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16-year DD not being supportive

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EisMCsquare · 26/05/2025 14:12

I have been having a tough week as my dad has passed away ( he has been very unwell for a while) I am planning to travel back to attend the funeral. Today I need to go do some shopping, my 16-year old daughter who has said she would come with me and help now said she would not come.
It’s 2pm and she is still sleeping . I asked her to come and she said she can’t be arsed . I said I would really like her accompany as I am so sad and it would be nice to not to go out alone. but she kept saying she cba and just continued to sleep.
she has been always quite selfish and sometimes very rude. However,I know if a friend asks her to go out now she would immediately get up and go. But just not for me.
To think my daughter is cold-hearted, selfish. I am so sad. This is not the first time I felt like this about her.

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Aboutmeabouttime · 26/05/2025 14:22

I’m sorry for your loss but she just lost her grandfather surely… no one way to grieve. Maybe stick some headphones in with a podcast on and phone a friend later x

JockyWilsonsaid · 26/05/2025 14:21

She's not a little girl, it wouldn't hurt her to be kind. Teenagers can be selfish, but under the circumstances she could make more of an effort. I'm sorry about your dad, it's a very hard time.

Whiteflowerscreed · 26/05/2025 14:21

You need some friends for this. As other have said it’s not okay to lean on your child

Iwantasteak · 26/05/2025 14:21

YABU. You're emotionally blackmailing her and it's borderline abusive.

Itisallabitvague · 26/05/2025 14:20

In addition, look up empathy in teenagers and when it develops.

Edited to add, I am truly sorry for your loss, it must be a very difficult time.

Comedycook · 26/05/2025 14:20

Teenagers are notoriously selfish I'm afraid

So sorry for your loss by the way

Itisallabitvague · 26/05/2025 14:20

Totally unreasonable, she's 16!! She's not a peer, stop treating her like one.

IhadaStripeyDeckchair · 26/05/2025 14:19

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Valid8me · 26/05/2025 14:18

YABU - she is 16 and probably doesn't want to go out with her mother, whether she is sad or not.

Lanzarotelady · 26/05/2025 14:16

YABU, she is 16, she is not your emotional crutch.

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