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To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:28

I ordered some stuff off sports direct (about £20 worth) and, because I haven’t ordered off there for a couple of years, stupidly got it sent to my old address which was stored on the web site. Yes I know it’s annoying and stupid so I don’t need that lecture.

So once I clocked on what had happened, I went round there to collect it - couple of days later. The woman who bought the house off me completely denies having received it, despite the courier’s photo showing it being accepted at the front door. I can see two sets of children’s feet at the door on the picture. I obviously recognise the doorstep - I lived there for nearly 20 years.

Please note, I did not shout or accuse, I was very polite, I said I was “puzzled” and that there must have been some sort of confusion but she was adamant she hadn’t had it. It was a shoe box sized parcel so not massive to store and not easy to lose either.

Do you clever lot have any idea if there’s anything I can do?

I half expected her to come to the door wearing my gym gear 😆

OP posts:
Flashahah · 26/05/2025 20:55

WearyAuldWumman · 26/05/2025 20:52

I'll use my patented double diarrhoea curse on her, if you like.

Can I give you some people to use that on?

WearyAuldWumman · 26/05/2025 20:52

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 19:04

How rude! The gym leggings in there were delightful 😂

I have been round there. And showed her the proof. I cannot imagine the police will get involved or that I can be bothered to pursue a £20 order.

i intend to simply fume and widh Minor inconveniences on her.

Edited

I'll use my patented double diarrhoea curse on her, if you like.

Threestripesswoosh · 26/05/2025 20:48

notenoughhere · 26/05/2025 17:20

It’s not your front door.

I find people that don’t understand obvious humour fascinating. Do people usually point it out to you afterward but you just do the same each time? I wonder if you feel you’re genuinely responding with relevant information? So interesting and must make friendships quite challenging, I imagine.

notenoughhere · 26/05/2025 20:46

carpool · 26/05/2025 20:40

Maybe report to social services that the young children were left alone in the house as the photo shows them receiving the parcel and the adults in the house deny all knowledge of any such thing therefore presumably they were not there?

This is actually perfectly possibly what happened. The kids took the parcel in and have put it somewhere the adults are unaware of. The adults can't admit that as they can't admit leaving the children unattended.

Fucking hell do not contact social services about children’s feet being in a delivery picture. They genuinely have enough to be doing.

carpool · 26/05/2025 20:40

Maybe report to social services that the young children were left alone in the house as the photo shows them receiving the parcel and the adults in the house deny all knowledge of any such thing therefore presumably they were not there?

This is actually perfectly possibly what happened. The kids took the parcel in and have put it somewhere the adults are unaware of. The adults can't admit that as they can't admit leaving the children unattended.

SalfordQuays · 26/05/2025 20:25

Whilst I think there’s almost zero chance of you getting it back, I’d still tell her you’re going to the police etc. Make her sweat a bit. Also I’d warn the neighbours if you’re still on friendly terms with them.

Jc2001 · 26/05/2025 20:22

It's 20 quid. Let it go.

All this bullshit about calling the police. They don't even come out if your house has been burgled, let alone investigate the whereabouts of a small delivery you had sent to be wrong address.

Chalk it down to experience.

maxybrown · 26/05/2025 20:22

Similar happened to some friends of mine. It was actually the company that messed up but it went to their old address. They went round and they showed them the photo and at first they denied it....so pointed out the photo again. (This item was also personalised with their name on by the way) They shut the door, rustled about a bit then came to the door with said item and it stinking of perfume. They reckoned the wife had been wearing it at the time 😂 so bizarre. Anyway, of no help to you OP but might make you laugh

longtompot · 26/05/2025 20:19

@BitOutOfPractice I did this the Christmas after we moved, only it was over £100 as it was electric toothbrushes etc from Boots. I tried to cancel my order but couldn't, I just had to hope the new tenants would refuse it and send it back. I actually wrote a letter to them and gave them my mobile number and explained what had happened and they were very good about it.

The second time it happened wasn't my fault. It was a relative who sent us something for Christmas but to the old address as that was what in their default contact details for us on that particular site. I contacted the people again via text but they had moved a few years prior and the other people must have kept it.

Cheffymcchef · 26/05/2025 20:19

MatildaTheCat · 26/05/2025 17:35

I’m not sure SD do goodwill- you can’t even return online purchases for a refund.

@BitOutOfPractice was it an amicable sale? We had exactly this situation recently and I just messaged our vendor and said we have a parcel here for you. The people who we sold to were awful and I wouldn’t rush to help them out (although of course I wouldn’t have stolen their goods).

Just to say you can return online purchases. Done this many times.

Cheffymcchef · 26/05/2025 20:17

In this case you can’t do anything. Sports direct won’t replace as you gave them the wrong address. Chargeback isn’t possible as again you gave them wrong address.

Evri won’t entertain you as they’ve done their job, sent it to the address specified and tend to only liase with the sender anyway. Not Evri’s job to assume you’ve moved on either.

You could report neighbour to police for stolen mail but I doubt they’d do much. For all they know, it could be you who accepted the parcel at the old house.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 26/05/2025 20:17

Katemax82 · 26/05/2025 19:24

Sports direct will do precisely jacj shit to help, their customer service sucks. Try the courier instead

Why should Sports Direct or the courier do anything? They delivered the order to the address specified by the OP.

