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AIBU to say AI will completely change how we parent and live?

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Ellis12 · 28/05/2025 19:28

I’ve been experimenting with AI tools recently (like ChatGPT and others), and it’s honestly been a game-changer for managing household stuff, helping with schoolwork, meal plans, even emotional support during tough days.

But it got me thinking are we at the start of something huge? Will AI end up changing how we raise our children, do our jobs, and even build relationships? AIBU to feel both excited and a bit nervous about how fast it's all happening?

Curious what others think, especially parents juggling a million things!

OP posts:
Frequency · 29/05/2025 12:00

AI-powered robots are currently performing surgical procedures (admittedly supervised and operated by humans), so their being able to change a nappy within the near future is not beyond the realms of possibility. I don't believe that they will, especially not in normal homes, but it is possible.

People are making the mistake of believing AI is tied to computers and the mobile devices we currently have access to. It's not, it can and is being used in conjunction with advanced robotics.

lousandjays · 29/05/2025 11:59

I think AI is the future and it is coming whether people shout it down aggressively or not. Progress always has that dark side, agricultural revolution/industrialisation/the World Wide Web this is no different and morally loaded comments from opposers to posters on a parenting site are not going to stop its progress. The same as nothing stopped the other social revolutions of the past.

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:57

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 11:56

You won't be able to refrain from using it, because "it" will be everywhere, in every electronic device, try using your smartphone without Android or Apple running in the background.

So you think people simply must use ChatGPT to meal plan instead of doing it for themselves?

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 11:56

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:45

Of course we can’t. But we can also refrain from using it when we don’t need to. It produces basic meal plans. It answers questions. What stops you from doing this yourself?

You won't be able to refrain from using it, because "it" will be everywhere, in every electronic device, try using your smartphone without Android or Apple running in the background.

PhilippaGeorgiou · 29/05/2025 11:56

Imperfectpolly · 29/05/2025 10:08

I have been using chatgpt lately for things like meal plans, calendars, planners, viewing DIY changes to the house. I find it better than Google when researching.

Other than meal planning and calenders, I'm not sure how it will help me with parenting.

Bearing in mind that there are plenty of parents who don't parent, it can simply become another thing that parents don't do because a screen, a phone, or whatever does the parenting for them. Nobody has ever said that parenting has to be good parenting.

Octavia64 · 29/05/2025 11:54

AI is fuck all use in parenting a baby.

babies need feeding (can AI do that) nappy changing (ditto) and human love and attention. None of which AI is going to be able to do anytime soon.

children already have access to all the world’s knowledge via the internet. No parent in their right mind would give them access because virtually no child under say 7 is capable of sifting and looking at the information out there and learning what they need to independently.

the whole point of school is it is a carefully sequenced introduction to human knowledge that ideally ends with an adult capable of finding their own way within all of human knowledge.

the sequencing matters.

if you could just give a six month old a phone and they’d be a genius we’d be doing it already.

knowledge doesn’t work like that.

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 11:54

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2025 10:47

I disagree strongly with your first paragraph because the intelligent minds will be the ones who can assess the device's 'knowledge' for accuracy. Read anything produced by AI that you truly understand and it is always full of inaccuracies.

With respect, you're confusing language models with A.I.

They are completely different things.

Chat GPT isn't A.I

A.I agents, systems, whatever you want to call them are used to build language models, but that is just one small bit of work they can do.

A.I verses GPT is the difference between your brain and your thoughts.

Brain = A.I

GPT = Thoughts

A.I will analyse its own thoughts, humans won't play any part in this, because humans can't think 10,000 different thoughts a second.

Think of it like this. If ai were to type "list all the battles of WW2 in chronological order" into Google or chat Gpt, it would give me the answer in seconds. If I were to ask you the same question, how long would it take you to give me the answer without using the Internet?

So no, humans won't be assessing anything for accuracy.

Frequency · 29/05/2025 11:50

I see your point, and I do agree, but a parent using it to plan meals is a drop in the ocean compared to Google, Amazon, etc, use of it while training and developing it. Consumers not using it won't make a massive difference, and on the flip side, the more it is used, the more efficient it becomes and the less power it needs to use.

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:45

Frequency · 29/05/2025 11:43

For now, that's the case, and yes, it is concerning, but the genie is out of the bottle now, and we can't put it back.

Not so long ago, computers were so big they required entire buildings to themselves, now we walk around with them strapped to our wrists. Technology advances, and as it does, it becomes cheaper and easier to run and more efficient.

