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Settle a serious argument between DH and I…

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PinkponyclubOG · 27/05/2025 17:12

A sharp or even mild cheddar does not belong on top of an authentic Lasagna..

DH is calling me fussy and that I’m turning into my bat shit mother who will only eat straight chips because I am protesting that the flavours don’t go.

It’s doesn’t even melt the same FFS.

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Forthemarket · 27/05/2025 18:35

I made a barbecue bean one once with loads of cheddar. It was a fave meal fondly remembered.

Jane958 · 27/05/2025 18:34

The only cheddar you should ever use in anything is Quicke's Farmhouse, preferably bough directly at the farm!
Lasagne, parmesan, not Grana Padano or any other substitute.
However, if this really a serious point of contention, just rename the dish as pasta bake?

PeloMom · 27/05/2025 18:33

I’m with you. Both on the lasagna and the chip flavours. Don’t get me started on the ‘fashionable’ afternoon teas offered these days that include croissants, brioche etc instead of good old finger sandwiches.

TheEarlgreygirl · 27/05/2025 18:33

Life troubles eh…! Get real.. stop it… enjoy your man… and your lasagne x

Girasoli · 27/05/2025 18:33

She also uses half quorn half beef mince which is a bit odd but really works to make the lasagne not too 'heavy'.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 27/05/2025 18:33

MoistVonL · 27/05/2025 18:24

We call it toy cheese. The cousins like toy cheese, we like extra mature cheddar. My niece complained to my brother that our cheese was "too bitey."

But not on lasagna, it's mozzerella and parmesan on that. I'm with OP.

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I eat toy cheese mostly, because it doesn't trigger my migraines like the mature stuff does. It is very bland but it can't be helped.

Girasoli · 27/05/2025 18:32

My mum is a genuine Italian nonna and she uses a bit of cheddar in with the mozzarella when she makes lasagne.

RamsaySnowsSausage · 27/05/2025 18:30

I put cheddar on everything...even curry. It tastes amazing!

CoubousAndTourmalet · 27/05/2025 18:30

We use Cheddar because most Parmesan is not vegetarian.

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PinkponyclubOG · 27/05/2025 18:29

Mareleine · 27/05/2025 17:44

It's lasagne ffs.

It’s clearly a light hearted thread ffs.

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Cososom · 27/05/2025 18:29

Hwi · 27/05/2025 17:46

It is such a shame that we never get posts about spousal disagreements about Boccaccio, but only about Focaccia and similar shite. Brings the tone down, food, sex, food, sex, money, sex, money, food and perceived privilege. But I am still hopeful.

You really are insufferable.

Cadburymonster · 27/05/2025 18:29

I use mostly grated mozzerella on the top with a small amount of cheddar as well. Parmesan in between layers. I've used fresh mozzarella sliced up in between layers before as well that's also nice.

Goingawayistricky · 27/05/2025 18:28

I really fancy lasagne and chips now. Salad on the side.
On Mounjaro so it won’t happen.

Endofyear · 27/05/2025 18:28

I always put cheddar on my lasagne! I know it's not authentic but I like it - each to their own!

FOJN · 27/05/2025 18:26

I'm very confused.

Sharp cheddar and straight chips suggests an identity crisis.

If you're American then presumably you are replacing the bechamel with ricotta so whatever you top that abomination with is irrelevant.

If you're British then surely mature cheddar on everything is the correct answer. Adding parmesan and dried oregano as well is also obligatory in this house.

MoistVonL · 27/05/2025 18:24

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/05/2025 18:16

I have some children in my life who prefer mild cheese so I try not to judge them. Hopefully they grow out of it.

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We call it toy cheese. The cousins like toy cheese, we like extra mature cheddar. My niece complained to my brother that our cheese was "too bitey."

But not on lasagna, it's mozzerella and parmesan on that. I'm with OP.

Icanttakethisanymore · 27/05/2025 18:17

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/05/2025 18:16

I have some children in my life who prefer mild cheese so I try not to judge them. Hopefully they grow out of it.

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😂 I’ll pray for them

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/05/2025 18:16

Icanttakethisanymore · 27/05/2025 17:43

I don’t give my children mild cheddar, because I don’t hate them and I think they deserve nice cheese

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I have some children in my life who prefer mild cheese so I try not to judge them. Hopefully they grow out of it.

Notsuchafattynow · 27/05/2025 18:16

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/05/2025 17:39

Probably doesn't belong on an authentic lasagna. In fact, mild cheddar doesn't belong anywhere other than a child's plate. However, the correct response to anyone making lasagna is "Thank you very much".

100% this!

MumWifeOther · 27/05/2025 18:09

PinkponyclubOG · 27/05/2025 17:12

A sharp or even mild cheddar does not belong on top of an authentic Lasagna..

DH is calling me fussy and that I’m turning into my bat shit mother who will only eat straight chips because I am protesting that the flavours don’t go.

It’s doesn’t even melt the same FFS.

I like to add a very mature cheddar AND lots of parmigiano too 🤌🏽

BobbyBiscuits · 27/05/2025 18:04

There's loads of different recipes for lasagne, and any other popular dish. Of course cheddar wouldn't feature in an Italian 'Nonna's' recipe as they don't have that cheese widely in Italy, or at least they didn't back in the day. Doesn't mean it won't taste nice though!

But just put what you like, or what you have in the fridge. Any hard cheese would be fine I think.

If he hates it then put cheddar on one side and a different cheese on the other?

MrsMoastyToasty · 27/05/2025 17:58

I go for BOTH. A mature Cheddar that has a bit of bite for the sauce and then a dusting of parmesan on serving.

Cheddar from Cheddar - the place- is rubbish. Just use Cathedral City...

YourSignalFadedIntoAnotherWorld · 27/05/2025 17:57

YABU for thinking about mild cheddar, typing the words mild cheddar and even considering that it falls into the category of cheese. It is appalling salty rubber and not even an actual foodstuff so YABU. Very YABU.

InterruptingRabbit · 27/05/2025 17:55

Are you “protesting that the flavours don’t go” when he’s cooked lasagna? If so, YABVU.

If you are cooking the lasagna and want to put something other than cheddar on, then fine. Up to you.

But I do think it’s slightly nonsensical to claim that cheddar doesn’t go with a tomato based sauce.

TheGhostOfPatButcher · 27/05/2025 17:54

I do like a bit of lasagne with my vintage cheddar.