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“Paedophile hunters”

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Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 20:32

I remember quite a few years ago now, these paedophile hunter’s started appearing on social media. Videos of them meeting people who had been talking to what they believed were underage children. I remember thinking , oh wow they’re out there protecting our children. Maybe a naive view , I don’t know.

But now , more and more , I see it becoming a regular thing and I am seeing time and time again that the so called predators they catch ( not all the time, there are times that they are grown adults knowing what they’re doing ) are very clearly people with additional needs / autism. I find it disturbing to watch - I have seen young adults panicking and not really knowing what they’re doing or the implications . It’s clear that the messages in the videos I have seen are between the “ culprit” and an ‘underage child’ discussing meeting up , when yes they have been clear they are underage but it is also clear that it has not been sexual talk and these people are not understanding that what they are doing is wrong.

I remember years ago my sister and her friend talking to a lad of around 19. My sister and her friend were chatting and asking if the lad liked the friend and he was inviting them around to his house for a sleepover and to watch movies. ( my sister told my mom as she was worried ) I went through all the messages and could see it was not sexual . This lad thought they were friends . I looked at his profile and he was clearly autistic and his emotional and mental age was probably the same as my sister and her friend. I spoke to his mother who was so thankful that I messaged and confirmed he was quite severely autistic.

My son is autistic and always been drawn to girls as friends rather than boys . He also always gets on with those younger because he is on their level more. He wouldn’t even know how to talk sexually - he’s got a very limited understanding. I can’t stop him having a phone , he’s now 18 . Luckily I’m very aware and have spoken to him about this and keep tabs on him but it’s very hard. This kind of thing really worries me.

It makes me think whether these groups are doing more harm than good. They’re outing people publicly , and for those who are vulnerable with no understanding then it could do so much harm. I get that parents should be monitoring phone use but quite frankly not all parents do.

I do also wonder - can charges be made if there is no ‘real’ victim - it’s an adult they’re talking to … I guess it could get the culprits investigated more and maybe find out more things but other than that is it not just vigilante behaviour? And also , is their real good intention there from all of them or is it a case of getting social media famous ? Could it even be that they target those who they can see are more vulnerable as it will be an easy ‘catch’ ?

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Floogal · 28/05/2025 22:55

I wouldn't be surprised if it turns out some of these 'heroic' hunters are paedophiles themselves!

ACynicalDad · 28/05/2025 22:53

I think they fill a void being left by police; if the police did more of this and caught a lot more of these people, then the groups wouldn't exist. Given that they are going to do it, ideally, there would be some training, but that would be hugely problematic. Apart from funding the police properly, I'm not sure how they can be stopped.

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 28/05/2025 22:52

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 28/05/2025 22:45

Not sure….money? They must earn a small fortune on til tok

all that travelling must cost a fair bit

That didn’t occur to me but you’re
probably correct that they’re monetising it. So much worse imo.

ARealitycheck · 28/05/2025 22:52

crazeekat · 28/05/2025 22:44

I’m on the fence. I see your point totally. But I also think when the evidence has been there for a long time and police are taking too long to make arrests, courts are too long to come to trial how many more kids are getting abused while they get their evidence that at times is staring them in the face . I get all the issues all the services are faced with I really but it’s not good enough. Children need protected and these vigilant groups some will show evidence of reporting the nonce to police and police not acting on it at all. So I see why the feel they need to sort it themselves too. Think if it was your child being targeted, you would want immediate action.

Not a popular idea among many parents, and not to condone the behaviour of these men. But ensuring your child isn't coming into contact with them is the parents responsibility. Stop using the internet as a surrogate babysitter.

travellinglighter · 28/05/2025 22:51

More than one case out there of a so called pedophile hunter being convicted of pedophilia.

Makes sense really, an adult who’s obsessed with pedophiles, spends time in chat rooms pretending to be a child. Gives them an excuse to be in possession of awful images as bait.

shoelady2 · 28/05/2025 22:47

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 28/05/2025 22:42

Right, ok, but why does it have to end up on social media? The answer is, it doesn’t. They do that because they’re nothing more than attention seekers with too much time on their hands. They could film the meet up and hand all their evidence over to the police rather than make it public.

And this is what it boils down to. If they are that invested in doing this then fine, hand the evidence over to the police. It goes on Facebook because they want the glory. They want other knuckle heads telling how great they are and thanking them for their public service. They are thick, often unskilled and just want to feel important. These are not the sort of people who should be dishing out ‘justice’ of any kind.

HuffleMyPuffle · 28/05/2025 22:47

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 28/05/2025 22:36

No the whole thing needs to culminate in a meet to trigger police action there and then….. handing over a few transcripts of conversations isn’t enough….. the meet up with the ‘child’ has to happen for a stronger conviction, hence they go through with meeting and call police once it’s active

Yet some of them just turn up at the house?

