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To think this is really cheeky

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Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:38

So where I live the local farmer allocated a bit of extra garden to the rear of the houses. Currently all I do is cut the grass while i decide what to do with it. So next door asked me today if they can put up a trampoline in my bit of garden . Part of me thinks say yes as their garden at the rear of their house is awful and full of junk . But then another bit kicks in and thinks no sort your own garden out . Advice please

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Tudie · 23/08/2025 23:04

Are YOU responsible if their children are injured on your allotted plot??? This goes past being nice or not, if legal ramifications are possibly incurred. Tell them you can

Lovelycupofcoffee · 29/06/2025 09:41

@AnnoyedAsAllHeck I got a gate put up haven’t seen them since but I can imagine I’m not on their Christmas card list this year 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 23/06/2025 15:32

@Lovelycupofcoffee This is a few weeks old, but I hope you told them no. You would be responsible if anyone got hurt, and I don't think feeling sorry for a few kids is worth getting sued for an injury.

IcyTealBear · 01/06/2025 17:33

First it will be the trampoline. Then it will be a couple of chairs. Maybe a bike or two, and so on, until your space is just as cluttered and messy as your neighbors. Just say no.

AlbertaWildRose · 27/05/2025 15:23

Definitely no. You will never get that bit of garden back.

Swiftie1878 · 27/05/2025 15:20

If they don’t look after their own garden, they’re hardly likely to look after the bit of yours you allow them to use.

A big, fat NO!

JustFeedMeCake · 27/05/2025 14:53

Absolutely not. They have their own garden and they trashed it. Do you want them to trash yours as well? I can’t believe you’d even consider it!

ButItWasNotYourFaultButMine · 27/05/2025 14:33

100% Hard No

TimeForABreak4 · 27/05/2025 14:16

I'd just say to them you got legal advice through your home insurance who advised you not to do this. Leave it at that or suggest they ask the neighbours if they can have what they were given back.

Nominative · 27/05/2025 13:59

Say OK for half term only, but it will have to be gone after Sunday and you won't be able to host it at any other time.

rainbowstardrops · 27/05/2025 13:51

Why would you even consider this?! They need to sort their own shit out and then they’d have room for a trampoline!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 27/05/2025 13:49

What they need is a skip. To put their junk in...

I'd print out the details of a skip company and have it ready to helpfully hand it to them if they start protesting and can't take no for an answer.

You didn't pay for an extra strip of land for their benefit... you have every right to spend time deciding what to do with it.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 27/05/2025 13:42

I've PM ed you OP.
We had a very similar set up and my advice is to say absolutely no and mean it.

Your neighbours already have a garden full of junk which they should clear out to make space for their own trampoline... and if they treat their property like that.. they will soon come to see the trampoline area at the end of your garden as their space and treat it accordingly, it will become a mess. Will they maintain the trampoline? I'm thinking missing springs etc. (which we had to sort in the past)

I'm assuming that the land at the end of your garden has a nice view and is a nice place to sit and have drink with your friend in the summer.

How will you do that with someone else's giant trampoline in the way? Added to which it will become an ongoing thing of people invading your space, with their kids friends etc. And you could end up getting involved in kids quarrels or accidents etc. Or asking them to keep the noise down. Effectively supervising them. Say no. So what if they don't like it. They need to find another way. You bought that house so that you could enjoy the extra space, not pay for it and then surrender your use of it to the neighbours for nothing.

I speak from experience when I say that People who regularly use your space, come to see it as their right and it will be difficult to get them to stop and move the damn thing if they start abusing your kindness.

latetothefisting · 27/05/2025 13:42

no because they'll get used to it, so when you do want it back, it won't be 'thanks for letting us use it for so long' it will be resentment that you want it back! So just don't go there in the first place! Say something vague like you've got plans for it.
Apart from anything else you don't want kids bouncing around staring at you whenever you're in your garden!

I'd feel bad (but still wouldn't say yes!) if they had a tiny garden and yours was bigger but sounds like their garden has plenty of room, they just need to tidy it!

MoistVonL · 27/05/2025 13:40

Are you the next door neighbour that got the extra piece?

They were stupid to turn down more garden in the first place.

DontTouchRoach · 27/05/2025 13:36

Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 18:53

I think I felt a bit sorry for the kids as their garden is awful .But it will be a no from me .

They will never make their garden any less awful for their kids if you just let them have yours instead.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 27/05/2025 13:07

Gothamcity · 26/05/2025 23:37

And what happens when one of the kids/friends of the kids flies off the trampoline and has a serious accident in what is considered "your" garden? Considering they're cheeky enough to ask to do this, it wouldn't surprise me if they're cheeky enough to try and sue you for an injury that happened on your property. Not sure who actually owns this piece of land, but I'd worry you could end up in a bad legal situation. And what happens if the farmer wants this bit of land back, and they refuse to move the trampoline. If he's allocated that part to you, you could end up having the hassle of removing it, or in some legal battle with the actual landowner.

This was my first thought too; a wee lad at my school is off with a broken leg at the moment after an accident on a trampoline. Far too rarely do adults supervise children using trampolines.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 27/05/2025 13:03

Lovelycupofcoffee · 26/05/2025 21:00

@ThinWomansBrain yep all the houses were allocated a strip of extra garden but they didn’t want it so let next door have it .

So now they want yours? Absolutely not, the CFs.

KnottyKnitting · 27/05/2025 12:48

Their garden is awful? Surely that’s their fault! Why can’t they clear it up! Why is it your responsibility to provide the lazy parents somewhere for their children to play. They are the ones who should feel guilt about that, not you!

MounjaroMounjaro · 27/05/2025 12:47

No way - they'll make it an extension of their own garden and it'll look awful.

jeaux90 · 27/05/2025 12:35

Then they can ask next door for it back! Absolutely say no and why haven’t they tidied up their own back garden?

RunningJo · 27/05/2025 12:26

My answer would be no & would be thinking that if they are cheeky enough to ask to use this space, what next?.

Why can't they clear their own garden to make room for a trampoline?

PawsAndTails · 27/05/2025 00:42

It's a strange thing to have asked. I'd say no.

FloofyKat · 27/05/2025 00:34

Why on earth would you even entertain the idea? If they want a trampoline, they can tidy up their own garden.

Codlingmoths · 27/05/2025 00:31

They should get their bit back or tidy their garden?

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