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To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:28

I ordered some stuff off sports direct (about £20 worth) and, because I haven’t ordered off there for a couple of years, stupidly got it sent to my old address which was stored on the web site. Yes I know it’s annoying and stupid so I don’t need that lecture.

So once I clocked on what had happened, I went round there to collect it - couple of days later. The woman who bought the house off me completely denies having received it, despite the courier’s photo showing it being accepted at the front door. I can see two sets of children’s feet at the door on the picture. I obviously recognise the doorstep - I lived there for nearly 20 years.

Please note, I did not shout or accuse, I was very polite, I said I was “puzzled” and that there must have been some sort of confusion but she was adamant she hadn’t had it. It was a shoe box sized parcel so not massive to store and not easy to lose either.

Do you clever lot have any idea if there’s anything I can do?

I half expected her to come to the door wearing my gym gear 😆

OP posts:
LittleBitofBread · 27/07/2025 10:34

BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 08:21

Eh? Why would I have reported it to the police if I were doing this sort of thing?

Any road, I’m going to ring the officer on Monday to talk it through.

Good for you, OP. I do appreciate that court can be very stressful, and that this isn't exactly a high-value crime, but I agree with others that this might be either part of a bigger investigation or they're just tired of parcel crime and looking for someone to make an example of.
It wouldn't end up in court, but will just go as far as the police confronting her with your statement and given her a stern ticking-off. Which she deserves/has brought on herself.

CharlotteBakewell · 27/07/2025 08:59

BitOutOfPractice · 25/07/2025 16:51

The downside for me is the stress of the whole thing - I mean I’m still sleeping soundly at night but going to court would be stressful. I’ve been a witness twice before and it is quite stressful. And I have other things going on right now that are stressful enough. (Apologies for all the “stressful”s.)

I also do think this is very disproportionate for the (alleged) crime. I feel a bit guilty like I’ve wasted police time.

And I'm sure she’s living to regret it now, she must be really stressed about it.

god it’s terrible having a conscience unlike her!

It’s the principle of it though, regardless of the cost. You went to collect your parcel with proof that it had been delivered and were told a big fat no! Someone is lying to you. Let’s hope it doesn’t need to go as far you being a witness, if the riddle is solved beforehand.

Tandora · 27/07/2025 08:54

BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 08:21

Eh? Why would I have reported it to the police if I were doing this sort of thing?

Any road, I’m going to ring the officer on Monday to talk it through.

Ahahah you’d have to be a pretty ineffective scammer wouldn’t you? Given that you a) reported incident to police, b) forgot to extract any money 😂

BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 08:21

Iloveloveisland · 26/07/2025 17:41

There is a well known scam where people order goods to be delivered to someone else's house. They then send someone round purporting to be a courier to collect it saying it has been delivered in error. Then the perpetrators extorts money from the hapless recipient accusing them of theft.
I suspect this might be what the police suspect the OP of. I can see why else they would be involving themselves

Eh? Why would I have reported it to the police if I were doing this sort of thing?

Any road, I’m going to ring the officer on Monday to talk it through.

OP posts:
ItsNotMeEither · 27/07/2025 05:08

I think you absolutely do need to follow through and go to court!

What was the point of reporting and having an officer really put in time and effort on this otherwise? We hear so much about crime being ignored (as you yourself thought may happen), yet you've found someone who did take it seriously, did put in effort, so how will they feel about their wasted time and effort if you won't follow through now? That really is a waste of resources.

Your individual parcel may not have been worth much, but as many stories on here have shown you, this happens a lot. It must add up to millions each year. Unless some cases start to go to court, then nothing will change. A few cases followed through locally might be enough for people in your area to know that this will be seen seriously, as word does spread.

As for the woman, if the police have decided to prosecute and not just have a firm chat or give her a warning, then perhaps she either has form for other things, or she gave them enough attitude to piss them off before she confessed.

At the very least, go down to the station, have a chat and see what evidence they have that has made them decide to prosecute in this case. At the end of the day, they won't be putting her away for years, surely she's more likely to get some sort of community service order.

llizzie · 27/07/2025 01:20

BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 00:45

What the actual?

