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I am 31, and considering moving to Australia…

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WhereamIgoing25 · 28/05/2025 21:34

So, as the title says: I am 31 years old, currently living in London, single (actually just been dumped by someone I was dating for a few months!), no dependents and a bit fed up with life here / in the UK… and thinking of moving to Aus for a year or so.

Don’t get me wrong - I have a pretty active social life, and I am close to my family and friends - but apart from that I don’t feel like anything is keeping me here. Especially not my job / career! It wouldn’t be a permanent move (I don’t think) but I am ready for a change.

Thought I would turn to MN for some advice! I’ve never been to Aus / NZ but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind to visit / move there.

Pros? Cons? Did you do it? Would you do it if you could? Best cities to move to? Are there really spiders and snakes everywhere?

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JessaWoo · 03/06/2025 03:04

echt · 03/06/2025 00:30

It isn't hyped. Just some people like it.

I notice they move to London, as have all the Aussies I know who've lived in the UK. London is really rather special and while not throwing shade on the UK in general (I lived there for 50+ years), if I was to return to the UK, I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.

Agreed. I live on a couple of acres in Australia, with a beautiful garden, and I don’t hear any road noise. The only noises I can hear right now are parrots talking to each other. However, sometimes I do like the rush and excitement of a large city and love visiting them. People are different; places aren’t all the same.

Tourmalines · 03/06/2025 01:31

Mudsca · 02/06/2025 11:34

I don't get the Australia hype. DS has met many Australian who have moved to the UK because they find Australia too boring and quiet and they find London buzzing and full of life.

Also one thing about the UK is quick and easy flights to Europe.

It’s not Hype. People have different desires and different life style choices . Each to their own .

echt · 03/06/2025 00:30

Mudsca · 02/06/2025 11:34

I don't get the Australia hype. DS has met many Australian who have moved to the UK because they find Australia too boring and quiet and they find London buzzing and full of life.

Also one thing about the UK is quick and easy flights to Europe.

It isn't hyped. Just some people like it.

I notice they move to London, as have all the Aussies I know who've lived in the UK. London is really rather special and while not throwing shade on the UK in general (I lived there for 50+ years), if I was to return to the UK, I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.

Passwordsaremynemesis · 03/06/2025 00:21

Mudsca · 02/06/2025 11:34

I don't get the Australia hype. DS has met many Australian who have moved to the UK because they find Australia too boring and quiet and they find London buzzing and full of life.

Also one thing about the UK is quick and easy flights to Europe.

As someone who has lived in both places, they both have advantages and disadvantages. I loved living in London when I was younger, and took full advantage of all the fun and travel options when I was there. Once I hit my thirties though I preferred somewhere that I could afford a nice house, and a slower pace of life. Australia has fitted the bill beautifully, I have a gorgeous house with a pool near the beach, my work life balance is better, I get paid more, I could go on.As for Aussies leaving because they are bored, lots go overseas for a few years in their 20s, most of them come back! IMHO both places can be great places to live, good thing we don’t all like the same thing, isn’t it?

Mudsca · 02/06/2025 11:34

I don't get the Australia hype. DS has met many Australian who have moved to the UK because they find Australia too boring and quiet and they find London buzzing and full of life.

Also one thing about the UK is quick and easy flights to Europe.

Roxy69 · 01/06/2025 13:46

Thanks, it was a bit rash but life is for living as we are always being told. I'm back to the UK now due to another rash decision which just happened. Such is life. I would love to go back, it was pre-Brexit though so I didn't have a lot of hassle. Took the dog with me and he had no problems either but I hear it's going to get a little better, they're talking!
I did make friends quite soon. I'm fine on my own though so that helps. I'm still in touch with a few. The best thing about it was I made friends and aquaintances that I would never have got a chance to meet here. All sorts of different types because I think we tend to stick with the same groups here. I'm planning another move in the UK now although it seems less exciting. If you think you can do it, I would go. After all you can always come back. Sorry it's so long. Good luck.

Lilactimes · 01/06/2025 11:38

Roxy69 · 31/05/2025 22:41

Do it. I was 62 and decided to move to Europe. It was one of the best things I have ever done. I knew no-one there and it was a great experience. As long as you are self-sufficient you'll be fine. No language difficulties to be considered either. I guess you'll regret it if you don't go now you are considering it, eventually. It's never the things we do that give us the most regrets.

@Roxy69 - this is such a brave decision. I’m currently considering moving to a different part of the country at a similar age to kick start a new era of my life.
Did you have visa issues? Have you made friends?
Full of admiration!!

Roxy69 · 31/05/2025 22:41

Do it. I was 62 and decided to move to Europe. It was one of the best things I have ever done. I knew no-one there and it was a great experience. As long as you are self-sufficient you'll be fine. No language difficulties to be considered either. I guess you'll regret it if you don't go now you are considering it, eventually. It's never the things we do that give us the most regrets.

coolmum123 · 31/05/2025 10:00

StartupRepair · 30/05/2025 22:19

@coolmum123 I think you are talking about an acknowledgement of country, and quite disrespectfully. It is an acknowledgement of traditional owners and when done sincerely is a tiny step towards healing the trauma and wrongs inflicted on Aboriginal people. I work in government and all our key meetings start with this including job interviews . You will hear it at church services, sporting events , airlines etc.
OP if you come,I hope you will take some time to explore Aboriginal history and culture, as it is the oldest continuous culture on the planet.

I am so sorry to everyone for my comment. I truly did not mean to cause offence. I heard it near the Opera House and couldn’t see an info sign to explain what it meant. That’s why in my head it was quite random and i didn’t understand the context. Apologies again for my ignorance.

