To secretly speculate about my friends' future divorces

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flossydog · 27/05/2025 21:21

I don't share my thoughts out loud as it'd be mean and hurt trust if it got back to them, but I often find myself trying to guess which of the couples I know are most likely to split up.

Is that really bad?? Anyone else do this...?

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Ohmygodthepain · 27/05/2025 21:53

I once went to a wedding with a group of guests who were making a bet on when they'd break up. It was doomed and lasted less than 2 years.

I'm divorced and it surprises me that some of my friends stay married - their marriages are utterly miserable with affairs, financial abuse, verbal abuse in drink and one physical bust-up. God knows what happens behind closed doors.

Trickabrick · 27/05/2025 21:53

Can honestly say I’ve never done this, you need a better hobby!

Littlelambsy · 27/05/2025 21:51

I actually don’t do this. It’s good you keep it to yourself though and you can’t control your thoughts I suppose.

I’ve heard colleagues say to other colleagues that everyone who’s married in their 20s will divorce in their 30s and 40s. It sounds bitter when I hear it and it’s always from people who married later and moan about their marriages (but I’m probably too sensitive to it as I got married in my 20s) 🫣

Overtheatlantic · 27/05/2025 21:51

Thoughts held in mind produce their kind! 😬

Fredthefrog · 27/05/2025 21:50

I have wonder this from time to time as odds are that we won't all stay married. Then I worry it will be me. I definitely wouldn't say anything to them though.

TheCurious0range · 27/05/2025 21:50

It's a bit odd. I think we probably all know couples who if they announced they were separating, we wouldn't be hugely surprised, but to sit and think about your friends' marriages and when you think they'll end isn't usual

NoSourDough · 27/05/2025 21:50

That’s interesting because I do this and I have been bang on the money with every single couple I’ve predicted
….in my head obviously! This is over a 25 year span of time..

Vallmo47 · 27/05/2025 21:49

My MIL is like this. She’s divorced 3 times. 🤣

BecFlowers · 27/05/2025 21:47

I mean, I don’t think it’s unreasonable if it’s a secret little habit you have that you keep to yourself if you really must do it - but I think you’re very right that you need to never share those thoughts out loud! If a friend of mine told me she had odds on that my husband and I were likely to divorce, I would not be impressed!

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