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To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:28

I ordered some stuff off sports direct (about £20 worth) and, because I haven’t ordered off there for a couple of years, stupidly got it sent to my old address which was stored on the web site. Yes I know it’s annoying and stupid so I don’t need that lecture.

So once I clocked on what had happened, I went round there to collect it - couple of days later. The woman who bought the house off me completely denies having received it, despite the courier’s photo showing it being accepted at the front door. I can see two sets of children’s feet at the door on the picture. I obviously recognise the doorstep - I lived there for nearly 20 years.

Please note, I did not shout or accuse, I was very polite, I said I was “puzzled” and that there must have been some sort of confusion but she was adamant she hadn’t had it. It was a shoe box sized parcel so not massive to store and not easy to lose either.

Do you clever lot have any idea if there’s anything I can do?

I half expected her to come to the door wearing my gym gear 😆

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Manxexile · 26/05/2025 17:19

Coffeeishot · 26/05/2025 16:43

I would go.through the delivery company say you never received or go to sports direct and hopefully you get a refund, we had this hoha with a parcel recently and we did get a refund eventually, some folk are just cheeky feckers aren't they ?

The courier won't do anything as the OP has no contract with them and in any case the courier's responsibility is only to deliver it to the address given to them by Sports Direct - which they did.

Sports Direct won't do anything as they sent it to the address confirmed by the OP. The fact the OP confirmed the wrong delivery address is not SD's problem

Hattieandcake · 26/05/2025 17:19

Def post on old house local FB page

HeyManIJustWantSomeMuesli · 26/05/2025 17:15

Can you tell it is your parcel from the picture? My neighbour received a picture of my feet/door receiving MY parcels but was told one of them was his. It was very awkward.

notacooldad · 26/05/2025 17:13

Maybe she looked at the name but rejected the parcel after the delivery driver had taken the photo. I’ve had that before
and rejected the parcel even tho the driver has already selected delivered. I’ve no idea what happened to it after then

Surely she would have said ' oh im really sorry I didn't think about you, I rejected it'

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 17:11

<sigh> yep i think im going to have to just accept it as my stupid fault and order again. I can’t imagine sports direct or the courier will do anything - they haven’t done anything wrong have they? And I can’t imagine the police will be interested.

I wish I’d never sold her the house. AND she’s painted my lovely front door a frightful colour.

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ABigBarofChocolate · 26/05/2025 17:07

This happened to my sister. She had £50 worth of clothes for her son's birthday "delivered" but the picture is from a house with a distinctive pattern on the fence. The only house in the street and neighbouring streets with said fence...have denied any knowledge of the parcel. Doubt the stuff inside would fit either of them. That was in Feb. Both the courier and the company are passing the buck to each other so I doubt she will see the money or the clothes.

BobbyBiscuits · 26/05/2025 17:06

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:56

She did ask the kids because they answered the door again!

Ok well I guess that's something. But I reckon you are just going to have to leave it or try and get a refund from retailer.

Seymour5 · 26/05/2025 17:05

KarmenPQZ · 26/05/2025 16:35

There’s a photo of her looking at the parcel on the doorstep. She could have then handed it back. As I said in my post I’ve done this… taken the parcel, had the photo taken, looked at the parcel and passed it back to the driver.

Wouldn’t she just have said she handed it back rather than deny any knowledge of it? That’s what any reasonable person would do.

YinYangalang · 26/05/2025 17:03

My DC had loads of parcels sent to their students address and dodgy people coming around asking after them. If they were in they would refuse the parcels if not and the parcels had been posted they just always said we returned to sender and will never hand a parcel over to anyone on the doorstep. They did in fact return to sender or put in a post box with return to sender. The scammers stopped coming as soon as they realized they weren’t getting any parcels that were delivered to their address.

B1indEye · 26/05/2025 17:00

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:55

Ok so I have found the same item on vinted, brand new with tags. Is there any way of finding out where the item is located on there?

Can you message and ask where she is, say you need the item quickly and wondered if by any chance she was nearby so you could collect.

I'm assuming that as you went round she lives quite near you

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:59

SpunkySquid · 26/05/2025 16:57

You can usually see the sellers location if you click on their profile.

