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DP friends wife, AIBU?

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MooreMooreMoore · 28/05/2025 13:24

DP has a big group of former colleagues and their partners who regularly meet up. They are all really nice, one woman insists on prefixing my name with ‘young’ eg. Can you pass the wine to ‘young Emma’. I am the only Emma, so she’s not differentiating between old and young Emma.
We are all within a 4 year age range, I’m the same age as half the group including her husband, we all have comparable education and success levels.
I need a nice retort to put a stop to it, but something that won’t highlight me as the problem, but it’s annoying me, she’s ever so nice, but it still feels I dunno belittling.
AIBU? Is it me? Would this annoy you?

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MooreMooreMoore · 28/05/2025 13:36

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/05/2025 13:32

Her name isn't Bridget by any chance, is it...?!

No, have you suffered a similar fate?

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MooreMooreMoore · 28/05/2025 13:35

ICantBeDoingWithThat · 28/05/2025 13:29

"Just Emma, that's my name" EVERY single time she says it. Loud enough that other people hear you. Eye roll "what's she like". to everyone else. Show her up, she's being a dick.

God, she’d probably take that literally, I’d be forever known as Just Emma

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MooreMooreMoore · 28/05/2025 13:33

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 28/05/2025 13:28

If the above doesn't work have a quiet word with XX's partner that it bugs you

He’s a fog horn, I fear it would be used more.

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IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/05/2025 13:33

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 28/05/2025 13:28

'You know this 'young Emma' thing, we need a nickname for you 😄😄 what do you all think guys??'

Wait for everyone to get talking on funny nicknames and then when everyone is talking friendly 'you know nicknames have never really been my thing! I think XX is the only person to ever give me one!!'

Big smiles the whole time

She could be 'Vintage Sandra' Grin

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/05/2025 13:32

Her name isn't Bridget by any chance, is it...?!

TheCurious0range · 28/05/2025 13:31

Call her old Donna or whatever her name is, or comments such as yes it's so funny we're so close in age I really didn't think so when we first met, ha ha I guess time is kind to some of us.

GrumpyInsomniac · 28/05/2025 13:31

I’m petty in these circumstances and if the direct approach didn’t work would insist on referring to her as ‘old’ whatever her name is until she got the hint.

Gemmawemma9 · 28/05/2025 13:31

CapitalAtRisk · 28/05/2025 13:30

"Thank you old Suzanne!"

😂 this made me laugh.
i would take being called young though, tbh 😂

arcticpandas · 28/05/2025 13:30

"Oh thank you old Rachel" . And just keep doing it until she stops.

CapitalAtRisk · 28/05/2025 13:30

"Thank you old Suzanne!"

ICantBeDoingWithThat · 28/05/2025 13:29

"Just Emma, that's my name" EVERY single time she says it. Loud enough that other people hear you. Eye roll "what's she like". to everyone else. Show her up, she's being a dick.

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 28/05/2025 13:28

If the above doesn't work have a quiet word with XX's partner that it bugs you

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 28/05/2025 13:28

'You know this 'young Emma' thing, we need a nickname for you 😄😄 what do you all think guys??'

Wait for everyone to get talking on funny nicknames and then when everyone is talking friendly 'you know nicknames have never really been my thing! I think XX is the only person to ever give me one!!'

Big smiles the whole time

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