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AIBU to say AI will completely change how we parent and live?

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Ellis12 · 28/05/2025 19:28

I’ve been experimenting with AI tools recently (like ChatGPT and others), and it’s honestly been a game-changer for managing household stuff, helping with schoolwork, meal plans, even emotional support during tough days.

But it got me thinking are we at the start of something huge? Will AI end up changing how we raise our children, do our jobs, and even build relationships? AIBU to feel both excited and a bit nervous about how fast it's all happening?

Curious what others think, especially parents juggling a million things!

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User14March · 29/05/2025 13:15

I read tech elite in USA are not exposing kids to tech & encouraging other language acquisition/old school ‘rote’ learning at least until secondary age. Says something.

Barbadossunset · 29/05/2025 13:06

least ai would be immune to whining and could turn the WiFi off.

haha, yes. Maybe it could programme our brains to be immune to whining!😂

User14March · 29/05/2025 13:05

Larna4t · 29/05/2025 13:01

I dont see what all the fuss is about.

I typed a few questions into chatgpt and it just showed me the same information that a google search would

It’s the start…

Larna4t · 29/05/2025 13:01

I dont see what all the fuss is about.

I typed a few questions into chatgpt and it just showed me the same information that a google search would

Araminta1003 · 29/05/2025 12:59

Well apparently the DeepSeek creators were of the less compliant kind.

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:59

Snakeandladder · 29/05/2025 12:53

Yes but the students I teach don't do that despite telling them that it is often wrong. I think the next generation will just take it on face value that it's 100% correct.

Hopefully getting low marks, failing exams, being forced to re-do homework and assignments etc will concentrate their minds that they should be checking things over and doing "sanity checks".

Inthebleakmidwinter1 · 29/05/2025 12:59

I wish I could get an AI lumber cos i sure as hell can’t get a real one 😆 on the plus side it might help to plug the gap of the shrinking Working age population!

User14March · 29/05/2025 12:57

Barbadossunset · 29/05/2025 12:38

IReallyLoveItHere · Today 11:02
we could get the ai helper you see in films, on a screen in every room reminding the DC to do everything that you usually do

What happens if the child ignores it (or shouts ‘pushy parent, pushy pushy parent’ to the tune of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang when asked to get on with revision, as mine did).

Off topic but your child sounds brilliant, mine craftily cancelled a tutor I’d carefully arranged & got others to do their homework. I hear of all these kids who are super compliant & keen for extra Maths prep, tuition etc but it’s kids like yours who go furthest in end ;).

CurrentHun · 29/05/2025 12:54

I’m still trying to think about what AI will do to help us as parents but it does make me a bit paranoid. Everything we feed in goes somewhere and I don’t like thinking that a company in California or wherever knows that much about my kids or me.

Snakeandladder · 29/05/2025 12:53

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:45

But professionals won't be "relying" on it and nothing else. The mere fact that someone IS a professional means that they have experience and knowledge and have passed professional level examinations on there profession.

I don't "rely" on it when writing technical tax advice reports and dealing with tax enquiries/investigations. I use it as a tool just like years ago I'd sit in the office library with piles of text books, case law books, and acts of parliament - not to learn new stuff, but to check what I think I know, i.e. cross reference a court case to an act of parliament etc.

I ask ChatGPT to cite court case precedents and acts of parliament, and use my 40+ years of experience and knowledge to review what it's telling me as a kind of "sanity check", and then I ask it further questions or clarifications if anything looks odd or is contrary to my own knowledge and understanding.

Yes but the students I teach don't do that despite telling them that it is often wrong. I think the next generation will just take it on face value that it's 100% correct.

User14March · 29/05/2025 12:49

I think the reason the universe isn’t teeming
with intelligent life & we’ve not heard from alien civilisations is precisely due to AI advancement.

Is ‘it’ the ‘great filter’ ? Fermi Paradox?

WhySoManySocks · 29/05/2025 12:48

AI is wrong so often. Learning to rely on it is so dangerous.

RaininSummer · 29/05/2025 12:47

I think we need to step away from AI as nothing good is going to come from it in the long term.

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 12:47

Barbadossunset · 29/05/2025 12:38

IReallyLoveItHere · Today 11:02
we could get the ai helper you see in films, on a screen in every room reminding the DC to do everything that you usually do

What happens if the child ignores it (or shouts ‘pushy parent, pushy pushy parent’ to the tune of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang when asked to get on with revision, as mine did).

To be fair I'd be impressed with my ds imagination if he did that.

I agree with the point bug fir the sake of discussion, what do parents do in these situations? I see plenty of threads on here where parents don't enforce rules or give consequences, at least ai would be immune to whining and could turn the WiFi off.

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:45

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 12:43

A car is a tool. Did that change the way we live? Yes it did.

