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AIBU to say AI will completely change how we parent and live?

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Ellis12 · 28/05/2025 19:28

I’ve been experimenting with AI tools recently (like ChatGPT and others), and it’s honestly been a game-changer for managing household stuff, helping with schoolwork, meal plans, even emotional support during tough days.

But it got me thinking are we at the start of something huge? Will AI end up changing how we raise our children, do our jobs, and even build relationships? AIBU to feel both excited and a bit nervous about how fast it's all happening?

Curious what others think, especially parents juggling a million things!

OP posts:
hattie43 · 29/05/2025 18:16

I think AI is useful for planning stuff or guidance but it can’t change parenting or anything that requires a person to be present . Unless we expect robots to babysit them no it won’t take over

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 18:02

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 18:01

Still not my argument, you’re making stuff up.

You said this to someone else:

”does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?”

I chimed in “hope you don’t drive”.

That’s all.

Yes. Your argument being that because you drive, you can’t criticise much worse practices.

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 18:01

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 16:32

No, it’s not. If your argument is “well you drive, so you can’t be against AI”, it’s a lazy argument.

i drive a hybrid vehicle, btw.

Still not my argument, you’re making stuff up.

You said this to someone else:

”does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?”

I chimed in “hope you don’t drive”.

That’s all.

User14March · 29/05/2025 17:53

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 17:44

Yes, you could say that.

Think of how technology currently "controls" us, we have direct and indirect control. We aren't forced to stare at our smartphones for 11 hours a day, but that's the average for significant numbers of people, especially teenagers. But that's more passive, for active control measures think of QR codes for parking or ordering food. As A.I developes we will not just accept it, we will expect it. If you go to any Popeyes Restaurant in the UK, drive thru orders are taken using A.I, and it's (from personal experience) pretty much flawless, I can hesitate, umm and ahh as much as I like, change order mid sentence, the A.I always gets my order correct.

It's not hard to see how A.I tech could control most of our movements and dictate our behaviour. The UK government has just rolled out personal digital wallets for all UK citizens, they will contain all government I.D, as well as linking medical info, bank account details, car registrations and biometrics. So the government now has complete oversight, each of us will be monitored to a degree that would make Orwell turn in his grave. With a simple click the government will quite literally be able to see a spreadsheet of your entire existence, who you communicate with (including the content of all messages and emails), what you buy and when, where you go, who you associate with (thanks to Bluetooth proximity records and clicker counters). What car you drive, where you go, even track your driving behaviour thanks to most manufacturers putting "driver safety scores" in their cars, thanks Peugeot, kia, BMW, Renault and the rest.

Now imagine A.I monitoring your digital wallet, it could stop your card working, shut your car down (An EU and US directive mandated all manufacturers back in 2023 to provide access to a "kill switch" so the authorities can remotely shut your car down) All for safety you understand, to avoid pursuits and enforce Geofencing restrictions. Basically they can now literally stop you from turning your car on by remotely accessing it. You signed up for all this when you downloaded that fancy app for your phone when you bought your new car.

I can easily see digital curfews being used for "environmental" reasons. Flying too much, they can stop you going over your yearly quota. Driving too much, they can shut your car down, for example they could decide that your car will only start every other day. Eating too much meat, your card won't work if you try to pay for meat at the supermarket.

This is the world we are heading into.

Edited

Good points, sounds like an Asimov story or I Robot movie. I really think this may be the ‘Great Filter’. Why universe not teeming with life?

Will the best resources only be available to those deemed by AI to have IQ for ‘professional’ jobs?

Presumably the elite will try to be immune?

Dontlletmedownbruce · 29/05/2025 17:48

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:37

Every 5 ChatGPT prompt (I.e. what you put in) uses 500ml of water. Asking ChatGPT to parent your children by helping with homework or planning meals could be using 10s of litres of water a day.

ChatGPT’s third model emitted 502 metric tons of co2 while being trained. ChatGPT produces 260,000kg of co2 monthly.

does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?

Absolutely 💯 Someone explained to me only the other day the amount of energy this uses. I was gobsmacked. We might as well forget recycling and go back to Co2 sprays, pumping raw sewage into our water and coal fires if we want because if we are going to embrace this we are officially saying we don't give a crap about our planet. Of course the big tech companies and other companies will be using it, they never gave a shit about anything anyway. People do have some power here, we don't have to just move with the times because we are told to do so (by tech companies of course), we can refuse to engage if we wish.