Of course we can’t. But we can also refrain from using it when we don’t need to. It produces basic meal plans. It answers questions. What stops you from doing this yourself?

Frequency · 29/05/2025 11:43

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:37

Every 5 ChatGPT prompt (I.e. what you put in) uses 500ml of water. Asking ChatGPT to parent your children by helping with homework or planning meals could be using 10s of litres of water a day.

ChatGPT’s third model emitted 502 metric tons of co2 while being trained. ChatGPT produces 260,000kg of co2 monthly.

does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?

For now, that's the case, and yes, it is concerning, but the genie is out of the bottle now, and we can't put it back.

Not so long ago, computers were so big they required entire buildings to themselves, now we walk around with them strapped to our wrists. Technology advances, and as it does, it becomes cheaper and easier to run and more efficient.

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:37

Every 5 ChatGPT prompt (I.e. what you put in) uses 500ml of water. Asking ChatGPT to parent your children by helping with homework or planning meals could be using 10s of litres of water a day.

ChatGPT’s third model emitted 502 metric tons of co2 while being trained. ChatGPT produces 260,000kg of co2 monthly.

does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 11:36

Thatsalineallright · 29/05/2025 10:41

Parents definitely control access to the internet and therefore to chatgpt. Do you have any idea how many predators are lurking on the internet ready to take advantage of children? Why on earth would you give them free access??

As to your second point, it's true that we have no clue what the job market will be like and so can't properly prepare our kids. However, the usual skills of resilience, social interaction, healthy living, problem solving and so on will still be useful even if humans end up living on Mars.

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You won give them free access, the access will exist in the sense that WiFi and radio signals exist. The A.I tech will be in every device, cars, homes, wearable kit, it will be like air. In the 90s, porn was either a magazine or a video, now it's available on every phone, immediately, for free.

And don't kid yourself that parents these days are keeping their kids safe because they check their phones 🙄. Most couldn't spot a hidden app if they were paid. Burner phones are on sale in every school and park for a few quid. Back in the 90s, kids were hiding fag boxes from their parents, today it's phones.

Renabrook · 29/05/2025 11:36

I can't see how it helps with anything other than when I am bored at work and asking it ridiculous questions

vinavine · 29/05/2025 11:32

I just asked it for a 1400 cal meal plane focused on protein and fibre and I got things like greek yoghurt, granola & berries, salmon with quinoa and veg, chicken breast with sweet potato & veg. Nothing groundbreaking there & pretty boring.

Frequency · 29/05/2025 11:26

vinavine · 29/05/2025 11:16

Are the meals it suggests any good? I've often tried recipes off the internet that aren't very tasty.

I've used ChatGPT to meal plan lunchbox meals I can take to work that fit with my very restrictive diet and budget, and it came up with a lot more suggestions than I found myself via Google.

Frequency · 29/05/2025 11:24

@howshouldibehave of course, some jobs will still exist in ten years, I imagine teaching will be one of them, but all jobs will be impacted by AI.

AI can't do playground duty or first aid (yet), but it can do lesson plans, do interactive teaching, plan and mark homework, mark exams, create schedules, etc.

It can also tell your IT team how to solve your wifi issue and source and order budget laptops. It can manage the school's budget, so there is more money for wifi access points and laptops.

vinavine · 29/05/2025 11:16

Are the meals it suggests any good? I've often tried recipes off the internet that aren't very tasty.

howshouldibehave · 29/05/2025 11:13

The world of work is going to look very, very different in the next decade.

I wonder how this will help my role as a teacher any more than my role as a parent.

I teach a class of 30 KS1 children. AI might be able to help me with a bit of planning, but that's not really what takes all my time up. Will it be able to deliver 4 different levels of teaching and adapt it for the children with SEN? Will it be able to put the child who needs a hoist in it, take them to the toilet and wipe them afterwards? Will it know when the two non-verbal children have soiled and take them off to be changed? Will it soothe the child with a cut knee and administer first aid and decide if the parent needs to be phoned? Will it spot early signs of dysregulation in my pupils with ASD and know they need a sensory break? Will it tidy the home corner after wet play and change all the reading books correctly? Will it do playground duty for me and organise trips? Will it ring the parent of a child who seems really unsettled after a holiday and try to gently unpick what we can do to help.

If the idea is all 30 of my class will ultimately not need me as they will all be plugged into a computer that will meet their needs, then

A-good luck getting the WiFi to work in my room.
B-good luck trying to find 10 laptops that work and hold charge, let alone one for each child in the school.
C-good luck getting them to do all of the above
D-good luck getting the kids not to just walk away

That's also a really crap existence for our future children as well.

