Is drink driving ever right?!

Never ANY excuse for drink driving ..... NEVER.
As to what to do ....... make it 100% clear to hour OH that if it ever happens again you ill go to the police.... personally I would be doing so now.

This would be so off-putting to me. I would look at someone in a completely different light if they did this and I don't think I would want to be with them to be honest. I think it's a real biggie.

So he has a known drink problem and he’s surrounded by people who minimise it and enable him? If you’re not going to do anything at least pick him up from the pub to stop him drink driving. I’d tell the police and get a divorce personally.

She did

They weren't helpful

"He finds it hard to stop after one."

Then he shouldn't drink any alcohol at all if he has the car with him. Alternatively, he can leave the car at home, travel by taxi and then he can drink safely.

He's an adult, does he really need this spelling out to him?

And THAT's how it's done 👏👏👏

With respect @Lillylight , this is your fourth thread about your husband going back to 2022 regarding his drinking and behaviour and you have been given lots of support and valuable advice. And yet you are still with him so that would suggest you don’t take on board any of the advice you are given. So what are you wanting from this thread that you have not received in the other three?

In light of recent events surely this should hit home even harder than should be obvious.
He could have killed someone. I dont see a way past that. Do you have children together? Sorry if I missed that info

It is never okay to drink and drive. To drink and drive because a football team lost…. well that’s even worse, if it can be any worse. I could never forgive also the fact that he’s also screwed up your holiday because of his actions . He is something else. I couldn’t forgive and forget and it would be divorced time for me. Without a doubt.

Are you the poster who had a thread about him not wanting to go on holiday due to his team playing?
If you are then I would say he has done it on purpose.
You have to decide if this is the sort of future you want, because he won't change.

But what about other road users and pedestrians?? From experience, it’s the innocent who pay the price for someone else’s stupidity.

This would be the start of divorce for me, OP.

Whether I moved ahead with the process immediately or not - practicalities and/or emotional reasons might mean I’d need to wait - this would be the point where I’d decide the marriage was over and start planning accordingly.

Those excuses may be a reason to drink, but nothing is ever a reason to drink drive. I know families who have lost people through drink drivers actions.

His family are as despicable as he is if they condone it. I live in a rural area and drink driving is rife around here because people think they won't get caught. That is all the driver ever worries about, they don't worry about injuring other people in the process.

He's blaming a bunch of strangers to him wearing team colours he happens to like losing a game of football for choosing to getting pissed, driving his car, and sleeping it all off rather than going on a planned and paid for holiday flight? And his inlaws are telling you to ignore his behaviour because it's already happened? And he has form for it?

I'd be beyond done.

He will ruin your life. And your children's if you have them.

I would enjoy my holiday and start divorce proceedings when I got back.

I could not be involved with someone who drinks and drives.

No excuses in this instance,

As to whether it is ever right? Well no. But there are scenarios where I (and I suspect a court) would have a little more sympathy. Years back a friend of my mum's got done - he was a school caretaker and he was called out by the police as he was a keyholder. It was Christmas Eve and he had been drinking at home. He got there and sorted out whatever the issue was but the police could smell alcohol and breathalysed him and he was over the limit.

Was he right? No. Was it malicious? Also no.

But he could of course have had an accident on the way to the school and he should have thought.

Where it's deliberate going out for a drink (or many) and people drive home, I have no sympathy at all. Ever.

It's a hard never ok from me too. He has a drink problem. Now either he choose to do something about his problem, and you can choose to support him. Or he does nothing and this situation happens again. Up to you what you do. Personally I would leave. This is not likely to get better.

I'd leave. Drink driving is an absolute deal breaker for me, and his sin is compounded by the fact that he's shrugging it off. No wonder, as well, if his stupid parents think that it's NBD. Let him drive drunk with them in the car, if they want. I'd have no part of it.

Stressed doesn’t give him a excuse. What a selfish bastard, he could of killed someone’s child.

Time to get rid. Can you imagine a poor child having to grow up with that as a dad ? I wouldn't waste another day on him.

Is it ok, no. Would i have called the police, no.
I also probably would have woke him up. I got drunk the last night of a holiday once and my DH had to drag me out of bed to make the flight... oops. I blamed the sun and the measures overseas. We all make mistakes.

Drink driving is not ok. Just because this time he got ‘lucky’ and didn’t get caught or cause an accident, doesn’t mean that next time it won’t happen.

It was only ok by sheer luck. I would have reported my husband as I have seen the destruction drunk driving causes. There is never an excuse and I would never trust him again and never ever trust him to drive our kids. Tell him he is not welcome on the holiday and exactly what you think of his behaviour. Sounds like he doesn’t care.

Oh thank goodness. That’s easy then! 😅

Fuck him. He risked maiming or killing someone because his team lost. I hope he gets his ass kicked every day when he eventually gets caught and hopefully it's before he kills someone or some little kid.

Time for you to leave. I sure wouldn't stay.