And changed it for the better for lots of people, probably far more than it changed the World for the worse.

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:45

Snakeandladder · 29/05/2025 12:38

Careful with the legal ones. I teach a bit of law and asked it to come up with some vignettes to illustrate a point in the law. It was consistently wrong.

It will get better no doubt but I wouldnt rely on it for legal info

But professionals won't be "relying" on it and nothing else. The mere fact that someone IS a professional means that they have experience and knowledge and have passed professional level examinations on there profession.

I don't "rely" on it when writing technical tax advice reports and dealing with tax enquiries/investigations. I use it as a tool just like years ago I'd sit in the office library with piles of text books, case law books, and acts of parliament - not to learn new stuff, but to check what I think I know, i.e. cross reference a court case to an act of parliament etc.

I ask ChatGPT to cite court case precedents and acts of parliament, and use my 40+ years of experience and knowledge to review what it's telling me as a kind of "sanity check", and then I ask it further questions or clarifications if anything looks odd or is contrary to my own knowledge and understanding.

gamerchick · 29/05/2025 12:44

Can't wait for the brain dead world where nobody can think for themselves. Sounds awesome.

IReallyLoveItHere · 29/05/2025 12:43

mondaytosunday · 29/05/2025 12:37

AI is a tool. Books are a tool. The internet is a tool. You use it as a virtual planner (or whatever). I’m not sure how changing the tool is changing how you live. It’s just a different method of doing the same thing.

A car is a tool. Did that change the way we live? Yes it did.

RayonSunrise · 29/05/2025 12:42

Imperfectpolly · 29/05/2025 10:08

I have been using chatgpt lately for things like meal plans, calendars, planners, viewing DIY changes to the house. I find it better than Google when researching.

Other than meal planning and calenders, I'm not sure how it will help me with parenting.

Did you not know how to do any of that yourself?

Araminta1003 · 29/05/2025 12:40

Not really regarding Sat Navs, as most of us still have a map and also still have the alternative on our phone to sense check/traffic check, figure out what to do if you hit a newly built road.
The whole point is that you will use different AIs ask them the same question and then draw your own conclusions. There won’t be one answer surely. They will be competing with each other.

Badbadbunny · 29/05/2025 12:40

StMarie4me · 29/05/2025 12:22

Yes, because it will accelerate global warming at an unprecedented speed. There will be massive repercussions from you and everyone else using it to simplify your life. Crack on if you think that the pay off is worth it.

Will it, though. At the moment, with AI, I can research and draft a highly technical tax report in a matter of minutes. Without AI, I'd probably be spending all day on the internet, googling, researching source documents like court cases, acts of parliament etc.

What takes more energy and computer power. Say half an hour via ChatGPT or a full day using google and other online sources?

valadon68 · 29/05/2025 12:40

This article suggests a good - and chilling - way of conceptualising what AI is all about, ie we should think of it in terms of world-building: https://www.newstatesman.com/technology/2025/02/deepseek-race-to-god-mode-ai
It draws on a world created by the blinkered and avaricious, and that world will shape ours in turn without our even knowing it. We are all blinkered individuals, the powerful aren't special in that respect, which is why none of us should monopolise the building of worlds in the first place. The AI we can access may seem clumsy and ridiculous for now, but it will push through that stage.
I also generally dislike the idea of steadily eliminating more and more friction from daily life. This goes back to the same old tired debates on technological ethics but my instinct is that we passed a healthy balance a while ago and are heading to really problematic disregulation of human psychology. I wouldn't want developing brains anywhere near it.

The race to God Mode

China and America’s AI battle is about more than just tech supremacy – it’s about controlling the future.

https://www.newstatesman.com/technology/2025/02/deepseek-race-to-god-mode-ai

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2025 12:40

Araminta1003 · 29/05/2025 12:32

I thought we are working on nuclear fusion and making strides and that will power all this stuff in a carbon neutral way,

The personalised tutoring and therapy angle, AI as a friend/teacher, is interesting. DD in Year 11 is using ChatGPT to help with GCSEs. We have solar panels. Still selling back to the grid at peanuts.

We are. It's all working wonderfully until we come up against the challenge of installing nuclear reactors in the playground at your child's school or
in the shopping centre on the edge of your town.

Snakeandladder · 29/05/2025 12:38

Careful with the legal ones. I teach a bit of law and asked it to come up with some vignettes to illustrate a point in the law. It was consistently wrong.

It will get better no doubt but I wouldnt rely on it for legal info

Barbadossunset · 29/05/2025 12:38

IReallyLoveItHere · Today 11:02
we could get the ai helper you see in films, on a screen in every room reminding the DC to do everything that you usually do

What happens if the child ignores it (or shouts ‘pushy parent, pushy pushy parent’ to the tune of Chitty Chitty Bang Bang when asked to get on with revision, as mine did).