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What’s everyone’s opinion

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 19:17

New to this so just wondering how it all works. My first post last night was ok but some people are very nasty about punctuation and grammar. Are people that stuck up about it. Maybe some peope didn’t have good parents or some sat at their desk in class staring into space with not a clue what to do. When everyone was busy writing.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:17

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:14

Am 39 nearly 40 and I have always been like that like I have said am new to this but didn’t expect that reaction for my writing tbh it upset me

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What category

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Tulipsontoast · 27/05/2025 21:17

EllasNonny · 27/05/2025 20:49

I knew who you were before I looked...

Torn?

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:17

Tulipsontoast · 27/05/2025 21:10

The poster means that your attitude needs more attention than your spelling and grammar.

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I genuinely don’t realise it tbh I don’t think am being that rude maybe the bitch thing but I was being defensive

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:14

rubicustellitall · 27/05/2025 21:11

Can I ask you a question please OP? How old are you? The reason I ask that is because, (and I am not having a go in the slightest at you so please don't think I am) you write your posts like my daughter does, in sort of a text way if you get my drift? She, my daughter types out her texts to me and it is very different to how she would write a letter for example. I struggle to understand her texts sometimes and She thinks I waffle too much in my texts back! Its a generational thing I guess!
Also another thing with Mumsnet is AIBU is often loving classed as being the place for straight answers and some people can be a bit sensitive , people who reply in this section are often called Vipers but we are not really! If AIBU is a bit heavy going maybe posting in the other sections of catagories on here might be better?

Am 39 nearly 40 and I have always been like that like I have said am new to this but didn’t expect that reaction for my writing tbh it upset me

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rubicustellitall · 27/05/2025 21:11

Can I ask you a question please OP? How old are you? The reason I ask that is because, (and I am not having a go in the slightest at you so please don't think I am) you write your posts like my daughter does, in sort of a text way if you get my drift? She, my daughter types out her texts to me and it is very different to how she would write a letter for example. I struggle to understand her texts sometimes and She thinks I waffle too much in my texts back! Its a generational thing I guess!
Also another thing with Mumsnet is AIBU is often loving classed as being the place for straight answers and some people can be a bit sensitive , people who reply in this section are often called Vipers but we are not really! If AIBU is a bit heavy going maybe posting in the other sections of catagories on here might be better?

Linked · 27/05/2025 21:10

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:07

Yes I know that’s not a good thing to do Mrs Dogcatkitten but with so many it’s hard not to

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So instead of admitting you were wrong for calling one person a bitch, you’ve doubled down and decided to imply lots of us are bitches.

Tulipsontoast · 27/05/2025 21:10

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:51

What was it them I don’t understand

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The poster means that your attitude needs more attention than your spelling and grammar.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:09

CapitalAtRisk · 27/05/2025 20:58

Clippity clop

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What is your point in that comment

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Waitingfordoggo · 27/05/2025 21:08

Sometimes people post on MN and it is clear that they are dyslexic or have problems with spelling and grammar. A few posters will comment on it, but if the poor speller comes across as genuine and reasonable and it is possible to understand what they’re saying, then most replies will be pleasant.

The problem here for me really is that you’ve called someone a bitch within about five minutes of starting a thread.

I can understand that you’re self-conscious about the difficulty you have with writing. Self-consciousness can make people defensive. You don’t need to be self-conscious or defensive. Being bad at writing is no better or worse than being bad at maths or map-reading or catching a ball or baking cakes- we all have different strengths. I would strongly encourage you to look into adult literacy courses because it could make your life much easier and lighten the load of that shame you are feeling.

Please do avoid calling strangers bitches on forums though- that won’t make you any friends.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:07

dogcatkitten · 27/05/2025 21:05

You really should know that calling someone a bitch is rude, if not that is one thing you have learned.

