I am getting married in 3 months time.
We originally planned a big white church wedding with over 100 guests.
And then my younger sister was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Unfortunately her prognosis is terminal. She has young kids. As a family we are devastated.
Due to my sister’s illness we decided to cancel the big wedding and instead have a small one at the registry office with just our parents and siblings. And are very much hoping my sister can still attend.
We notified all the guests and they have been incredibly kind and compassionate with the exception of one.
My best friend since secondary school has not taken the change of plans well.
She has yet to ask how my sister’s treatment is going. :(
And she is creating a fuss and sulking that she was not counted as family and so is no longer invited.
I am at a loss of how to reply to her most recent email about how could I not consider her as family! And she is reevaluating our friendship.
I am disappointed by her lack of support at this time but don’t think there is much point in saying that.
But I want to explain (in reply to her email) how both myself and future DH have had to disinvite our longest standing childhood friends who we have known for 35 years and also our cousins. .
Not one other guest has made a fuss. And only showered us with kindness.
i don’t have the emotional energy to deal with her drama at this time. I want to focus on my sister and family.
AIBU to find her making the change of plans all about her seriously disappointing?
I am also at a loss of how to reply beyond repeating that we have not invited any friends - including childhood friends due to the change of plans. And can not make a exception for one.
I just don’t understand her behavior.
If the tables were turned I would want to know how I could help.
Not sure what I am asking really. But just wanted to see if others find her attitude unreasonable or is it me?