells Cottage – Stone cottage from the 1860s, once part of Duntroon Estate.
  • St John’s Anglican Church, Reid – Historic 1845 church in Canberra.
  • Old Parliament House – Built in 1927, technically Federation-era, but holds colonial political legacy.
A lot of the above have gift shops.

Plus for uniquely Australian cultural icons:

New South Wales (NSW)

  • Big Banana – Coffs Harbour 🍌
  • The OG of the Big Things (1964), now a full tourist park with rides, ice skating, and more.
  • Big Prawn – Ballina 🦐
  • Controversially preserved (and cleaned up) thanks to Bunnings.
  • Big Merino – Goulburn 🐏
  • you can climb inside and look out through his eyes.
  • Big Golden Guitar – Tamworth 🎸
  • Pays homage to Tamworth’s country music scene.
  • Big Ugg Boots – Thornton (near Newcastle) 👢
  • World's largest pair of Uggs outside the Mortels Sheepskin Factory.
  • Big Chook – Moonbi 🐓
  • Guarding the gateway to the poultry capital of Australia.
  • Big Axe – Kew 🪓
  • A tribute to the timber industry; heavy lumberjack vibes.
  • Big Bottle – Mangrove Mountain 🍾
  • Built to promote a winery; now a real estate office
Victoria (VIC)
  • Big Koala – Dadswells Bridge 🐨
  • Large, slightly terrifying grey sentinel on the Western Highway.
  • Big Ned Kelly – Glenrowan 🤠
  • Looms large over the town where Ned made his last stand.
  • Big Miner – Ballarat ⛏️
  • Located near Sovereign Hill, he’s got a proper goldfields beard.
  • Big Cigar – Churchill 🚬
  • Tall and phallic, allegedly a tribute to Sir Winston Churchill. Allegedly.
  • Big Strawberry – Koonoomoo 🍓
  • Part of a farmgate cafe with jams, sauces, and sweets.
Queensland (QLD)
  • Big Pineapple – Woombye 🍍
  • Arguably the most beloved of the Bigs; now a heritage-listed site.
  • Big Mango – Bowen 🥭
  • Went famously “missing” in a 2014 stunt. Found behind a tree.
  • Big Cow – Yandina 🐄
  • Recently restored, once used to promote a dairy farm.
  • Big Cassowary – Mission Beach 🪶
  • Danger chicken on steroids. Locals know to give it space.
  • Big Peanut – Tolga 🥜
  • Homage to the Atherton Tablelands' peanut farming.
  • Big Crocodile – Normanton 🐊
  • Replica of “Krys,” a real 8.6m crocodile shot in 1957.
  • Big Macadamia Nut – Nambour 🌰
  • Once part of a nut-themed tourist park, now a coffee shop.
  • Big Dugong – Cardwell 🐋
  • Built to raise awareness about the endangered sea cow.
South Australia (SA)
  • Big Lobster – Kingston SE 🦞
  • “Larry the Lobster” – absolutely massive, slightly haunted-looking.
  • Big Olive – Tailem Bend 🫒
  • Advertises the olive industry. Comes with Big Olive Oil bottles.
  • Big Winch – Coober Pedy ⛏️
  • In the opal capital of the world, it's both sculpture and lookout.
  • Big Galah – Kimba 🦜
  • Halfway across Australia.
  • Big Scotsman – Adelaide 🧔‍♂️
  • "Scotty" is Australia’s first Big Thing (1963), quietly standing on a pub roof.
Western Australia (WA)
  • Big Ram – Wagin 🐏
  • Not to be confused with the Big Merino. This one’s got visible... attributes.
  • Big Orange – Harvey 🍊
  • Located at the old Harvey Fresh juice factory.
  • Big Camera – Meckering 📸
  • Yep. A building shaped like a camera, with a museum inside.
  • Big Crocodile – Wyndham 🐊
  • Because every WA town north of Perth needs a Big Croc.
  • Big Western Rock Lobster – Dongara 🦞
  • Great selfie material on the Coral Coast.
  • Big Apple – Donnybrook 🍏
  • Donnybrook is apple country; it had to be done.
Tasmania (TAS)
  • Big Spud – Sassafras 🥔
  • “Kenny the Kennebec” – smiling tuber and roadside icon.
  • Big Penguin – Penguin 🐧
  • Stands guard on the north coast, dressed up for events.
  • Big Tassie Devil – Mole Creek 😈
  • Located at a wildlife sanctuary. Fittingly fierce-looking.
  • Big Platypus – Latrobe 🦦
  • Town claims the title "Platypus Capital of the World."
Northern Territory (NT)
  • Big Aboriginal Hunter – Anmatjere Man, near Aileron 🪓
  • Towering steel statue paying tribute to Indigenous history (a notable outlier among “white” Big Things).
  • Big Boxing Crocodile – Humpty Doo 🥊🐊
  • A croc. With boxing gloves. And a serious attitude.
  • Big Stockman – Katherine 🐎
  • Part of the NT’s cattle-ranching pride.
  • Big Beer Can – Daly Waters Pub 🍺
  • Celebrates NT’s deep and spiritual connection to beer.
Australian Capital Territory (ACT) Not a Big Thing mecca, but:
  • Big Mushroom – Belconnen Markets 🍄
  • Children’s play area, shaped like a mushroom.
  • Big Owl – Belconnen 🦉
  • Technically an artwork, but has gained cult status

Plus more Australian wildlife parks than you can shake a stick at.

All capital cities have art galleries, multiple museums, theatres, major sporting events, etc. Depending on time of year and location, lots and lots of great markets, including craft markets. Then there are all the shows (aka fairs) both in capital cities and rural locations. Multiple winegrowing areas. Tasmania is an artisans mecca.

then there is the Great Barrier Reef. And the Great Barrier Reef. Did I mention the Great Barrier Reef? It does stretch for over 1400 miles (miles for UK readers). And over 16,000 miles of coastline.

Stay out of long grass, and the snakes will leave you alone. Don't stick your hands into dusty, cobwebby corners, and the spiders will leave you alone. Don't ever try and corner a kangaroo - their kick is vicious. Avoid cassowaries - they still think they are dinosaurs. If a swimming hole has a crocodile sign, then stay away - you cannot spot a crocodile if they don't want you to see them.

And don’t forget the Silo Art trail!
Ive been to all of the ones in nsw(school trips and English parents keen on learning about their new home) and Parliament House.

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