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Yes I know that’s not a good thing to do Mrs Dogcatkitten but with so many it’s hard not to

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:06

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:05

How far do yiu think I want to go am guessing yiu have been on this for years I’ve been on two days

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*you

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dogcatkitten · 27/05/2025 21:05

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:56

Am not rude what I said was I was getting a hard time for it and that what I got all the comments are belittling me in a way and because I called one person a bitch that makes me rude no it doesn’t

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You really should know that calling someone a bitch is rude, if not that is one thing you have learned.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:05

SilviaSnuffleBum · 27/05/2025 21:00

Calling someone a 'bitch' on here won't get you very far.

How far do yiu think I want to go am guessing yiu have been on this for years I’ve been on two days

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 21:01

Ddakji · 27/05/2025 20:58

I’m afraid it does.

And I don’t believe that someone who can use and spell the word belittle properly doesn’t know more spelling and grammar than you seem to.

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It doesn’t actually im trying to fix that

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dogcatkitten · 27/05/2025 21:01

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:25

I understand that as you’ve always had an understanding of how to use it. Whereas I don’t

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You seem fine, it's the one's where it is difficult to understand what is meant, wrong words, wrong spelling, wrong punctuation to the point you have to ask so many questions back just to understand the original post. I didn't see the other thread, so can't comment on that.

SilviaSnuffleBum · 27/05/2025 21:00

Calling someone a 'bitch' on here won't get you very far.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:59

MmeChoufleur · 27/05/2025 20:57

You need a question mark after ‘that’ instead of a full stop, to show that you are asking a question. You should have put a comma after ‘learn’ instead of a full stop and a lower case d on ‘despite’. There should also be a full stop after ‘down’.

It’s good that you want to learn.

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I do so why do think it’s ok to be kettle me me for my punctuation you have just told me and I still don’t understand

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Ddakji · 27/05/2025 20:58

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:56

Am not rude what I said was I was getting a hard time for it and that what I got all the comments are belittling me in a way and because I called one person a bitch that makes me rude no it doesn’t

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I’m afraid it does.

And I don’t believe that someone who can use and spell the word belittle properly doesn’t know more spelling and grammar than you seem to.

CapitalAtRisk · 27/05/2025 20:58

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:56

Am not rude what I said was I was getting a hard time for it and that what I got all the comments are belittling me in a way and because I called one person a bitch that makes me rude no it doesn’t

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Clippity clop

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:57

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:56

Am not rude what I said was I was getting a hard time for it and that what I got all the comments are belittling me in a way and because I called one person a bitch that makes me rude no it doesn’t

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Im having a hard time atm and come on here for some support but start from the bar it was about my writing how is that fair

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MmeChoufleur · 27/05/2025 20:57

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You need a question mark after ‘that’ instead of a full stop, to show that you are asking a question. You should have put a comma after ‘learn’ instead of a full stop and a lower case d on ‘despite’. There should also be a full stop after ‘down’.

It’s good that you want to learn.

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Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:56

Linked · 27/05/2025 20:39

I'm not talking about your spelling and grammar,

I mean coming onto a website and calling other posters 'bitches' isn't going to exactly warm people to you.

You say you want to improve your spelling and grammar, but then call people who are good at it stuck up.

That is why you are getting a hard time. You are just rude

Am not rude what I said was I was getting a hard time for it and that what I got all the comments are belittling me in a way and because I called one person a bitch that makes me rude no it doesn’t

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marshmallowfinder · 27/05/2025 20:55

You can start by putting a full stop at the end of each sentence you are writing on here.

rubicustellitall · 27/05/2025 20:54

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:51

I would love to do that

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You should go for it. Its fun, gets you out of the house for a bit, you make new friends too and it helps. Everyone is there to improve themselves for what ever reason so no one looks down on anyone. You could do this, you really could. Ring your local council or college and enquire. I wish you luck

Ddakji · 27/05/2025 20:54

Mamaof3x · 27/05/2025 20:52

Well to me it is why so mean

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No, it isn’t. Not if you just slow down and look at other posts to see how it’s done.

And people are going to be “mean” because your tone is so off. Calling women bitches is hardly a way to win friends.