I’ve been a witness before in much more serious cases than this. I don’t need to go to court to make my life more interesting or give myself a life experience. Thanks.

It was a lighthearted comment which I made. If I implied something which you do not like, then I am very sorry for it.

The fact is that this thread is very interesting, so it wouldn't just be the day in court you would dine out on, but the whole story which led up to it.

I am sorry if I insulted you. It was not my intention.

BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 00:45

llizzie · 26/07/2025 20:29

Look at it this way: that woman has given you a new experience in life, and going to court will give you something to talk about for years.

Can't you imagine your grandchildren sitting round the fire on Christmas Eve saying to you?: ''Tell us about the time you went to court''!

How can you not want to do it? Don't think about the stress, think about the triumph at the end of it.

What the actual?

I’ve been a witness before in much more serious cases than this. I don’t need to go to court to make my life more interesting or give myself a life experience. Thanks.

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 27/07/2025 00:42

What the actual?

I’ve been a witness before in much more serious cases than this. I don’t need to go to court to make my life more interesting or give myself a life experience.

OP posts:
RobinEllacotStrike · 27/07/2025 00:12

Nicked

RobinEllacotStrike · 27/07/2025 00:12

She’s knicked your stuff Bit
**

ohnotthisagain2025 · 26/07/2025 23:24

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 15:38

I'm a bit confused about the idea that this woman makes a habit of stealing other people's parcels; presumably only the OP sold her the house, so there can't be that many people getting things sent to that address by accident because they used to live there.

No, when I said it's her modus operandi I was saying being a lying, thieving cow is her m.o. - nobody has ever just all of a sudden stolen a parcel out of the blue and then calmly lied to their victim's face, with back up from the lying, thieving husband. Whether it's parcel theft or other types of theft and criminal activity, they have had plenty of practice at unethical behaviour and being unscrupulous people.

The calm, smug lying about it right to her victim's face is what sealed it for me.

Iloveloveisland · 26/07/2025 23:02

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 18:48

I really don't see how that would work in this case, since OP has a photograph of the parcel being accepted and therefore it seems likely the people at her old house would still have that parcel two days later and could simply give it to her – or if really exasperated, send it back to the person who sold it. OP was not pretending to be a courier; she was the person who sold them the house and they ought to have known perfectly well who she was. And since presumably the police have OP's name and address, the scam is a non-starter.

You clearly don't understand how the scam works
Of course the op has a photo, because the parcel is genuinely delivered. The accomplice picks it up an hour or so later saying its been wrongly delivered.. I don't think the op is a scammer but I can see how the police might think she is.

llizzie · 26/07/2025 20:29

BitOutOfPractice · 28/05/2025 13:45

I’m really not letting it get me down. I’m not quite sure where you’ve extrapolated that from my posts. I specifically said I’ve been laughing about it.

I only keep coming back to this thread because I keep getting tagged / quoted (understandably as I’m the op!)

and aibu would be dead on its arse if people didn’t post about inconsequential annoyances, and then where would we be eh?

Edited

Look at it this way: that woman has given you a new experience in life, and going to court will give you something to talk about for years.

Can't you imagine your grandchildren sitting round the fire on Christmas Eve saying to you?: ''Tell us about the time you went to court''!

How can you not want to do it? Don't think about the stress, think about the triumph at the end of it.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 18:48

I really don't see how that would work in this case, since OP has a photograph of the parcel being accepted and therefore it seems likely the people at her old house would still have that parcel two days later and could simply give it to her – or if really exasperated, send it back to the person who sold it. OP was not pretending to be a courier; she was the person who sold them the house and they ought to have known perfectly well who she was. And since presumably the police have OP's name and address, the scam is a non-starter.

Allseeingallknowing · 26/07/2025 18:28

Iloveloveisland · 26/07/2025 17:41

There is a well known scam where people order goods to be delivered to someone else's house. They then send someone round purporting to be a courier to collect it saying it has been delivered in error. Then the perpetrators extorts money from the hapless recipient accusing them of theft.
I suspect this might be what the police suspect the OP of. I can see why else they would be involving themselves

I don’t believe the police suspect her at all!

