Is this split of household tasks fair?

In terms of tasks, the OP has a sweet deal, but I can see how cooking the food every night and cleaning it up could get wearing. My late DH did most of the food shopping, all the cooking (always from scratch but leftovers used mid-week) because he liked it: thinking of recipes, and crucially he found it relaxing.

I now do this too and enjoy the prep, but then I only have myself to please.
I won't go into the rest of my and DH's sharing, but it was equitable. We both worked full-time in demanding jobs.

OP, if you want to share the cooking then you're going to have to take on some of what your OH is doing.

Frozen onion is great!

Do week about. You cook one week and he cleans, he cooks the next week and you clean.

Breaks up the monotony.

Oh it did. Thought that was an advert. 😂

Oh. My link to Gordon chopping an onion didn’t work.

attempt two…

Here we have Gordon Ramsey chopping an onion. It takes him, a professional highly qualified chef over one minute to do half the onion and that doesn’t include peeling it. So, no, @Poiuytrewqait doesn’t take seconds.
you’ve been all over this thread smugly lording it up that you’re so much faster at cooking than everyone else, when all it is is that you eat really bland food.

You have to wash and peel it first (unless you eat the peel??). There’s a lot more cuts if you want a finer dice vs a rough, clumsy chop. (Compare the slices/chop for fajitas or kabobs vs pico de Gallo) Even if you do a rough chop, it takes longer than ten seconds. And no, you wouldn’t bake or roast thinly sliced chicken; that gets fried or seared in a pan. The oven would dry it out and make it rubbery.

I do not understand why there are people like you intentionally minimizing the amount of work done to make even a simple meal. It doesn’t seem like those who acknowledge how much time and effort these things actually take are the ones being the martyrs here.

The point of starting the meat first (aka, chopping, seasoning it, and getting it into whatever appliance you’re cooking with) when it takes longer than the veggies is so that you can get the whole meal done faster (all the components done at the same time) rather than making the veggies first and then waiting for the meat to finish cooking. Plus then everything is more likely to be hot, and not either cold or overcooked from being kept hot while waiting for other components to finish.

I’m enjoying the diversion into cookery practises. Onion, when you go halves are you cutting end to end or through the fat bit?

Also interested in the idea of cutting the top off before the slicing.

So even though you work from home twice a week he still cleans the litter trays? Does that mean when your cat uses it, you just leave it in there for him to clean up because that’s ‘his’ chore to do?!!?

😂😂 An onion?? Chop it in half, top it, slice it, bottom it. It honestly does not take longer than ten seconds. If you think slicing chicken is a hugely time consuming job, fair enough. I wouldn’t oven cook thinly sliced chicken though.

When the meat takes longer hold the veg back. When the potatoes take longer hold the meat and veg back.

This isn’t difficult stuff.

@Poiuytrewqa Sometimes the meat takes longer, so it makes more sense to get it started first. I’ve also heard that something about keeping meat cutting boards separate from veggie cutting boards, but I don’t do that (I spray hand-washed dishes down with a rubbing alcohol and vinegar solution anyway; I figure if it’s not clean enough to cut food you’ll eat raw on, it’s not clean enough to use for meat again, either. )

It most definitely takes longer than “seconds” to chop meat and vegetables. It takes longer than “seconds” to even wash your veggies and get them on the cutting board, let alone cut them. Have you never peeled and diced an onion before? Sliced chicken real thin for velveting?

You’d think. I don’t do any of the cooking but I certainly don’t let my bloke get away with not doing anything else.

If you both work the same hours in similarly demanding jobs then share everything.......

Share all food shopping, cooking , washing up, cleaning the kitchen & bathroom, dusting, hoovering, emptying bins, putting out the rubbish, changing bed inen, washing, drying and folding clothes.etc.

Or split the cooking & chores so you each do what you enjoy.

Or employ a cleaner & split the meal planning, food shopping & cooking. Or do it together.

Sounds like you have a great deal if your only room is the kitchen.

Our kitchen arrangement is generally I will do the cooking and kitchen cleaning during the week as I'm home first, and he does it at weekends. He's actually really good at cooking and he enjoys it. The cleaning less so but he does wash up and antibac the surfaces. The bathroom on the other hand....I don't think he's ever once scrubbed the bath or put bleach down the loo.

This is a nonsense post from someone at the wind up. No one is stupid enough to think they aren't winning with just cooking.

Cooking takes head space. Planning, shopping, prep, cooking, serving up and cleaning up.

I would consider other jobs much easier.
It is not good that he is so inflexible.

I think long term it is much better if you share the cooking.

Believe me if you have a family together and you somehow end up with full responsibility for everything to do with food, you will regret it.

Responsibility 7 days a week for all food is a dose many women would happily hand over.

Yanbu.

I agree - or taking an hour to make one lunch (not criticising, just surprised).

OP, how long is it taking you? Can you just make quicker, easier meals?

Sometimes I think I am just genuinely slow.

These threads are a genuine revelation for me - I honestly had no idea that people spent so long cooking dinner every night.

Yeah I often do something like that when I really can't be bothered.

Beef stir fry also takes minutes. No one needs to be chained to the stove.

I wouldn’t want to swap the cooking for doing everything else. I cook very well and cook smart - dinners in the week take 20 mins to cook and I clean as I go. Are you cooking from scratch every night?

You have a major lack of imagination.

I'll give you that, it is just the 2 of us and I like nice food.

You’re making Yorkshire puddings though. You don’t have to. You can spend two minutes putting a healthy meal into the oven if you want to.

You’ve mixed up your Yorkshire puddings and your roast potatoes and are trying to cover it by pretending that turning down a knob on an oven for the beef is some major task. We aren’t in Edwardian England where you’d have had to regulate the temperature with fire and coal. You’re twisting a knob.

No one has mentioned UPFs.