OhNoTheBridgeIsDown · 28/05/2025 22:47

Cheffymcchef · 28/05/2025 22:37

I know this isn’t what this chat is directly about but I don’t think pedophiles can change. It’s like being gay or straight. You can’t change your attraction to young children if that’s how you feel. Therapy won’t work.

I read an article a year or so ago about the rise in paedophilia possibly linked to porn use - men needing more extreme porn to satisfy as they get desensitised to other stuff. Porn is a big problem, but men seem to like it so no checks and measures are put in place.

ARealitycheck · 28/05/2025 22:46

WingingItSince1973 · 28/05/2025 22:42

I’m not sure who you have watched but certainly doesn’t sound like the group I watch. They have already alerted the police before they knock the door. They hand all the evidence they have over to the police as soon as the police arrive. None of their faces or identities are revealed on camera. They take special care not to make a big public show of what they are doing so the person they are speaking to are kept as safe as possible. But at the end of the day these monsters deserve everything they get. The young lives that have been ruined by these men is more than you and I can comprehend.

Majority I have seen have been aggressive in nature. Carried out very questionable citizens arrests. Have only called the police after a period of time broadcasting the accused persons face all over the internet.

With the feelings towards this sort of crime, No way should a person be exposed prior to even being charged. Imagine you yourself were accosted and were totally innocent? Is that OK you being colateral damage?

Dweetfidilove · 28/05/2025 22:45

Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 21:05

Hmm … I get the general jist of what you mean but when you say “ SN or not a child is saved from god knows what” what do you mean by that? Because it’s likely when it’s someone with SN that a child would never be in harm - this person thinks they have a friend and has no sinister motive but just simply doesn’t understand that a child should not be friends with an adult and in that case you have a person with SN traumatised. I don’t see how a child is saved there ?

But , I do reiterate - the parents of these individuals need to really be monitoring who they are talking to etc and talking about that. I had to have this conversation with my son - he does chat on social media , he posts about games etc and he has comments / messages - quite recently someone messaged him and commented on the game and they had a bit id a chat and he said “ how old are you ? “ and they said they were 15 ( no idea of gender they didn’t discuss it was just about the game ) and he just said “ sorry I am 18 “ blocked them and came and told me - I then had the chat again about not talking in private messages and not really chatting to strangers .

What's the outcome for children who are engaging with these adults who are not aware they shouldn't be friends with children?

If not sexual activities, presumably the children are still being exposed to harmful/adult content of some variety? How do you protect these children from this exposure?

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 28/05/2025 22:45

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 28/05/2025 22:42

Right, ok, but why does it have to end up on social media? The answer is, it doesn’t. They do that because they’re nothing more than attention seekers with too much time on their hands. They could film the meet up and hand all their evidence over to the police rather than make it public.

Not sure….money? They must earn a small fortune on til tok

all that travelling must cost a fair bit

x2boys · 28/05/2025 22:45

Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 22:41

I don’t either .

I remember years ago watching a tv show with a paedophile who said he hated the way he felt , that he hadn’t acted on anything and was scared he would as it felt overwhelming so he went to the police and asked to be locked away and was told they couldn’t do anything because he hadn’t done anything . He told them he felt like if he had the chance he wouldn’t be able to stop himself and they said they couldn’t lock him away .

I think I saw the same programme
It must be awful to have those thoughts when you are desperate not to act on them

Seventree · 28/05/2025 22:44

I saw a video where the person they met was actually a child 🤦‍♀️ they had effectively groomed him (no idea why/who posted it but it looked like a bystander).

On one hand, I can see why they do it. The police are woefully inadequate at catching predators. On the other, they are normal (sometimes stupid) people who don't have the training to do the job they've given themselves.

Teanbiscuits33 · 28/05/2025 22:44

Adults who are mentally younger can still have sexual urges. I’m not saying it’s right at all, but I can understand why an adult who is mentally disabled might relate more to a younger pre teen/teenager and still have the same sexual urges that would be expected of a teen/adult, so in some cases I see how it happens where the conversation turns sexual, and how some of these people may not realise the implications of their behaviour.

I remember watching a couple of them and the perpetrators were quite clearly childlike (despite being chronologically about 40), mentally delayed and distressed at being confronted. I think these people really need to monitored more closely online and have consequences explained to them.

crazeekat · 28/05/2025 22:44

I’m on the fence. I see your point totally. But I also think when the evidence has been there for a long time and police are taking too long to make arrests, courts are too long to come to trial how many more kids are getting abused while they get their evidence that at times is staring them in the face . I get all the issues all the services are faced with I really but it’s not good enough. Children need protected and these vigilant groups some will show evidence of reporting the nonce to police and police not acting on it at all. So I see why the feel they need to sort it themselves too. Think if it was your child being targeted, you would want immediate action.

