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Inappropriate Tesco substitute! WIBU to complain?

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tigerlady14 · 28/05/2025 09:44

tw: mention of alcoholism

100% fine with being told I’m being very silly and overreacting which I think might be likely due to the emotional circumstances surrounding this, but I need some clearheaded opinions as my knee jerk reaction tells me this is really inappropriate.
For background I am a recovering alcoholic and looking forwards to celebrating 2.5 years of sobriety this week. For a treat I decided to add a pretty expensive “premium” alcohol-free beverage to my weekly Tesco order. I drink alcohol-free drinks quite often but this one was a particularly special one to mark the significant occasion for me (this is why I think I may be BU as I might be particularly sensitive due to the nature of the purchase.)
I was therefore really surprised to see that they had substituted this with the original, alcohol equivalent when my order arrived! I of course refused the substitution and they took it away with no problems so happy to be told that I should accept this as the end of it, but I can’t help but feeling a sense that this substitution is really quite inappropriate.
I am aware that when placing the order you can select if you want substitutions or not, in this case I chose to allow substitutions as I expected to receive something similarly alcohol-free if they didn’t have the item in stock. It didn’t cross my mind that they might substitute it with alcohol, particularly as I live in Scotland and there is a clear pop up on the website indicating that alcohol cannot be purchased on orders being delivered prior to 10am (the slot was 8-9am) due to licensing laws.
Therefore I am wondering WIBU to complain about this substitution, both due to the inappropriate nature of it as well as the violation of licensing laws? I can’t imagine any situation where someone would have ordered an alcohol free drink and would be happy to receive one with alcohol, it just seems wholly unsuitable. However as I say this is obviously quite emotional for me so happy to be told I am being silly.

YANBU: complain to make them aware of the issue and so that they might take it into consideration in future
YABU: you are overreacting, no harm was done as the substitution was removed and refunded

OP posts:
IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/05/2025 11:07

Grammarnut · 28/05/2025 10:51

Tescoes don't know you are a recovering alcoholic - you could buy 0% 'alcohol' for lots of reasons. And the pickers work to a tight schedule and are (afaik) paid by how many orders they fill. If you say an item can be substituted they will pick up the nearest similar item, not hunt the shelves for an exact facsimile. I got fillet steak for rump steak once (kept it) and lemon wipes for lemon juice on another occasion (also kept it - quite useful). Say 'no substitutes' if it's going to be a problem. You've no reason to complain, IMO, because Tescoes did what you asked.

you could buy 0% 'alcohol' for lots of reasons.

Indeed - all of them because you want 0% alcohol; and for most people who actively choose 0% alcohol, alcohol would not be in any way acceptable.

Offering fillet steak instead of rump steak is a perfectly reasonable substitution; offering booze to somebody who has specifically ordered a no-booze option is ridiculously incompetent.

Strictlymad · 28/05/2025 11:01

I would make them aware, I feel like it’s an inappropriate sub also. And for some products there’s a good reason you choose what you do. If they sub plum toms for toms it’s a tomato. I order dairy free philly for my severely allergic daughter. They send normal when they could sub for violife or own brand vegan cream cheese. Surely that would make more sense!

Fortean · 28/05/2025 11:01

Dotjones · 28/05/2025 09:51

I think you're unreasonable because it's a reasonable substitute in principle and to be honest a better substitute than Tesco commonly offer. (Alcoholic gin is a better substitute for "alcohol-free" gin than mushroom soup is for tomato soup, for instance.)

All substitutes are a matter for the customer to decide to accept or refuse. In this case you refused it, as is your right.

They've not breached licensing laws for two reasons. One, you didn't order alcohol to be ordered early, and two, your refusal of the alcohol means they didn't deliver alcohol early.

I don't think it is reasonable to substitute non-alcoholic products for ones containing alcohol, though. There are all kinds of medical and cultural reasons why someone would choose a non-alcoholic version.

ERthree · 28/05/2025 11:00

They were in the wrong. Congratulations by the way, 2 and a half years is fantastic. Keep choosing life x

Whattodo1610 · 28/05/2025 10:58

PrincessDonut · 28/05/2025 10:50

Just wanted to say that pickers can override the suggested substitution if it’s something weird that the system throws up. They should be trained on acceptable swaps and to also use their common sense.

They can, but they also have a target to reach .. it’s very strict and often leaves no time for decisions and browsing.

Tbrh · 28/05/2025 10:58

I think it's a fair complaint. Firstly because of the reasons you state, which are serious but also surely some common sense should be applied. As an example, someone doesn't want normal bread instead of gluten free, as you'd assume they're ordering gluten free for a reason. Well done on your sobriety.

