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AIBU brother saying the N word

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user1828 · 27/05/2025 18:14

I was at my DB and SIL house for a family gathering when my DB (24) and DC (22) were talking about a show they had recently started watching called Snowfall. It’s about black people and drugs from what I know. DB quoted a line from the show to my DC that had the N word in it, trying to imitate the way the main character says it. I immediately told him he can’t say that and his reply was “I wouldn’t have said it directly or infront of a black person, I’m practically black myself” we are south asian and he is quite dark skinned but definitely not black. I left the house as I felt he was just being disrespectful at this point. I later received a text from my mum saying I was being overly sensitive and that he was just joking around with my cousin and he would never use that word in a bad way towards anyone no matter what colour they are. Was I being overly sensitive or not?

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TinyTempest · 27/05/2025 18:18

I'm not going to dignify the silly question with an answer.

But out of interest, what did the 22 year old cousin say about it?

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2025 18:15

As if you need to ask. Of course YANBU. Totally unnacceptable language!