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DH refusing to allow DS to go on play date

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Boomert · 26/05/2025 18:37

DH works from home 3 days a week and will look after the children when they are home during holidays - children are 8&9.

Often DS is invited to his friend’s house once or twice during the holidays for a play date.

He is refusing to let DS go this half term because DD starts whinging that she’s bored and wants to go to her friends for a play date.
Occasionally that’s feasible but sometimes it isn’t, and if it isn’t, she will become upset.

DH has said it’s too disruptive for his work and doesn’t want to deal with it.

AIBU to think this is massively unfair on DS.

OP posts:
Freeme31 · 26/05/2025 18:44

I think what’s unreasonable is your husband doing childcare instead of working. Does his work know ? It’s people like your husband that will get the rest of us “actual workers” dragged back into the office. Get proper childcare sorted out

Meadowfinch · 26/05/2025 18:42

There is no way he should be caring for 2 dcs while working. It's a recipe for disaster. It sounds like he is relying on the 9yo to watch & entertain the 8yo.

Can you organise a babysitter for that day?

Kneeslikethese · 26/05/2025 18:40

Is it really feasible for your dh to be working from home + looking after the children? If he's working then I'm not surprised he's finding it difficult to facilitate play dates.