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To now allow DSs friend over because of pillow fight?

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CrabbyPaty · 26/05/2025 09:50

I don’t mind the kids playing with their pillows as I know a lot of their games involve the pillows - pillow fight, gladiators, paintballing etc but the rule is no stomper pillow. That’s it.

Last night they were playing upstairs when I heard crying, went up and DS1 had a bloodied nose, DS2 had whacked him in the face with a stomper pillow. He’s meant to be having a friend over tonight and I’m thinking of cancelling. DH said to just remove the stompers but I feel that is just masking DSs behaviour. Would I be going too far to cancel the sleepover?

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GreenSilverStripe · 26/05/2025 10:16

Get rid of the gross old heavy second hand pillows. Don’t be someone who’s proud of the rock hard pillows they sleep on that are solid dust mite poo

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CrabbyPaty · 26/05/2025 10:16

GreenSilverStripe · 26/05/2025 10:14

If it’s just a regular looking pillow that’s heavier, they might have genuinely in the heat of the moment playing not realised the difference of a stomper pillow. As I’m still confused.

don’t be harsh and cancel the sleepover

No he would have known as soon as picked it up, they weigh a ton

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PumpkinSpicePie · 26/05/2025 10:14

Sounds like they should be called Danger Pillows

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2025 10:14

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/05/2025 10:13

No idea what a stomper is but you should only use one pillow anyway.

When was that law passed? Obviously we’re in danger of prosecution.

GreenSilverStripe · 26/05/2025 10:14

If it’s just a regular looking pillow that’s heavier, they might have genuinely in the heat of the moment playing not realised the difference of a stomper pillow. As I’m still confused.

don’t be harsh and cancel the sleepover

Enigma53 · 26/05/2025 10:13

Don’t cancel the sleep over, that’s mean Just remove said “ stomper” pillow and crack on. I mean if they can cause a bloody nose, why has DS got access to a stomper?? 🙄

sweeneytoddsrazor · 26/05/2025 10:13

No idea what a stomper is but you should only use one pillow anyway.

Butchyrestingface · 26/05/2025 10:12

MereNoelle · 26/05/2025 10:05

https://swamprabbits.shop/products/8-stomper-squish-pillow

This is all I got!

That’s what I saw.

Promptly ordered 5 to smite my enemies since we now have it on good authority from OP that peeps go down like a sack of spuds when hit with one.

MereNoelle · 26/05/2025 10:12

CrabbyPaty · 26/05/2025 10:11

I don’t know to be honest, we were given them by DHs mum. They’re awful I don’t know why we use them. I thought everyone called them stompers but maybe not! They’re hard heavy pillows, old fashioned I imagine

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Maybe just get rid of them and then the risk of anyone getting hurt by them disappears?

BIossomtoes · 26/05/2025 10:12

Sounds like a bolster. Maybe you should just throw them away @CrabbyPaty.

PumpkinSpicePie · 26/05/2025 10:11

No nationality or area has claimed ownership of stompers yet 😁

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CrabbyPaty · 26/05/2025 10:11

Mayflyoff · 26/05/2025 10:08

What's in the pillow to making it heavy?

I don’t know to be honest, we were given them by DHs mum. They’re awful I don’t know why we use them. I thought everyone called them stompers but maybe not! They’re hard heavy pillows, old fashioned I imagine

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Westfacing · 26/05/2025 10:11

Butchyrestingface · 26/05/2025 10:08

It’s not. Does ‘stomper’ sound remotely Scottish to you?

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Well it was worth a guess! It's not Northern, Continental or Aussie

MiracleCures · 26/05/2025 10:10

Mayflyoff · 26/05/2025 10:08

What's in the pillow to making it heavy?

Bricks maybe?

Butchyrestingface · 26/05/2025 10:08

Westfacing · 26/05/2025 10:06

Could be Scottish - sounds like one of their strange words! Grin

It’s not. Does ‘stomper’ sound remotely Scottish to you?

Mayflyoff · 26/05/2025 10:08

What's in the pillow to making it heavy?

MiracleCures · 26/05/2025 10:08

MereNoelle · 26/05/2025 10:05

https://swamprabbits.shop/products/8-stomper-squish-pillow

This is all I got!

Imagining these on all the beds in @CrabbyPaty house now Grin

Butchyrestingface · 26/05/2025 10:08

MereNoelle · 26/05/2025 10:05

https://swamprabbits.shop/products/8-stomper-squish-pillow

This is all I got!

I saw a couple of entries on Google for a “stomper squish pillow”. Nothing of the nature described by OP.

MiracleCures · 26/05/2025 10:07

CrabbyPaty · 26/05/2025 10:02

Stomper pillows are very heavy pillows. The soft pillows go on top of the stompers.

Is this just a family word?

MiracleCures · 26/05/2025 10:07

Westfacing · 26/05/2025 10:03

Maybe the OP is Continental or Northern!

I am a mix of northern and continental and have never heard of these before!

EleanorReally · 26/05/2025 10:07

i wouldnt cancel
just hide the heavy pillows

Westfacing · 26/05/2025 10:06

Could be Scottish - sounds like one of their strange words! Grin

AussieMum135 · 26/05/2025 10:06

EleanorReally · 26/05/2025 10:04

are you australian?

I'm Australian and have never heard of it! Not one of our terms 😁

Sahara123 · 26/05/2025 10:06

Still have no idea what a stomper is, a heavy pillow 🤔?

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