Is this split of household tasks fair?

I hate cooking. Well actually more meal planning. 5 of us in the house, one with allergies and, two who will only eat certain foods (due to autism) so it's a pain trying to find food everyone eats.
Even with that though I'd love not having to do anything else . Just cooking and cleaning a kitchen for 2 people sounds easy.
The division of labour is unfair because your partner does more than you. A lot more. Why don't you do alternative weeks. So one week he cooks while you do everything else, then you cook while he does everything else.
If this is a reverse you should still do this.

Absolutely. Marinading and stirring and not necessary for healthy eating.

It’s buying some meat and veg every few days. I live alone. I manage to put some food in the oven every day, sometimes twice a day. It is not relentless 😂

Why? What difference does it make if fish or chicken and veg are oven cooked as opposed to fried or boiled?

I knew someone would comment to pretend a work night tea is the equivalent of making a three course meal.

How long does it take to chop and season? It takes two minutes. A chicken breast on some foil, some chopped veg and potato, oil and seasoning, in the oven for half an hour. That is cooking and it’s piss easy.

I don't do the majority of those things and still manage to feed myself perfectly well.

It sounds like you have the lighter load and are very ungrateful about it!

YANBU, cooking from scratch every night plus cleaning up is a lot.

Might be better to share it out more. So he cooks and cleans kitchen half the week, you cook and clean the kitchen the other half.

He does the bathroom, you vacuum the house.

He does the washing, you sort it and fold it.

He sorts the rubbish, you sort the recycling.

Why do you not do alternate weeks?

This must be a reverse. Do a full swap for a month where you do all the bathrooms, bed changes, hoovering, mopping, dusting, laundry, bins etc... then be very regretful when you find he won't go back!

Everything else is bigger OP. I know figuring out the cooking is hard and deciding what to eat but his side is more

maybe more of a mix around?

For your own health, if this is what you eat, I’d really recommend at least occasionally eating something you don’t just put in an oven.

Its thinking about what to eat, ensuring you have the right ingredients, prepping the food, cooking it, washing up etc.

Far more than ‘just putting it in the oven’.

Surely it’s the time amount that’s relevant?

there’s lots of posts here with decisive unfair/fair statements, but no one has any idea how much effort you’re putting in to cooking/whether you live in a palace or hovel etc etc

same amount of time would be fair.

Well, obviously you have a much lighter load, if he is doing litter trays, as well as laundry and cleaning everywhere, BUT, that doesn't mean YABU or YANBU if you have decided you hate cooking each night.
Just because something worked "on paper" to begin with, doesn't mean it has to stay the same for the rest of your lives.

Who does / how do you do the shopping? As that can have an impact if the other one wants specific things to cook with. Can work fine - when the dc were teens, each of them, and both of us cooked one meal each during the week and they had the choice of using whatever was in the fridge / store cupboard or thinking ahead, and putting ingredients they wanted on the list before I did the weekly shop.

Yes, take the cooking in turns. But then you need to do something he currently does.

Otherwise, YABVU.

Same energy as those saying “the dishwasher and laundry machines do all the work for you” isn’t it? I’d love to know what kind of oven does the shopping, chopping, seasoning, assembling, heating, and serving for you. Or what dishwasher scrapes the plates, rinses them, puts them in their appropriate places, washes them, and then magicks them back into the cupboards and drawers!

It doesn’t matter what is fair what matters is does it work for both parties , it’s not working for you so you both need to revisit the arrangement .

That's not cooking. That's heating up. Cooking involves chopping and marinating and stirring and seasoning and all manner of things!

I’m calling reverse.

If not, you’ve got the seriously good end of the deal here OP and I’d keep quiet if I were you.

I would love it if all I had to do was the cooking/dinner clean up, you have a very sweet deal.

If you want him to do some cooking as well, you could take on the laundry which is a great WFH chore.

If you take turns in the kitchen, you should take turns with the other tasks as well. I imagine he’s a bit fed up with cleaning the cat boxes and doing the laundry every time, as those things are relentless too, but somebody has to do it.

Suggest he does the cooking/kitchen cleaning and you all the other chores.

You’re clearly bored with your cooking & washing up, I suggest you take on their jobs & let them do yours.

I'd suggest the split of tasks is already uneven and you do far less.

Perhaps what you need to do is write down all the cleaning tasks and divide them up evenly. Then work out a cooking/cleaning rota (one cooks/other one cleans) and meal plan together.