StartupRepair · 30/05/2025 22:19

@coolmum123 I think you are talking about an acknowledgement of country, and quite disrespectfully. It is an acknowledgement of traditional owners and when done sincerely is a tiny step towards healing the trauma and wrongs inflicted on Aboriginal people. I work in government and all our key meetings start with this including job interviews . You will hear it at church services, sporting events , airlines etc.
OP if you come,I hope you will take some time to explore Aboriginal history and culture, as it is the oldest continuous culture on the planet.

AirborneElephant · 30/05/2025 13:54

Definitely go for it. I don’t think it’s objectively “better” than the uk, and I’ve no idea if you’ll like it or not. But it’s fabulous experience to live in a different country for a while. If you don’t go you’ll always regret it.

Teajenny7 · 30/05/2025 13:45

We did it many years ago before kids. Enjoyed the experience. Both of us were in desirable professions and had plenty of offers to stay. We liked NZ more but decided to comeback as 2 older widowed mothers.
Sometimes I regret coming back as we couldn't get jobs near our families.

In your shoes I would go an enjoy it. I wouldn't rush into a career job. Just have fun.
My last trip to Oz was 2019. I was shocked how racist it was in general. We had been aware years ago but it still shocked us.

In general I would say it is expensive than SE England. it wasnt like that when we travelled in 1990.

Don't wait until you are older go and have fun. You never know what life can bring.

JHound · 30/05/2025 13:26

ilovecocoapops · 30/05/2025 06:49

How easy is it to move to Australia? I looked into it a few times and it seems quite difficult to get a working visa

A working visa is piss easy of you are below the age limit.

JHound · 30/05/2025 13:25

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 21:30

How would she be telling the difference? Unless she asked every man she met whilst she was in Australia their place of birth and citizenship status?

Is it that hard? A 30 second conversation is all it would take for anybody to know I was not from Australia…

(And if it was somebody that moved as a child then they would just be an Australian.)

FatCatSkinnyRat · 30/05/2025 06:54

No one has mentioned one of the worst things about living in Australia - the sun damage!

I am a 50 year old Australian and have lived in the UK for 15 years across a couple of stints and have lived in Asia as well.

On a trip back home recently I saw my friends from high school. Woah! They look so old. Face, hands, and decolletage. They have all had multiple skin cancer removals. The sun exposure really does a job, and it is hard to avoid the beating sun in a lot of Aus.

I still think you should go OP to try it out, although I am also always surprised by the "casual racism" against "Lebs, Chinks, and Abos" there when I am back - Australians who live in Aus probably do not notice it as it is just so prevalent but I found a lot of it almost breathtaking. Daily language is also peppered with constant swear words!

The commercial media landscape is dumbed down with sport and blokey narrative - agree with the bro culture comments above. There is also an "Australia Australia Australia rah rah rah!!!" vibe where you are not allowed to say anything negative about Australia, and a constant navel gazing on "what do other countries reckon about us??"

I do love how friendly people are there though to just strangers in shops and on the street etc. People are easy to talk to. That's the thing I miss.

ilovecocoapops · 30/05/2025 06:49

How easy is it to move to Australia? I looked into it a few times and it seems quite difficult to get a working visa

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 30/05/2025 01:23

Ifpicklesweretickles · 29/05/2025 07:53

How old are the oldest buildings in the "neighbourhood"? What was before that?
Yes nothing, so no history

How old are the oldest buildings in your neighbourhood? You probably have some that are a few hundred years old, maybe even 1000-1200 years, compared to a couple of hundred years in mine.

In the grand scheme of human history, fuck all difference really.

As well as being deliberately racist and offensive you're showing yourself up as being very limited in your thinking.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 30/05/2025 01:10

EverybodyLovesString · 29/05/2025 11:40

Well, that’s colonials for you. They don’t even have what it takes to produce Andrew Tate.

Or Boris Johnson, Prince Andrew, Russell Brand, etc etc etc.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2025 00:45

Hong Kong is also a great option

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2025 00:45

I would
Choose Dubai over Australia at your age and stage of
Life

NattyTurtle59 · 29/05/2025 22:24

Newfigtree · 29/05/2025 13:32

The big ram? No, I’m surprised you didn’t list dog on a tuckerbox.
Sure Australia’s coastline is quite nice if that’s your thing. I wouldn’t give up the beautiful gardens and parklands of England for it.

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Yawn .....

No-one is asking you to.

NattyTurtle59 · 29/05/2025 22:20

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 29/05/2025 11:14

Australian men are awful.

As opposed to the charmers we read about daily on numerous posts about UK men?

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 21:36

coolmum123 · 29/05/2025 13:06

Do it! MY DS is out there right now. He went for 1 year and has extended, eventually will be coming back but will have been out there around 2.5 years before he does so. We went out there to visit and really liked it. Yes it is far away, and there really isn't much history or culture. Also there are these random pronouncements - something about the Fathers of our land -when you are out and about which sound quite insincere but hey we had a blast and DS is having a blast too.

I hope this is a joke post. On top of the usual racist claim of Australia having no history and culture (when you mean no European culture) you are scoffing at the welcome to (or acknowledge of) country ceremonies.

InWalksBarberalla · 29/05/2025 21:30

JHound · 29/05/2025 16:28

I think she is talking about Australian men as opposed to foreign men who live in Australia. I was one of that 30% but would not refer to myself as “Australian” even if technically I am.

How would she be telling the difference? Unless she asked every man she met whilst she was in Australia their place of birth and citizenship status?

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