SalfordQuays · 26/05/2025 20:14

I would tell the woman that you’ve reported it to the police because you need a crime number so you can claim on insurance. Say that you think the police will probably follow it up because a lot of parcels used to disappear in that area when you lived there, so they take it quite seriously. Then say you also need her to sign a statement that she didn’t receive it, also for the insurance.

Flashahah · 26/05/2025 20:12

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 19:54

I know SD and the Delivery company have done nothing wrong. It’s the household at my old address that have.

if she’d said “I was really annoyed you’d sent a parcel here and threw it in the bin” I’d think that was fair enough. It is annoying. But to just deny having it. That’s just a lie. And that’s pissed me off.

Edited

Because they’ve nicked it! Lowlifes! Can you negotiate offering on the vinted item, tell them you’re local and desperate to have the item immediately and could you pick it up?

Flashahah · 26/05/2025 20:10

eurochick · 26/05/2025 20:04

I’ve had this as well. My neighbour came round all guns blazing showing a very distinctive picture of my front door and slippers. The courier had handed me the parcel and photographed it. But I had handed the package back to the driver as I could see it had the wrong address. The courier appeared to have uploaded the photo anyway. The package was an iPhone apparently. Neighbour said he was reporting me to the police. I told him to go right ahead. I heard no more. I suspect the courier saw an opportunity to snaffle a new phone.

But surely the person would’ve told OP this?

eurochick · 26/05/2025 20:04

HariboFan5367 · 26/05/2025 18:46

Same. The delivery driver still uploaded the photo even though we handed it straight back after seeing the wrong name. So then the person who sent it to the wrong address was adamant we had it. Don't know what happened to it after that

I’ve had this as well. My neighbour came round all guns blazing showing a very distinctive picture of my front door and slippers. The courier had handed me the parcel and photographed it. But I had handed the package back to the driver as I could see it had the wrong address. The courier appeared to have uploaded the photo anyway. The package was an iPhone apparently. Neighbour said he was reporting me to the police. I told him to go right ahead. I heard no more. I suspect the courier saw an opportunity to snaffle a new phone.

Viviennemary · 26/05/2025 19:54

realitystrikes · 26/05/2025 19:46

Just report it not received. They will see the geo location of the photograph pinpointed on a map and know it was delivered to the wrong address. Its not up to you to follow up or get the police involved. The company has proof they delivered it to the wrong address and will give you a refund or replacement.

They didn't deliver it to the wrong address. They delivered it to the address OP gave them which was by mistake her old address.

BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 19:54

I know SD and the Delivery company have done nothing wrong. It’s the household at my old address that have.

if she’d said “I was really annoyed you’d sent a parcel here and threw it in the bin” I’d think that was fair enough. It is annoying. But to just deny having it. That’s just a lie. And that’s pissed me off.

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 26/05/2025 19:51

realitystrikes · 26/05/2025 19:46

Just report it not received. They will see the geo location of the photograph pinpointed on a map and know it was delivered to the wrong address. Its not up to you to follow up or get the police involved. The company has proof they delivered it to the wrong address and will give you a refund or replacement.

It’s not the wrong address, though. They’ve delivered it where OP asked them to deliver it. OP got it wrong.

Flashahah · 26/05/2025 19:50

realitystrikes · 26/05/2025 19:46

Just report it not received. They will see the geo location of the photograph pinpointed on a map and know it was delivered to the wrong address. Its not up to you to follow up or get the police involved. The company has proof they delivered it to the wrong address and will give you a refund or replacement.

It wasn’t the wrong address

realitystrikes · 26/05/2025 19:46

Just report it not received. They will see the geo location of the photograph pinpointed on a map and know it was delivered to the wrong address. Its not up to you to follow up or get the police involved. The company has proof they delivered it to the wrong address and will give you a refund or replacement.

Flashahah · 26/05/2025 19:46

Coffeeishot · 26/05/2025 16:43

I would go.through the delivery company say you never received or go to sports direct and hopefully you get a refund, we had this hoha with a parcel recently and we did get a refund eventually, some folk are just cheeky feckers aren't they ?

But it’s not a SD issue, you can’t blame them.

Viviennemary · 26/05/2025 19:45

BobbyBiscuits · 26/05/2025 16:53

She doesn't know anything about it. If she did she'd have kept it for you. If her kids took it then it's long gone and they'll probably deny it, not that you can force her to ask them.

You just have to accept you made an error by not changing the address. You could try and get a refund and just tell them it's missing?

I agree. It's annoying but I doubt you'll get a refund as the parcel was delivered to the address you gave. If you paid by credit card you might be able to claim through that.

Namechangedformyanswer · 26/05/2025 19:35

This happened with a passport at an address the next street along. They sent the picture taken and I went around. Denied it. Really important passport. My husband went around with picture and said its clearly here. Chap said they opened it and threw it away! Knows.

Had to get another one sent.

brettsalanger · 26/05/2025 19:27

This exact thing happened to me on sports direct wierdly. The way the check out is laid out makes it difficult to spot the delivery address.

I got my parcel back though as my sister bought my old house !

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