Beeinalily · 28/05/2025 10:58

You are NOT being unreasonable OP, and well done for resisting - someone else in the same position may have fallen off the wagon, so I think they need to be told.

tigger1001 · 28/05/2025 10:58

its not an appropriate substitute at all. I maybe wouldn't "complain" but would certainly point out that replacing something non alcoholic with alcohol isn't appropriate and also that supplying alcohol before 10am is breaking licensing laws.

it's likely someone just hasn't thought through what they are doing, but it does need looked at

well done on your sobriety

Barbiewhirl · 28/05/2025 10:57

Grammarnut · 28/05/2025 10:56

How? The pickers are working to a schedule. Mind, I don't know how they picked an alcoholic drink or why, since usually the 0% are all together. Maybe they need a policy not to substitute non-alcoholic drinks for alcoholic ones but it's a bit itsy because 0% alcohol e.g. gin is not usually a go-to for recovering alcoholics, more likely to be someone on a diet, so the assumption of the picker, who probably just picked the nearest likely bottle being on a schedule, was that the person ordering was ok with alcohol, since they obv. like the taste of alcohol (e.g. 0% Gordon's gin tastes the same).

Edited

When I was a picker we had parameters on the scanner, doesnt seem like it'd be wild to build it in.

Barbiewhirl · 28/05/2025 10:57

Id definitely feed it back to them, most people would presume leaving subs on would mean a sub for another non alcoholic drink surely? Congratulations by the way for sending it back, thats no small feat.

Grammarnut · 28/05/2025 10:56

ErrolTheDragon · 28/05/2025 10:51

Can’t believe anyone voted YABU, of course you should complain, it absolutely shouldn’t have happened.
This is something that needs fixing in their systems.

How? The pickers are working to a schedule. Mind, I don't know how they picked an alcoholic drink or why, since usually the 0% are all together. Maybe they need a policy not to substitute non-alcoholic drinks for alcoholic ones but it's a bit itsy because 0% alcohol e.g. gin is not usually a go-to for recovering alcoholics, more likely to be someone on a diet, so the assumption of the picker, who probably just picked the nearest likely bottle being on a schedule, was that the person ordering was ok with alcohol, since they obv. like the taste of alcohol (e.g. 0% Gordon's gin tastes the same).

DancingDucks · 28/05/2025 10:53

Dotjones · 28/05/2025 09:51

I think you're unreasonable because it's a reasonable substitute in principle and to be honest a better substitute than Tesco commonly offer. (Alcoholic gin is a better substitute for "alcohol-free" gin than mushroom soup is for tomato soup, for instance.)

All substitutes are a matter for the customer to decide to accept or refuse. In this case you refused it, as is your right.

They've not breached licensing laws for two reasons. One, you didn't order alcohol to be ordered early, and two, your refusal of the alcohol means they didn't deliver alcohol early.

I think the opposite.

I don't think substituting alcohol when someone has ordered something non-alcoholic is reasonable at all. To me, that's the opposite of using common sense.

WhatdoesitmeanKeith · 28/05/2025 10:53

OtterlyMad · 28/05/2025 09:49

I think this must be an error and Tesco should be made aware of it ASAP in case someone with less will power than you or in a bad place accepts the substitution.

Agree. Or worse doesn’t spot that it’s a substitution.

OP congratulations on your milestone!

Ihateslugs · 28/05/2025 10:52

TY78910 · 28/05/2025 10:19

I would probably raise it as a feedback opportunity. Substitutions are made by programmed systems that sort of find the next best thing and whoever picks the products will have a specific barcode it’ll allow them to scan so it’s not a human error, it’s a computer one. It would be good for them to consider in programming for sure.

A delivery man once told me that although a computer will tell the picker what to substitute something with, the picker can over ride it to select a different item. The drivers at his depot have a weekly competition to see what the silliest substitution is!

Grammarnut · 28/05/2025 10:51

Tescoes don't know you are a recovering alcoholic - you could buy 0% 'alcohol' for lots of reasons. And the pickers work to a tight schedule and are (afaik) paid by how many orders they fill. If you say an item can be substituted they will pick up the nearest similar item, not hunt the shelves for an exact facsimile. I got fillet steak for rump steak once (kept it) and lemon wipes for lemon juice on another occasion (also kept it - quite useful). Say 'no substitutes' if it's going to be a problem. You've no reason to complain, IMO, because Tescoes did what you asked.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 28/05/2025 10:51

They've not breached licensing laws for two reasons. One, you didn't order alcohol to be ordered early, and two, your refusal of the alcohol means they didn't deliver alcohol early.

