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To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..

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BitOutOfPractice · 26/05/2025 16:28

I ordered some stuff off sports direct (about £20 worth) and, because I haven’t ordered off there for a couple of years, stupidly got it sent to my old address which was stored on the web site. Yes I know it’s annoying and stupid so I don’t need that lecture.

So once I clocked on what had happened, I went round there to collect it - couple of days later. The woman who bought the house off me completely denies having received it, despite the courier’s photo showing it being accepted at the front door. I can see two sets of children’s feet at the door on the picture. I obviously recognise the doorstep - I lived there for nearly 20 years.

Please note, I did not shout or accuse, I was very polite, I said I was “puzzled” and that there must have been some sort of confusion but she was adamant she hadn’t had it. It was a shoe box sized parcel so not massive to store and not easy to lose either.

Do you clever lot have any idea if there’s anything I can do?

I half expected her to come to the door wearing my gym gear 😆

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mutinyonthetwix · 12/06/2025 19:09

Honestly having seen the police basically acting as a crime reference number distribution service when it comes to theft for many years it's actually kind of heartening to see them actually bothering.

jljlj · 12/06/2025 19:03

You shouldn’t feel bad op. The thief should feel bad.

Kathbrownlow · 12/06/2025 18:19

I don't think you should feel bad - the woman lied and she is a brazen thief who thinks she's got away with it.

..I haven't used the word 'brazen' for years!

BitOutOfPractice · 12/06/2025 18:16

Update: police have just emailed asking for more details. Order number, courier tracking information etc. I honestly didn’t think that the police would take it down seriously. I feel bad now!

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Koazy · 02/06/2025 15:32

BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2025 14:12

So I’ve heard that they have “attended” and it is “progressing”. No idea what that means.

How exciting!

BitOutOfPractice · 02/06/2025 14:12

So I’ve heard that they have “attended” and it is “progressing”. No idea what that means.

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BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2025 20:02

My dear? Really? I think you’ve taken this far too and more seriously than me 🙄

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 31/05/2025 20:01

@BitOutOfPractice get one of those revenge parcels of glitter sent to you at her address!! or a box of dog shit!!

timechecknow · 31/05/2025 17:14

BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2025 16:43

And honestly the legal eagles on this thread are wasting their…erm…clicks because I’m not reading, have no intention of taking any legal action and am leaving it now in the lap of the gods and Essex’s finest constabulary.

My dear, the police are able to take action BECAUSE it's against the law.........

BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2025 16:43

And honestly the legal eagles on this thread are wasting their…erm…clicks because I’m not reading, have no intention of taking any legal action and am leaving it now in the lap of the gods and Essex’s finest constabulary.

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BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2025 16:40

Yes @FeralWoman. From memory someone had bought an old house, found a very old looking safe in the loft. There were plenty of shenanigans trying to get it open, much speculation about the contents, then the op disappeared never to reveal the dénouement.

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Thanksforyourlackofthought · 31/05/2025 16:07

My postie delivered a Christmas present I'd ordered to the wrong house last Christmas. I saw the photo, didn't recognise the door, called the sorting office. They called me back and said the postie had the gps coordinates of where they had left it and would be going back. Called me the next day to say that the home owner denied all knowledge despite the postie showing them the photo and telling them he was the one that had delivered it. Apparently she was quite stroppy about it. Purchase from Fatface. They replaced it.

timechecknow · 31/05/2025 15:48

SunnySideDeepDown · 31/05/2025 09:26

FYI, it wasn’t clear the first time. You’re talking to members of the public, not police officers.

I'm in law (not even that field of law so just as novice as anyone else here) and hardly a police officer, but I still dont see what was hard to grasp but ok ok lol whatever

FeralWoman · 31/05/2025 15:32

Victorian safe? Is that some sort of MN Classics reference?

Hope you get your goods @BitOutOfPractice.

BitOutOfPractice · 31/05/2025 14:50

WiddlinDiddlin · 31/05/2025 14:19

Damn, now I am thinking I should have reported the misdelivery (I had put the right address in, however it was delivered to SameNumber Neighbouring Street) of my giant granny pants...

Home owner at the address shown on the delivery GPS, with the matching front door to the one in the photo (which is the same number as my house) hid both times my DP went round.

I hope my giant pants chafe her arse. I did get a replacement pair from the Giant Pants Company, but thats not really the point. As you say @BitOutOfPractice its the lies, and the stealing. Gets right on your pip, gets your dander right up!

I'd have liked to see the popo wham ram the door - COME OUT WITH THE PANTS UP... RELEASE THE PANTS...

Ugh.

Im not confident I will ever see my saltwater knock offs. May they rest in peace. <genuflects> but it’s been a wild ride so far.

and I promise not to be one of those arseholes that never updates the thread. There’ll be no Victorian safes on my watch.

