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To think this is really cheeky

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:38

So where I live the local farmer allocated a bit of extra garden to the rear of the houses. Currently all I do is cut the grass while i decide what to do with it. So next door asked me today if they can put up a trampoline in my bit of garden . Part of me thinks say yes as their garden at the rear of their house is awful and full of junk . But then another bit kicks in and thinks no sort your own garden out . Advice please

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Threecraws · 26/05/2025 19:08

I don't think it is cheeky particularly but I wouldn't agree to it as you will never get the land back

Redpeach · 26/05/2025 19:07

Why can't they clear up their garden

FOJN · 26/05/2025 19:06

But then another bit kicks in and thinks no sort your own garden out.

This is the correct answer. No need to tell them to sort their own garden out but if they have space filled with junk they can't be bothered to clean up then they have no business asking to use your garden.

Just say no. Don't offer a reason they'll think it's a negotiation.

AnonWho23 · 26/05/2025 19:04

Absolutely not. I wouldn't because it's your land to use as you please. If they want their kids to have a trampoline then they can clean up their own garden. Aside from that I'd be concerned about legal liability If the child is injured while or your land.

LemonLeaves · 26/05/2025 19:03

Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:55

@eldermillenialmum Their garden is awful

Lucky then that there's a solution to this which is as simple as them sorting their awful garden out, so that their kids can have a trampoline.

ManchesterGirl2 · 26/05/2025 19:01

Yabu to even consider it. They should sort out their own garden to put the trampoline in.

Koazy · 26/05/2025 19:00

No you can’t. Sorted

Wishimaywishimight · 26/05/2025 18:59

Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:55

@eldermillenialmum Their garden is awful

So what? Let them clear up their garden if they need the space. If you say "yes" it's only a matter of time before their crap finds its way into your garden!

softlyfallsthesnow · 26/05/2025 18:59

It wouldn't stop at the trampoline though, would it? Give it a few weeks and there'd be more junk piling up next to it.

Don't even think about it. Just say no. And mean it.

Oldraver · 26/05/2025 18:58

I would say no. What are they doing with their share of the farmers field, is it separated from your actual garden

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:55

@eldermillenialmum Their garden is awful

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Fuckitydoodah · 26/05/2025 18:54

Absolutely no way. You'll struggle to ever reclaim it. Like you say, they need to sort their own garden out.

Rookie93 · 26/05/2025 18:54

In my experience no good deed goes unpunished. NO would be my response.

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:53

I think I felt a bit sorry for the kids as their garden is awful .But it will be a no from me .

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Screamingabdabz · 26/05/2025 18:50

Why would you even dither about this? The answer is no. They need to use their own garden.

eldermillenialmum · 26/05/2025 18:49

Say no

Why can't they use their own?

NovemberMorn · 26/05/2025 18:47

Firstly, you are lucky to have been allocated extra garden space.
Secondly....a resounding NO to your neighbours.

Koalafan · 26/05/2025 18:46

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2025 18:44

I don't think its cheeky to ask: don't ask, don't get. But you're well within your rights to say no. If you don't want it, you don't have to have it and I wouldn't because you'll never get rid of it.

It's very cheeky to ask if you also have equal space but choose to fill it with junk. 🤔

Thepeopleversuswork · 26/05/2025 18:44

I don't think its cheeky to ask: don't ask, don't get. But you're well within your rights to say no. If you don't want it, you don't have to have it and I wouldn't because you'll never get rid of it.

RedBeech · 26/05/2025 18:44

NO!!!! They need to sort their garden out. Next thing you know their junk will seep into your 'shared' space.

Just say you have plans for that section of the garden.

Scar88 · 26/05/2025 18:43

No, it's yours!

Danioyellow · 26/05/2025 18:43

So they’ve filled their garden so full of junk that they can’t fit in anymore. And now they want to fill up yours?

Tagyoureit · 26/05/2025 18:43

Well obviously it's a no! They can sort out their garden

LikeARacoonOnMeth · 26/05/2025 18:43

I’m just wondering if you realise that you can’t just turn a field into a garden without planning permission?
Whilst it’s lovely to have the extra space, I’d just be wary of spending £££’s on plants/paths/bench or whatever, especially if you then have to spend ££’s turning it back to how it was if the council get wind, which they might to if trampoline family are annoyed at refusal.

But no, I’d tell them to sort their own garden out and to not expect me to give up my space.

NineteenSeventyNine · 26/05/2025 18:43

You’d obviously be mad to even contemplate saying yes to this.

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