Iloveloveisland · 26/07/2025 17:41

There is a well known scam where people order goods to be delivered to someone else's house. They then send someone round purporting to be a courier to collect it saying it has been delivered in error. Then the perpetrators extorts money from the hapless recipient accusing them of theft.
I suspect this might be what the police suspect the OP of. I can see why else they would be involving themselves

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 17:16

Rosscameasdoody · 26/07/2025 17:14

Possibly taking delivery of neighbours parcels when they’re out and then denying all knowledge ? There was a thread on MN recently from an OP who had to specify with couriers that they were not to deliver to her neighbour as she wouldn’t hand parcels over.

Edited

Ah, that makes some sense of it. Thank you!

Rosscameasdoody · 26/07/2025 17:14

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 15:38

I'm a bit confused about the idea that this woman makes a habit of stealing other people's parcels; presumably only the OP sold her the house, so there can't be that many people getting things sent to that address by accident because they used to live there.

Possibly taking delivery of neighbours parcels when they’re out and then denying all knowledge ? There was a thread on MN recently from an OP who had to specify with couriers that they were not to deliver to her neighbour as she wouldn’t hand parcels over.

Rosscameasdoody · 26/07/2025 17:12

Gloriia · 26/07/2025 16:40

It was delivered to the correct address, the op's mistake. If it had gone to a neighbour as the op was out fine but it was the op's responsibility to make sure delivery address was correct.

It's like when folk do a bank transfer to the wrong account no one sends the police round it is written down as user error.

No. The courier has no responsibility because they delivered to the correct address, but that doesn’t absolve the woman herself. She took the parcel in, there are photos to prove it and she’s denying any knowledge of it. It’s theft.

WiddlinDiddlin · 26/07/2025 16:55

Gloriia · 26/07/2025 16:40

It was delivered to the correct address, the op's mistake. If it had gone to a neighbour as the op was out fine but it was the op's responsibility to make sure delivery address was correct.

It's like when folk do a bank transfer to the wrong account no one sends the police round it is written down as user error.

That simply means it is not the courier or sellers problem to resolve.

It doesn't mean the recipient isn't guilty of theft if they keep the parcel.

In your bank transfer analogy - the bank is not at fault, the money was sent to the bank account specified. However if the recipient is not the intended recipient and they try to keep the money, they're guilty of theft.

Allseeingallknowing · 26/07/2025 16:46

Gloriia · 26/07/2025 16:40

It was delivered to the correct address, the op's mistake. If it had gone to a neighbour as the op was out fine but it was the op's responsibility to make sure delivery address was correct.

It's like when folk do a bank transfer to the wrong account no one sends the police round it is written down as user error.

It had the OP’s name on it, so clearly it did not belong to the woman who moved there. I had the same scenario and the Police agreed with me.

Gloriia · 26/07/2025 16:40

Allseeingallknowing · 26/07/2025 15:32

Not a waste of time- this is a case of theft!

It was delivered to the correct address, the op's mistake. If it had gone to a neighbour as the op was out fine but it was the op's responsibility to make sure delivery address was correct.

It's like when folk do a bank transfer to the wrong account no one sends the police round it is written down as user error.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 26/07/2025 15:38

I'm a bit confused about the idea that this woman makes a habit of stealing other people's parcels; presumably only the OP sold her the house, so there can't be that many people getting things sent to that address by accident because they used to live there.

Allseeingallknowing · 26/07/2025 15:32

Gloriia · 26/07/2025 11:57

We have parcels delivered every single day. Some get put in the correct places, others don't. All the residents of the house <where this parcel was correctly addressed to> need say is oh sorry we were mistaken should a csi squad land on their doorstep.

Wnat a massive waste of everyone's time

Not a waste of time- this is a case of theft!

Goldengirl123 · 26/07/2025 13:48

The police will sort it out as it’s theft

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