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Criticised over my eating style

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Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:12

Not sure how to explain this properly without it sounding petty/silly.

My partner does all of the cooking (we don’t live together), we tend to only eat once a day, usually late evening so by then I’m starving.

Last Night he made lasagne and a huge Greek salad which was in a big bowl. I proceeded to put some salad next to my lasagna, and he got really cross, said why I am mixing hot and cold food together stating “that’s disgusting”

He is a different culture to me and does eat a little differently…but the point of the post is , I will eat how I want! I stood up for myself and he said I was over reacting, but it put me off my meal then, and I did feel a bit ‘told off’

AiBU to be cross about this ?

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SeventeenClovesOfGarlic · 27/05/2025 13:17

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:15

Yes straight from the bowl

So he puts his saliva covered fork into the shared salad bowl?

Never allow some man to tell you off.

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:16

Esssa · 27/05/2025 13:16

Communal bowl or individual bowl because one is unreasonable and the other isn't.

Communal

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SodOffbacktoaibu · 27/05/2025 13:16

@Fernandez54 If he's getting really cross over how you eat salad, ffs, this one is not a keeper!

MiddleAgedDread · 27/05/2025 13:16

ewww so he sat and ate straight out of the shared serving bowl?? gross, he's the one who should be criticised.

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:16

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 27/05/2025 13:15

Where else exactly would you put the salad? I do the same. Does he serve his on a side plate or something?

It was in a big bowl

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Esssa · 27/05/2025 13:16

Communal bowl or individual bowl because one is unreasonable and the other isn't.

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:16

outerspacepotato · 27/05/2025 13:14

Why do you only eat once a day?

Then you have a super heavy food like lasagna?

This does not strike me as a healthy eating pattern.

Only when I’m with him, he’s Mediterranean and works in hospitality so he often works late, so think it’s just a pattern he has adopted.

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murasaki · 27/05/2025 13:15

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:15

Yes straight from the bowl

He's the odd one!

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 27/05/2025 13:15

Where else exactly would you put the salad? I do the same. Does he serve his on a side plate or something?

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:15

murasaki · 27/05/2025 13:14

How did he eat his salad? Straight from the bowl? Afterwards?

Yes straight from the bowl

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outerspacepotato · 27/05/2025 13:14

Why do you only eat once a day?

Then you have a super heavy food like lasagna?

This does not strike me as a healthy eating pattern.

Fernandez54 · 27/05/2025 13:14

2ndbestslayer · 27/05/2025 13:13

How could you possibly be unreasonable?

I don’t know, I think I mean my reaction to it

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yeesh · 27/05/2025 13:14

Odd and rude

Electricbananaboat · 27/05/2025 13:14

I like when the salad gets slightly warm from the lasagne. I don't know why. You're definitely not unreasonable, anyway.

murasaki · 27/05/2025 13:14

How did he eat his salad? Straight from the bowl? Afterwards?

2ndbestslayer · 27/05/2025 13:13

How could you possibly be unreasonable?