Not sure why people are suggesting she refused the delivery. Surely she would just say that if she did, rather than deny all knowledge.

Edited

Thank you for that. The location is wrong so I haven’t got her banged for rights dammit!

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RareGoalsVerge · 26/05/2025 16:59

Tell her that you are going to report it to the police as stolen and will be giving them the photograph showing it being accepted at the wrong address as proof that it was accepted there. Give her 48 hours notice to "check everywhere" and if it turns up you'll say no more about it. If it doesn't turn up, follow through and report it.

The police may not do anything, but it will be an easy crime to solve for their statistics if they have time.

If they don't, lodge a claim against her in the small claims court, then she can pay you the cost of the goods she took plus the court costs too.

moanamovie · 26/05/2025 16:57

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:55

Ok so I have found the same item on vinted, brand new with tags. Is there any way of finding out where the item is located on there?

Usually if you go on the sellers profile it’ll say a loose location? Other than that, maybe message and ask where are they based as you are keen for a speedy delivery or something? Then if it’s the right location it’ll be obvious it’s her, in which case I would go back round with the message thread as proof. If it is her, cheeky cow!

SpunkySquid · 26/05/2025 16:57

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:55

Ok so I have found the same item on vinted, brand new with tags. Is there any way of finding out where the item is located on there?

You can usually see the sellers location if you click on their profile.

Not sure why people are suggesting she refused the delivery. Surely she would just say that if she did, rather than deny all knowledge.

Coffeeishot · 26/05/2025 16:57

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:55

Ok so I have found the same item on vinted, brand new with tags. Is there any way of finding out where the item is located on there?

You can't no you could maybe contact them and say you can collect and go round and it's a gotcha

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:56

BobbyBiscuits · 26/05/2025 16:53

She doesn't know anything about it. If she did she'd have kept it for you. If her kids took it then it's long gone and they'll probably deny it, not that you can force her to ask them.

You just have to accept you made an error by not changing the address. You could try and get a refund and just tell them it's missing?

She did ask the kids because they answered the door again!

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:55

Ok so I have found the same item on vinted, brand new with tags. Is there any way of finding out where the item is located on there?

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JaneWithTheUntidyHouse · 26/05/2025 16:54

This happened to us once OP. The people at our old address flat out denied it. We never got the parcel back. Sorry, there's not much you can do.

BobbyBiscuits · 26/05/2025 16:53

She doesn't know anything about it. If she did she'd have kept it for you. If her kids took it then it's long gone and they'll probably deny it, not that you can force her to ask them.

You just have to accept you made an error by not changing the address. You could try and get a refund and just tell them it's missing?

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:48

SparklyGlitterballs · 26/05/2025 16:47

Did you not show her the photo and ask if it was her kids accepting it? I'd have asked her to explain the delivery photo.

I did show her yes. She just said she had no idea.

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SparklyGlitterballs · 26/05/2025 16:47

Did you not show her the photo and ask if it was her kids accepting it? I'd have asked her to explain the delivery photo.

NicolaCasanova · 26/05/2025 16:44

Look on Vinted for the items.

Deadringer · 26/05/2025 16:43

KarmenPQZ · 26/05/2025 16:35

There’s a photo of her looking at the parcel on the doorstep. She could have then handed it back. As I said in my post I’ve done this… taken the parcel, had the photo taken, looked at the parcel and passed it back to the driver.

She could just say that though, instead of denying all knowledge of it?
Op this reminds me of a thread a couple of years ago, the op had ordered a wedding dress and it went to the wrong house. She called around and householder denied all knowledge of it. Op went online to buy it again, found it on vinted (or similar) and yes it was her neighbour selling it! Iirc she offered to buy it from neighbour (didn't use her real name) rocked up to view it and prised it out of her neighbours hands.

Coffeeishot · 26/05/2025 16:43

I would go.through the delivery company say you never received or go to sports direct and hopefully you get a refund, we had this hoha with a parcel recently and we did get a refund eventually, some folk are just cheeky feckers aren't they ?

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:42

Sidebeforeself · 26/05/2025 16:40

But another adult could have been in? I once denied delivery of something because DH had put the parcel in a weird place and not told me!

Her husband also came to the door. He also denied all knowledge.

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