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“Boundaries” dramas

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SayonaraZara · 26/05/2025 19:23

Rita and Sue are going to an event their friends are already attending. Rita is planning to buy a ticket for the first day and Sue was planning similar but now thinks she would prefer the second day due to the acts performing etc.

Sue has asked Rita if she would consider changing her mind as she would love for them to all go together but that she understands if not. Rita has replied “Sorry Sue but I’ve just got be very firm on my boundaries right now. That doesn’t work for me”.

Sue has replied saying it’s no problem but that she will be going to the second day as it the ones that works for her the best. She wanted to run it by Rita first but she gets it and she’s sure there will be opportunities to do things together.

Rita is being off with Sue about her decision despite both of them “asserting their boundaries” and doing what they prefer.

who, if either, is BU?

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screwyou · 27/05/2025 06:17

I think Rita sounds like a bit of a dick in this context.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 27/05/2025 06:14

I'd be very generous and assume that other people push her boundaries, and that she's trying to self correct and is maybe going too far in the other direction.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/05/2025 06:02

SayonaraZara · 26/05/2025 19:29

(I also HATE the word boundaries!) Yes, Bob is already in attendance 😊

If not obvious I’m Sue and had thought what’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. But Rita isn’t liking it

  1. Buy a ticket for the day you want.
  2. Tell Rita, "I'm sorry you feel that way."
  3. Buy Rita a dictionary for Christmas with the word "boundary" circled in red pen.
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SayonaraZara · 26/05/2025 21:30

Rita most def not a people pleaser!

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BobbyBiscuits · 26/05/2025 21:13

God how awks for someone to mention 'boundaries' in such a context.
They'll both have other friends with them presumably on either day so just each go to whichever they'd prefer. There's no reason for anyone to have the hump.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/05/2025 21:11

I don't see what any of this has to do with "boundaries".

Rita and Sue are both adults who are free to buy a ticket to whatever event they wish to see.

ZippyPeer · 26/05/2025 21:10

Could it be that Rita might be one of those people who struggles to asset herself/bit of a people pleaser historically,but is trying to change the way she does things (and is slightly ballsing it up)?

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SayonaraZara · 26/05/2025 19:41

@Bourbonversuscustardcream Thank you, I think you’ve nailed it.

have to admit I was a little taken aback when I was only asking her as a courtesy if she wanted to attend - and then I got a message which sounded like I was asking her to sign over her first born 😂

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Bourbonversuscustardcream · 26/05/2025 19:30

“I’ve just got be very firm on my boundaries right now.”

What a bizarre phrase to use with a friend who was only asking! Sue hasn’t done anything wrong, assuming she never committed to the original date. Rita needs to unclench.

Sounds like it’s not so much about boundaries as Rita getting her own way. What boundary Sue is supposed to have crossed I can’t see!

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SayonaraZara · 26/05/2025 19:29

(I also HATE the word boundaries!) Yes, Bob is already in attendance 😊

If not obvious I’m Sue and had thought what’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. But Rita isn’t liking it

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SerafinasGoose · 26/05/2025 19:26

Make your own fucking tea! ☕️

soupyspoon · 26/05/2025 19:25

God I hate that word

sprigatito · 26/05/2025 19:25

They both sound insufferable.

Sweetpea333 · 26/05/2025 19:24

Is Bob takin 'em?