'Not breaching licensing laws' is a low baseline for responsible behaviour though. They could impose a 'don't substitute alcohol for alcohol-free' policy.

ErrolTheDragon · 28/05/2025 10:51

Can’t believe anyone voted YABU, of course you should complain, it absolutely shouldn’t have happened.
This is something that needs fixing in their systems.

DancingDucks · 28/05/2025 10:50

I would let them know. I don't think it's a reasonable substitution - a different alcohol free option would have been appropriate. It's reasonable to assume that had a customer wanted something with alcohol in it, they would have ordered it. While it's up to the customer to accept or refuse a substitution, it's a pain in the arse if it's something completely unreasonable, as this is. I ordered a vegan pie for DD when she was home and they replaced it with a steak pie. Pickers should apply some common sense.

BunnyLake · 28/05/2025 10:50

Dotjones · 28/05/2025 09:51

I think you're unreasonable because it's a reasonable substitute in principle and to be honest a better substitute than Tesco commonly offer. (Alcoholic gin is a better substitute for "alcohol-free" gin than mushroom soup is for tomato soup, for instance.)

All substitutes are a matter for the customer to decide to accept or refuse. In this case you refused it, as is your right.

They've not breached licensing laws for two reasons. One, you didn't order alcohol to be ordered early, and two, your refusal of the alcohol means they didn't deliver alcohol early.

I think it’s the opposite of ‘in principle’. Meat instead of vegan, gluten instead of gluten free, alcohol instead on non-alcohol etc is surely the opposites.

cyvguhb · 28/05/2025 10:50

ThrowawayAccount29 · 28/05/2025 10:44

YABU. They had no way of knowing you were a recovering alcoholic, they took it away, no harm done 🤷‍♀️ I mean, I guess you could complain that they brought the alcohol before 10am but what would that achieve apart from spoiling your big celebration this week? Just enjoy being 2.5 years sober and forget about it.

I don't know about the 10am rule thing but it's bloomin obvious that you don't sub a non alcoholic product with an alcoholic one.

Being a recovering alcoholic isn't even relevant, it's common sense

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 28/05/2025 10:50

Not unreasonable in any way. You shouldn't even attempt to deliver alcohol to a home unless it has been specifically ordered by an adult.

Alcohol is potentially a contentious product and lots of people don't drink it, or even want it in their homes, for very good reasons - health, ethical, religious, or other personal circumstances.

It was probably a mistake rather than a deliberate sabotage; but it is a very bad and concerning mistake, and one that betrays an urgent need for training and/or lack of care on the part of the picker.

Surely the point of substitutions is that e.g. you order Heinz beans and they offer you Tesco beans; or you order whole milk and they offer you semi-skimmed; or you order sprouts and they offer you a cabbage. Reasonable alternative choices that a lot of people might well make if they were in the shop themselves.

Alcohol-free adult-targeted drinks are a very different category of product from standard alcoholic ones. In principle, they have far more in common with lemonade or Appletise than with normal wine or beer. Just like Glamorgan sausages are very different from pork sausages. If somebody ordered a product from their Free-from range, would they not stop to wonder why that clear choice may have been made and just send regular cake or bread anyway?

PrincessDonut · 28/05/2025 10:50

Just wanted to say that pickers can override the suggested substitution if it’s something weird that the system throws up. They should be trained on acceptable swaps and to also use their common sense.

Whattodo1610 · 28/05/2025 10:48

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/05/2025 10:36

I'd mention it to them.
They need to make staff aware.
Congratulations on your sobriety.

It’s not the staff who choose the substitute .. they get a list on their handheld computer device and they have to substitute with an item that is listed. The computer algorithm needs changing, as a pp mentioned.

fiveIsNewOne · 28/05/2025 10:46

MrsFinkelstein · 28/05/2025 10:40

My husband works for Asda - you can complain, but it's not the pickers who choose the substitutes.

Their hand held device that tells them what to pick updates stock levels automatically and when that item is out of stock the system picks the substitute. The pickers don't know what is a sub and what isn't. (That's how it works at Asda).

You'd be better putting in you don't want substitutes.

Yeah, makes sense it's not the pickers who chooses, that would cause more chaos, not less.
However, it just means that instead of staff training, the desirable outcome is the system being configured to not replace non-alcoholic with alcoholic.

Whattodo1610 · 28/05/2025 10:45

I would email and let them know. However I’m not sure what will change, as the ‘picker’ is given a list of substitutions to choose from when an item is out of stock. It’s on their handheld computer system.