Cheffymcchef · 28/05/2025 22:43

HuffleMyPuffle · 28/05/2025 22:40

The lack of reading comprehension on this thread is a good example of why vigilante justice is problematic

Posters who are jumping straight to "well if they say sexual stuff" when it was clearly stated it was about non sexual talk, reading "he talked about sexual fantasies" with no elaboration to be "he fancies children" etc

It’s still considered grooming as the child is underage even if it’s not dirty chat

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 28/05/2025 22:42

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 28/05/2025 22:36

No the whole thing needs to culminate in a meet to trigger police action there and then….. handing over a few transcripts of conversations isn’t enough….. the meet up with the ‘child’ has to happen for a stronger conviction, hence they go through with meeting and call police once it’s active

Right, ok, but why does it have to end up on social media? The answer is, it doesn’t. They do that because they’re nothing more than attention seekers with too much time on their hands. They could film the meet up and hand all their evidence over to the police rather than make it public.

supercatlady · 28/05/2025 22:42

Oh please! Such ignorance about learning disability on this thread. They may not understand what they aresaying but have seen it elsewhere, they may not understand that one number is bigger than another and that means the person is older/younger.
No one is saying disabled people should get away with grooming or abusing children.

WingingItSince1973 · 28/05/2025 22:42

ARealitycheck · 28/05/2025 22:33

My personal belief is that if these groups truly wanted to get convictions or expose these type of people, then they could hand the evidence over to the police to arrest the suspect. And once a trial has established guilt, then show it far and wide.

In reality they are just a bunch of bullies trying to gain social praise due to lack of purpose in their lives.

I’m not sure who you have watched but certainly doesn’t sound like the group I watch. They have already alerted the police before they knock the door. They hand all the evidence they have over to the police as soon as the police arrive. None of their faces or identities are revealed on camera. They take special care not to make a big public show of what they are doing so the person they are speaking to are kept as safe as possible. But at the end of the day these monsters deserve everything they get. The young lives that have been ruined by these men is more than you and I can comprehend.

bombastix · 28/05/2025 22:42

Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 22:38

This begs a different question here - if someone says they’re older but aren’t … is there a crime?

I mean there is a crime in black and white - underage and over the age - but how old was your friends son , how old did he believe the girl was - was their anything to say that she wasn’t ?

It’s like the stories you hear of men meeting women in clubs , sleeping with them finding out they’re underage . If an 18 year old goes to a club , meets a girl who says she’s 18 and sleeps with her then finds out she is 15 - is he a paedophile ? I find that so scary ! Not for me , but in general.

I knew of someone in school who was 15 and was sleeping with a 19 year old. This was before social media , she did not look 15 . She told him she was 18. She got pregnant , he didn’t want a baby , she then told him she was 16 ( at this point she was ) , he broke up with her and she threatened to phone the police on him and report him .

Lots of cases where it is absolutely clear that older party is at fault. This is one of the oldest excuses “she did not look 14”. Men who are adults are expected to work it out. Not this kind of excuse

Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 22:42

Kimmeridge · 28/05/2025 22:40

There's one group that does that.

They went to a station i cover at work. Sat down with cops and then handed over files, print outs, USB sticks then left the station. Cops who dealt with them were amazed & impressed with the sheer amount of work they'd done

Thats the way it should be done.

Absolutely !

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Kibble19 · 28/05/2025 22:42

Ultimately, claiming any sort of condition as a defence to a crime generally won’t wash. Prisons have lots of people who identify as ND. They get the same sentence as a NT counterpart and that’s right, IMO. The victim of whatever crime has been committed isn’t less affected because of the perpetrator’s medical history.

If you know right from wrong, are capable of forming and maintaining a secretive and abusive relationship and can take steps to stay under the radar (thus showing you know you’re doing something wrong), then no claims of any condition should be allowed in mitigation.

Yellowdaffodilss · 28/05/2025 22:41

Cheffymcchef · 28/05/2025 22:37

I know this isn’t what this chat is directly about but I don’t think pedophiles can change. It’s like being gay or straight. You can’t change your attraction to young children if that’s how you feel. Therapy won’t work.

I don’t either .

I remember years ago watching a tv show with a paedophile who said he hated the way he felt , that he hadn’t acted on anything and was scared he would as it felt overwhelming so he went to the police and asked to be locked away and was told they couldn’t do anything because he hadn’t done anything . He told them he felt like if he had the chance he wouldn’t be able to stop himself and they said they couldn’t lock him away .

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ShesTheAlbatross · 28/05/2025 22:41

I don’t think the vigilantes care about children. They like violence and a feeling of power, being the big I am etc, plus I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them need their own hard drives looking at tbh.

HuffleMyPuffle · 28/05/2025 22:40

The lack of reading comprehension on this thread is a good example of why vigilante justice is problematic

Posters who are jumping straight to "well if they say sexual stuff" when it was clearly stated it was about non sexual talk, reading "he talked about sexual fantasies" with no elaboration to be "he fancies children" etc