Is this split of household tasks fair?

But I guess the point is that spending ages faffing over dinner is a choice, for the most part (genuine dietary needs aside). Cooking for two adults is, broadly speaking, as easy or difficult as you choose to make it.

Chop the vegetables first and then the meat. No need for two chopping boards or knives and they can be cooked together. It takes seconds to chop vegetables and meat.

That said, I wouldn’t be cooking for fussy eaters.

DH and I are both fussy eaters in our own way, so we each sort our own dinners out. It really doesn't take long, but then I feel I'm very unusual when it comes to food compared to many people on here!

Of course you don’t have to.

but many people want to.

we get that you don’t want to.

i would get zero enjoyment out of the meal you have detailed you are having tonight.

I guess you can count yourself quite lucky that that is a meal you will enjoy as it must make your life much easier.

so he does the laundry, hoovering, dusting, cleans the bathroom, cleans the pet stuff, bins, garden, polishing, cleans windows and you cook and clean up afterwards? Sounds like you get the better deal

Fair enough, but then you can't really complain that you're spending ages stood in the kitchen cooking.

Nope...bathroom is the worst job as is the hoovering and dusting.

That’s if you have a partner who isn’t a picky eater. My DH only eats like 5 veggies, and only if they’re all cooked a specific way (or left raw, if it’s spinach.) I often end up with the oven, the air fryer, and the stove all running at once. Also, if you want your veggies crispy, you can’t get frozen ones, because they just turn out soft. Have to start with fresh and usually chop them yourself.

I’m not sure why, but they taught us to chop and cook the meat separately from the veggies, in cook school. Something about cross contamination.

You’d never have roast chicken and veg? Ham and chips? Sausages with a jacket potato? Salmon with vegetables and sweet potato? Beef with roasties?

OP doesn't have children - there is no way it takes anywhere close to an hour to prepare packed lunches for two adults (and he should be making his own anyway!).

Just not yor me. Roast meat and veg would be my food hell on James Martin.
Just prefer curries, risotto, tagine..... that kind of thing.

Yeah cooking every day would drive me nuts even if I did have the absolutely sweet trade of not having to do anything else.

Just make a rota for all the jobs if you like structure OP

Cooking everyday gets old fast, I would say take the cooking out of the ‘jobs’ and re divvy up the other tasks and alternate cooking. Or get a cleaner, resolved a lot of our household bickering about whose turn it was to do the bathroom!

I can see why being response for cooking everyday would get annoying, it’s a task you HAVE to do in some form everyday. Unless you have an incredibly clean house, I would argue lots of those other jobs are not daily tasks (laundry, hoovering, litter trays) especially if you’re both working with no kids. How did you come to this divide of labour?

I think I’d start the whole system again personally.

Don't forget cooking often involves lunches too.
I am sometimes an hour in the kitchen before I even start dinner.

There are numerous different meats, vegetables and carbs. Are most meals not made up of a combination of the three?

The idea that preparing a meal for two adults means you have to spend the night chopping, dicing, marinading (not sure why that takes up much time, you usually just leave it to marinade), stirring and whatever else is just silly. You might fancy a more time consuming meal on occasion, but you don’t have to do that every night.

What's boring about oven roasted chicken and vegetables?

If he actually cleans the whole house weekly to a good standard and does laundry/bins/litter boxes whatever else needs doing etc etc then I think it’s fair you cook and clean the kitchen each evening.

but if that’s not working for you then suggest swapping roles for a week or so and see how you get on?

How boring does that meal sound though.
I may do somethinglikevtgat if I am really late, tired or unwell but wouldn't be a normal meal.

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2 people, One doing all the meal planning, cooking, cleaning up and the other one doing cleaning doesn't seem unreasonable (assuming you dont live in a mansion). I disagree with others that you are doing much less. But I agree that you could swap - he doescoiming and tou do bins and litter trays etc on those days.

Just put my tea in the oven.

I drizzled olive oil on foil, placed three chicken drums on, some frozen carrot battalions, some cherry tomatoes and some tender stem broccoli along with a few new potatoes. I then drizzled more oil and sprinkled over an Italian herb mix (oregano, basil, red pepper, garlic), folded the foil and put it in the oven.

On this occasion, I don’t even have to wash the knife.

What do you think is going to happen if the uncooked veg touches the uncooked meat?

Honestly, the martyrdom is ridiculous. Kids and dietary needs? Yes, I can see that being a pain. Cooking for two adults? It takes minutes.

That very much depends what you are cooking.

Do you really not have the imagination @Poiuytrewqato understand that many many people don’t want a - what sounds like a completely bland meal of roasted meat and veg every night. No thanks. I’d rather spend a bit more time. You are welcome to not.

So every night you chop one (1) carrot, put it directly on the racks with raw meat, and all you have to wash is one (1) knife and one (1) cutting board. Got it

🙄 How long does it take you to chop a carrot? Ridiculous to try and pretend that cooking a couple of people a meal is a mammoth task.

You just open a packet of meat and take whole veggies and plop em in the oven? No chopping, seasoning, putting on pans that you have to wash ? No grains/carbs to go with them?