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HotCrossBunplease · 31/05/2025 14:45

Wow. I don’t come on MN much any more but am delighted with your most recent updates @BitOutOfPractice - or BOOP as I fondly know you from the Archers threads 😀.

I have a feeling she wasn’t in and they probably won’t go back again but am holding out for an update anyway.

And I particularly enjoyed the peak Mumsnet curse of “I hope the fake Saltwater sandals give her blisters”!

WiddlinDiddlin · 31/05/2025 14:36

I am aware it's different, it was more an 'amusing solidarity' comment, not a 'oh the same thing happened to me' one, and no she didn't send them back (it's a small company, they're very lovely, I checked).

I sent my DP round because I really needed the pants and it was the friday before a bank holiday weekend, and I had no idea she was going to hide. Whilst I don't know her, I do know she gets frequent food deliveries and is normally chatty and confident, so not some terrified MN recluse that never answers the door.

If you knew your order had been misdelivered a few hundred yards away, would you seriously NOT pop round and ask for your parcel?!

After the second time he went round and it was obvious she was in but hiding, we gave up on knocking, put a note through asking they be returned (a 1 min walk away!) and when they did not reappear I asked for a replacement pair, but it's pissed me off, they're MY pants! Who steals someone elses pants!? (Yes she's of a size that my giant pants would fit her too.)

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 31/05/2025 14:26

WiddlinDiddlin · 31/05/2025 14:19

Damn, now I am thinking I should have reported the misdelivery (I had put the right address in, however it was delivered to SameNumber Neighbouring Street) of my giant granny pants...

Home owner at the address shown on the delivery GPS, with the matching front door to the one in the photo (which is the same number as my house) hid both times my DP went round.

I hope my giant pants chafe her arse. I did get a replacement pair from the Giant Pants Company, but thats not really the point. As you say @BitOutOfPractice its the lies, and the stealing. Gets right on your pip, gets your dander right up!

I'd have liked to see the popo wham ram the door - COME OUT WITH THE PANTS UP... RELEASE THE PANTS...

Ugh.

Your situation is different. The courier made a mistake- the seller is bound to redo the order. There was no need to send your husband round.

As far as the recipient is concerend - who knows? She may have contacted the company who could have arranged a return at their cost or told her to keep the parcel.

WiddlinDiddlin · 31/05/2025 14:19

Damn, now I am thinking I should have reported the misdelivery (I had put the right address in, however it was delivered to SameNumber Neighbouring Street) of my giant granny pants...

Home owner at the address shown on the delivery GPS, with the matching front door to the one in the photo (which is the same number as my house) hid both times my DP went round.

I hope my giant pants chafe her arse. I did get a replacement pair from the Giant Pants Company, but thats not really the point. As you say @BitOutOfPractice its the lies, and the stealing. Gets right on your pip, gets your dander right up!

I'd have liked to see the popo wham ram the door - COME OUT WITH THE PANTS UP... RELEASE THE PANTS...

Ugh.

PeachPumpkin · 31/05/2025 13:47

I’m hoping she opens the door wearing the items. Even if OP doesn’t get the items back, it’ll likely panic the parcel thief.

DeSoleil · 31/05/2025 13:43

I really hope that the police take a heavy handed approach to this utter scumbag who has your parcel.

To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..
EstherGreenwood63 · 31/05/2025 13:26

I am loving your work OP. Get the thieving scumbags!

Kathbrownlow · 31/05/2025 12:41

I am a bit of a shopaholic (working on it) and too often I buy something and look at it for a while without wearing it. It's like I have to own it, but not damage it by wearing it (weird upbringing).

When my closet won't take any more clothes, I sell my bnwt clothes/shoes on Vinted for a fraction of what I paid for them. It's madness I know, but I am not a thief.

TroysMammy · 31/05/2025 12:23

Greenkindness · 31/05/2025 11:06

I have ADHD and I often either forget to return stuff till it’s too late, or lose the receipt. So I do sell it on eBay or Vinted to try and recoup some of the cost.

I’m sure that’s not everyone but it is the situation for some people. It’s not all stolen stuff.

Or like me buy summer clothes hoping the sun will shine again - but it doesn't and then lose 2 stone by the next summer and the clothes don't fit.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 31/05/2025 11:21

timechecknow · 31/05/2025 09:12

Sorry but isnt it pretty self explanatory? Accepting goods in the case of mistaken identity doesnt fall under the category of receiving unsolicited goods and therefore can constitute theft

I thought I must be mistaken. So you're saying that the woman at OP's old property is guilty of theft. That is what we are all saying. That's not the point I was arguing. My point is that OP can't claim non receipt of goods against SD because they have been delivered to the address provided by OP. Some people seem to think she can just claim from SD because someone has stolen them. She can't.