My sister is four years younger than me, we were never really close but we did get on, she used to be lovely, kind and friendly. Our relationship started to deteriorate not long after the birth of her little boy (who is a similar age to mine) mainly because of her husband. He is a horrible man with a god like complex. He appears to control her - he moved her to a very isolated area and unfortunately due to the fact she has no friends there or doesn’t work, all of her opinions are now his, which has sadly made her incredibly unlikeable. On top of that he definitely doesn’t like me, probably because I speak my mind and would tell her what I thought of him (which I never have, might I add). My sister has become consumed by politics and hates the world, she is incredibly sensitive to everything and seems miserable. She turns every conversation into a debate about world goings on and it’s exhausting.
To put it bluntly, I don’t really like her anymore. The issue is - this obviously upsets my mum who wants our little boys to have a relationship. My sister is coming home in September and my mum is desperate to do things with them both, which I understand. Trouble is I don’t want my BIL anywhere near my son (we’ve had issues in the past with the way he treats him) and if I leave him with my mum he will be there. On top of that I wonder if my sister and I should sit down and hash things out, however I’m really reluctant due to the fact I don’t like who she is now and kind of feel at peace with that? Anyone else in the same boat? I sort of feel like I would only be doing this for my mum/wider family (who are close so I don’t want tension).