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 17:44

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 15:49

@IthasYesso AI will soon be dominating and controlling the human race, as humans will be far less intelligent than AI?

Yes, you could say that.

Think of how technology currently "controls" us, we have direct and indirect control. We aren't forced to stare at our smartphones for 11 hours a day, but that's the average for significant numbers of people, especially teenagers. But that's more passive, for active control measures think of QR codes for parking or ordering food. As A.I developes we will not just accept it, we will expect it. If you go to any Popeyes Restaurant in the UK, drive thru orders are taken using A.I, and it's (from personal experience) pretty much flawless, I can hesitate, umm and ahh as much as I like, change order mid sentence, the A.I always gets my order correct.

It's not hard to see how A.I tech could control most of our movements and dictate our behaviour. The UK government has just rolled out personal digital wallets for all UK citizens, they will contain all government I.D, as well as linking medical info, bank account details, car registrations and biometrics. So the government now has complete oversight, each of us will be monitored to a degree that would make Orwell turn in his grave. With a simple click the government will quite literally be able to see a spreadsheet of your entire existence, who you communicate with (including the content of all messages and emails), what you buy and when, where you go, who you associate with (thanks to Bluetooth proximity records and clicker counters). What car you drive, where you go, even track your driving behaviour thanks to most manufacturers putting "driver safety scores" in their cars, thanks Peugeot, kia, BMW, Renault and the rest.

Now imagine A.I monitoring your digital wallet, it could stop your card working, shut your car down (An EU and US directive mandated all manufacturers back in 2023 to provide access to a "kill switch" so the authorities can remotely shut your car down) All for safety you understand, to avoid pursuits and enforce Geofencing restrictions. Basically they can now literally stop you from turning your car on by remotely accessing it. You signed up for all this when you downloaded that fancy app for your phone when you bought your new car.

I can easily see digital curfews being used for "environmental" reasons. Flying too much, they can stop you going over your yearly quota. Driving too much, they can shut your car down, for example they could decide that your car will only start every other day. Eating too much meat, your card won't work if you try to pay for meat at the supermarket.

This is the world we are heading into.

user101101 · 29/05/2025 17:28

RaininSummer · 29/05/2025 12:47

I think we need to step away from AI as nothing good is going to come from it in the long term.

Agree. It’s another form of UPF in my mind. Makes us further away from our humanity, not for the better if we value our happiness

JohnTheRevelator · 29/05/2025 17:01

I think it will change things,some for the good (medical issues) and some not so good (taking people's jobs). I was listening to an expert on the radio last night talking about AI. Someone said that if AI ends up taking thousands of people's jobs, and these people cannot find other work,there will have to be a Universal Basic Income brought in,which does not require unemployed people to look for work. But as someone else pointed out,how will the government find this UBI if there is no one working and paying tax to fund it? Quite frankly,I'm rather glad that this has all started now when I'm only 5 years from pension age,than 10/20/30 years ago. I feel sorry for young people starting out now, knowing that in a few years time they will possibly be made redundant because of AI.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 29/05/2025 16:57

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:27

It’s not a species. It’s not going to have dna running through it that makes it ensure its own survival.

See experiment where ai blackmails engineer to ensure its survival.

User14March · 29/05/2025 16:39

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:27

It’s not a species. It’s not going to have dna running through it that makes it ensure its own survival.

The singularity & self aware AI…

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 16:32

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:30

Rude. And that’s not my argument!

No, it’s not. If your argument is “well you drive, so you can’t be against AI”, it’s a lazy argument.

i drive a hybrid vehicle, btw.

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:30

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 16:28

What a useless comment. Expecting people to withdraw completely from society in order to ease their carbon emissions while also excusing the 1% completely destroying the planet is a lazy argument. I could give up everything, move off grid and grow everything myself and it wouldn’t make a jot of difference.

However if everyone revolted against things such as AI? Private jets etc., we’d be better off.

Rude. And that’s not my argument!

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 16:28

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:23

Hope you don’t drive.

What a useless comment. Expecting people to withdraw completely from society in order to ease their carbon emissions while also excusing the 1% completely destroying the planet is a lazy argument. I could give up everything, move off grid and grow everything myself and it wouldn’t make a jot of difference.

However if everyone revolted against things such as AI? Private jets etc., we’d be better off.