Imperfectpolly · 29/05/2025 11:11

flossydog · 29/05/2025 11:04

Bit of a side point, but I'm not sure I'd trust an AI to choose what food I eat. Maybe it's different if you have a giant family, but is meal planning even that hard? You buy food, you cook food, then you buy more of food you've run out of. Do we really need AI to do that?

It wont be of use to everyone but for me, it gives me fresh ideas when I get stuck in a rut or want something different.

Onchatgpt, I can do up a printable meal plan for the week and it will also give me the recipes and shopping list. One less thing for me to think about.

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 11:10

flossydog · 29/05/2025 11:04

Bit of a side point, but I'm not sure I'd trust an AI to choose what food I eat. Maybe it's different if you have a giant family, but is meal planning even that hard? You buy food, you cook food, then you buy more of food you've run out of. Do we really need AI to do that?

When we're running low I photo the meat and veg drawers in the fridge and ask it to suggest a meal. We chat about the options it gives and substitute ingredients I don't have. It's very handy tbh.

But yes could just plan better!

vinavine · 29/05/2025 11:09

How to use AI for emotional therapy and how does it differ to using Google for a meal plan or help with a homework question @Ellis12

flossydog · 29/05/2025 11:04

Bit of a side point, but I'm not sure I'd trust an AI to choose what food I eat. Maybe it's different if you have a giant family, but is meal planning even that hard? You buy food, you cook food, then you buy more of food you've run out of. Do we really need AI to do that?

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 11:02

we could get the ai helper you see in films, on a screen in every room reminding the DC to do everything that you usually do.
I guess it could replace the parent in reading together.
And in emotional support, talking through issues, etc.
Maybe this is a good thing, some people are poor parents and having ai read to the kids and reminding them to brush their teeth would be an improvement.
It could probably do a better job at safety too, can watch young kids at all times.

It will certainly change the world of knowledge work and therefore the schooling. There is absolutely no need for kids to be memorising facts or learning how to solve mathematical equations these days. Schools will need to spend much more time on teaching critical reasoning and how to verify facts and news.

Its coming, need to change with the times I'm afraid.

Frequency · 29/05/2025 10:59

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2025 10:47

I disagree strongly with your first paragraph because the intelligent minds will be the ones who can assess the device's 'knowledge' for accuracy. Read anything produced by AI that you truly understand and it is always full of inaccuracies.

The AI we have access to (ChatGPT, etc.) is a stripped-back, baby version of what is already out there and available to big tech companies. The models we have access to are inaccurate sometimes and do need more "training." The models big tech has access to can train and check each other, and are far more powerful than the consumer versions. They still need training, but they are progressing rapidly.

Quantum computing is also being developed rapidly, which will basically put AI on crack. Imagine a computer that can solve a mathematical problem that would take the world's current most powerful supercomputer millennia to crack in mere seconds. That is what quantum computing can do. Now, imagine running an AI model on a quantum computer.

The world of work is going to look very, very different in the next decade.

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2025 10:47

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 10:28

Yes it will OP.

Imagine a world where humans, even the most brilliant, talented and experienced individuals, are the least intelligent minds in the room. A world where knowledge has no value, because infinite knowledge is available, immediately. A world where virtually every electronic device is more intelligent than we are.

There may not even be any schools as we know them because knowledge will no longer be necessary to remember. Your children's lives will change, the old way of school, college, job, will no longer be appropriate. Even jobs may no longer be needed in the sense that we understand.

AGI, that is the state where a computer is able to think, reason and communicate as we do, is likely less than a decade away. We have no word in our language for how disruptive this technology will be. And no idea of the consequences.

Take a look at Boston Dynamics current android on YouTube, consider Atlas or Tesla Bot, now imagine them with an AGI operating system. This will happen sometime around 2030. We will then have limitless, salary free, 247 capable human replacments. What use will people be then in terms of employment. This isn't some far fetched conspiracy theory. This is real, it's happening, it WILL happen.

Think of the invention of the airplane. The right brothers first flight was in 1903, by 1916, we had dog fights in fighter planes over the trenches of WW1. In terms of aviation, A.I is at the Biplane stage. But thr jet fighter and Concorde are only five years away.

I disagree strongly with your first paragraph because the intelligent minds will be the ones who can assess the device's 'knowledge' for accuracy. Read anything produced by AI that you truly understand and it is always full of inaccuracies.