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To want to know what you're sick of about men !

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GingerPussInBoots · 27/05/2025 23:55

OK, OK its not all men

But this comment on another thread ade me laugh so much and I seriously related, anything else you'd like to add?

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Jujujudo · 28/05/2025 09:02

Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 28/05/2025 08:32

How driven by their dicks they are

I told my Narcissist (undiagnosed but he is) H last week that I couldn’t continue this way any longer. That I’m physically and emotionally exhausted, I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t have a normal conversation, sick of always being in the wrong, sick of him putting his mother before his own children, sick of being a single married mother, desperate for some attention and empathy etc etc.
The very next day he says to me in a whiny voice (as though I’d not said any of those things the night before): why don’t you want to have sex with me anymore? I feel very offended that you don’t ever suggest it.

FUUUUUUUUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!

ItsBouqeeeet · 28/05/2025 09:00

Boredlass · 28/05/2025 07:47

Yeah, Mumsnet isn’t man hating at all…

This. Imagine the outrage if a man posted a similar thread about women?

SweetSound · 28/05/2025 08:58

Spacehop · 28/05/2025 08:37

To reassure you that stops when you're older. No man has dared this said this to me in decades. I think it's post-menopausal RBF.

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My mother still gets it and she’s 70.

Jujujudo · 28/05/2025 08:58

Thinking that going out to work in order to financially support their family makes them some kind of fucking superhero.

Jujujudo · 28/05/2025 08:55

Byebyechicken · 28/05/2025 01:49

'Where's your sense of humour?'
'It's not my fault.'
'You're making a mountain out of a molehill.'

Not to mention their seemingly insatiable sexual appetite!
When I've been on my feet all day, making mental lists of everything that needs doing, I'm beyond exhausted, the last thing I want to do is play with your dick! Why can't you see this before you have to ask yet again?
And why when I say no do you immediately jump to the conclusion that I don't find you attractive anymore, rather than notice that I'm exhausted and overwhelmed with all of the responsibilities you have quietly left to me.
Men who treat women like the supporting act in their quest for happiness, conveniently ignoring that she would like to please herself sometimes, as he so often does.

Thunderous applause!

Chocolateorange22 · 28/05/2025 08:53

AltitudeCheck · 28/05/2025 08:02

Men in the office who never make the tea, wash the cups, organise a leaving card/ collection for their direct reports, take the post etc because they are blind to these seemingly small tasks and happy for women to pick up the slack.

Reminds me of the time that the male director of the company (early 30's) asked me in the kitchen if I ever made coffee ready for my line manager on his desk for when he came in (male also early 30's). I think my face was far too WTAF for his liking.

TheaBrandt1 · 28/05/2025 08:40

I can safely say I have never once in my life shouted at a stranger about their appearance. Yet I have had it done to me sooo many times - always by men.

Spacehop · 28/05/2025 08:37

ASweetSummerChild · 28/05/2025 03:17

“Cheer up love, it might never happen”.
Fuck off.

To reassure you that stops when you're older. No man has dared this said this to me in decades. I think it's post-menopausal RBF.

Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 28/05/2025 08:32

How driven by their dicks they are

mambojambodothetango · 28/05/2025 08:22

Thinking with their penises. In one way or another. All the time.

Renabrook · 28/05/2025 08:18

For all the man hate women spend a lot of time and money trying to look good for them, desperate to get one and keep one yet constantly complain about them but can't seem to live without them and let them do all thinking for them 'i need ro be sahm as that is what he wants', of course not all women

MartinMonahan · 28/05/2025 08:03

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AltitudeCheck · 28/05/2025 08:02

Men in the office who never make the tea, wash the cups, organise a leaving card/ collection for their direct reports, take the post etc because they are blind to these seemingly small tasks and happy for women to pick up the slack.

Valkyrie3 · 28/05/2025 08:01

The way they drive, always expecting to be able to cut me up with ease cos I have a small car. How angry they get when I don’t let them. Entitled wankers.

SweetSound · 28/05/2025 07:56

I hate that they feel they can comment when I’m running/exercising. From the pervy comments, to the ‘advice’ on technique. I’ve very fit, have been a runner and gym goer for many years and these men usually look far from peak fitness….they can fuck off. They never offer advice to my partner and son. Funny that.

Men that think it’s possible to babysit their own children.

furrysocks · 28/05/2025 07:47

Men at work who’ll happily do all the attention grabbing big idea stuff but always leave the dull details to the women.

Boredlass · 28/05/2025 07:47

Yeah, Mumsnet isn’t man hating at all…

honeylulu · 28/05/2025 07:45

TheaBrandt1 · 28/05/2025 05:32

The inability to see how utterly privileged they are then the nerve that some of them actually feel hard done by!

Yes this is what I wanted to say, but more articulate.

The older I get the more entitled and selfish men seem, always putting themselves first and assuming others will, yet not even realising that they are doing it because it's so ingrained (by biology, society, both, I don't know ...) And moaning about women's failings - nagging, don't contribute enough financially, letting themselves go, boring and mumsy once they've had children, not sexually availableat the drop of a hat -without recognising the part men play in those dynamics.

Gonk123 · 28/05/2025 07:22

It’s when they talk out of their arse…literally! It stinks!! And of course women don’t have wind do they?!

OtterlyMad · 28/05/2025 07:18

Expecting a pat on the head simply for contributing.
“I’ve unloaded the dishwasher”
“I’ll strip the bed for you”
“I just did the washing up”

Like …ok? What do you want, a medal?

(Yet I’m also grateful because there are so many women on Mumsnet with disgusting useless lumps for partners and mine is actually decent, even though this is a really annoying habit of his!)

didistutter56 · 28/05/2025 06:22

The “male loneliness epidemic”, give me strength.

TakingHavenInTescoExpress · 28/05/2025 06:11

Their assumption that all women are desperate for their attention.

unsync · 28/05/2025 06:06

There's not enough bandwidth to cover my thoughts on this one.

AnnieAzul · 28/05/2025 05:47

The fact all our daughter’s have to change their behaviour and adapt their movements in an attempt to keep themselves safe from the male sex class.

This is not limited to;
not wearing earphones when walking at night, ignoring the random men shouting at her when she runs in the park, taking a less enjoyable route nearer the main paths when running, hyper vigilance for men following when walking home, getting a taxi when she’d rather walk, looking for a train carriage with other women in when she returns late at night…….

ConcernedOfClapham · 28/05/2025 05:34

ASweetSummerChild · 28/05/2025 03:17

“Cheer up love, it might never happen”.
Fuck off.

That’s exactly what I was going to post, word-for-word! 😆