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To ask your experience of being a working mother

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Liveandletlive7 · 27/05/2025 10:01

Due to return to work following maternity leave soon and absolutely dreading it. I know it’s part of life and I’m going back to work for DC as we couldn’t possibly survive on one income forever but I’m riddled with guilt. Can I ask your experience of being a working mother?

OP posts:
PopThatBench · 27/05/2025 10:16

It’s shit.
I went back full time when DD was 10 months old. Her Dad left when she was 6 months. I needed the money and wanted to show my DD women can do anything. I showed her “too well” because she’s now a smart-arse who can do anything 😂
It’s hard because I have to put her in after school clubs instead of being there at the gate after school/we don’t mingle with other parents and chat etc.
We often aren’t there for the “workshop” sessions at school where parents can see their work because it’s always at random times of the day and I’m at work.
However, she’s very social and confident being away from me because she’s always been in clubs/activity groups/with other adults.
You’ll feel Mum guilt a lot, that’s normal, just keep telling yourself it’s to provide a better life for your child.

LowDownBoyStandUpGuy · 27/05/2025 10:11

I went back after six months with my eldest and a year with my second. It’s hard at the start but you soon get into a routine, it depends really on how much you enjoy your job, I was glad to get back, being at home with DC full time was never going to be for me, my work is busy and challenging so I won’t patronise you with talk of having nice lunch breaks and drinking tea in peace because not all jobs are like that but it was good to use my brain and it’s only when I went back to work that I started to feel like me again.

I did only do four days though so had a long weekend with the DC and my DH did the same so we only needed three days childcare (that my parents helpfully did) so we had a lot of flexibility but whatever your circumstances OP you will soon get into the swing of it.