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 29/05/2025 16:27

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 16:14

”No intelligent species allows itself to be ruled by a less intelligent species”

But surely the people creating AI must have concerns about this?

Probably think they’ll be the chosen one as portrayed in many films!
i do feel like we are sleep walking into a future we don’t want

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:27

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 16:14

”No intelligent species allows itself to be ruled by a less intelligent species”

But surely the people creating AI must have concerns about this?

It’s not a species. It’s not going to have dna running through it that makes it ensure its own survival.

OriginalUsername2 · 29/05/2025 16:23

WombForTwo · 29/05/2025 11:37

Every 5 ChatGPT prompt (I.e. what you put in) uses 500ml of water. Asking ChatGPT to parent your children by helping with homework or planning meals could be using 10s of litres of water a day.

ChatGPT’s third model emitted 502 metric tons of co2 while being trained. ChatGPT produces 260,000kg of co2 monthly.

does it feel good? Killing the planet to save a little bit of time?

Hope you don’t drive.

User14March · 29/05/2025 16:17

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 16:14

”No intelligent species allows itself to be ruled by a less intelligent species”

But surely the people creating AI must have concerns about this?

You’d think. Some have spoken out & said it’s all very unwise. A future ‘Skynet’ scenario seems scarily plausible.

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 16:14

”No intelligent species allows itself to be ruled by a less intelligent species”

But surely the people creating AI must have concerns about this?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 29/05/2025 16:03

Snakeandladder · 29/05/2025 10:10

I was wondering if it might be the death knell to the internet. I used to watch videos of cute otters. Now they're probably ai. So no more otter videos for me. Most social media posts are probably ai too. The info on websites will be ai. What is the point of the internet at that stage?

That’s interesting. I’m noticing I'm
no longer bothering with lots of online interactions that are Ai generated or if I suspect they are Ai generated. Whats the point, it’s nonsense.

grizzlyoldbear · 29/05/2025 16:00

@Jessica167353 I think there is already less going on in Mumsnet because of Chat GPT. People who don't want to risk being piled on or ridiculed, or who are shy will likely be using it instead.

grizzlyoldbear · 29/05/2025 15:55

Yes, I believe it will change everything as much as the internet did

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 15:49

IthasYes · 29/05/2025 10:33

@Chiseltip agree and as an expert on this I heard on radio said " no intelligent species allows itself to be ruled by a less intelligent species,".
It will definitely affect teaching because it will also be able to deliver bespoke content according to the specific needs of the class.

@IthasYesso AI will soon be dominating and controlling the human race, as humans will be far less intelligent than AI?

FiendsandFairies · 29/05/2025 15:43

Chiseltip · 29/05/2025 10:28

Yes it will OP.

Imagine a world where humans, even the most brilliant, talented and experienced individuals, are the least intelligent minds in the room. A world where knowledge has no value, because infinite knowledge is available, immediately. A world where virtually every electronic device is more intelligent than we are.

There may not even be any schools as we know them because knowledge will no longer be necessary to remember. Your children's lives will change, the old way of school, college, job, will no longer be appropriate. Even jobs may no longer be needed in the sense that we understand.

AGI, that is the state where a computer is able to think, reason and communicate as we do, is likely less than a decade away. We have no word in our language for how disruptive this technology will be. And no idea of the consequences.

Take a look at Boston Dynamics current android on YouTube, consider Atlas or Tesla Bot, now imagine them with an AGI operating system. This will happen sometime around 2030. We will then have limitless, salary free, 247 capable human replacments. What use will people be then in terms of employment. This isn't some far fetched conspiracy theory. This is real, it's happening, it WILL happen.

Think of the invention of the airplane. The right brothers first flight was in 1903, by 1916, we had dog fights in fighter planes over the trenches of WW1. In terms of aviation, A.I is at the Biplane stage. But thr jet fighter and Concorde are only five years away.

This!!

Dogpawsandcatwhiskers · 29/05/2025 15:40

Have just read The Family Experiment by John Marrs which is Big Brother show meets The Handmaids Tale. It's been an interesting and thought provoking read into how society and parenthood is manipulated by social media and AI. Tbh my own early experiences of parenthood (pre mobile phone) were very hands on compared to the authors imagined future of parenting.

Jessica167353 · 29/05/2025 15:28

It could be the end of Mumsnet. You could run half the questions on this site through ChatGPT and get a much more concise and friendly answer in a fraction of the time.