Are you a ‘disney’ mum?

My DD and DS are both 15 and I have never shouted at them. I have been very lucky in that that they are both lovely people. I don't think I've ever shouted at my friends or DH either, I'm not a very shouty person. We did naughty step when they were little and we are quite strict on tech etc compared to their friends but I think mainly just being kind to each other and always keeping a sense of humour has worked for us. I might be speaking too soon if course and they may be about to head off the rails!

My children do help me "prep" dinner but only because we have found if they are involved then they are more inclined to try/eat it especially if it involves vegetables!

When I say they help it's things like pouring the measured out rice into the pan or getting veg into smaller pieces by breaking them up etc. So it doesn't take longer as usually I have sorted out 3 other things in the time it takes DS2 (3 yo) to break a red pepper into small enough chunks.

Yeah, they do all the fun stuff and none of the work.

To me a Disney Dad is one who does nothing for 12 days a fortnight, then spoils his children for the 2 days that he has them.

Agree. Sounds like a normal quiet day with young kids. I wish I had the patience to cook with my own kids.

What a nasty thing to post. Horrible.

Personally, I have my accounts on private and have no influencer aspirations. However, I don't think that influencers that post publicly are always being try hard or fake for doing so, it's their business. Influencers that post pictures of themselves looking awful to come across 'real' and 'authentic' come across much more fake in my opinion. It's the type of post that is up there with people that video themselves giving lunch to a homeless person. Blergh.

Tbh our family life did look a lot like that when the kids were young. None of us had any social media though so it wasn't for anyone but ourselves.

Why can't people post nice moments without fear of coming across as try hard or fake?

because their settings are "public" for a start They are trying to sell something, or at least a certain vision of their life they think they are showing. Showing your family to total strangers? It takes a special mindset.
Even famous people pretending to be "private" who share family and private photos are fake, or stages if you prefer (private celebrities are private, you don't see anything from their real life).

I'm equally as bored of social influencers that post about being 'real'. As in, they'll post a lovely picture of them engaging with their children alongside a picture of them looking rough with a crying child moments later to show how authentic they are. They do this for likes and to make their insecure followers feel a bit better. It's boring and uncreative.

If someone is stupid enough to believe that someone posting a nice family picture means that the family live an idyllic life 24/7 then that is on them. I have not seen these influencers suggest that is the case.

Why can't people post nice moments without fear of coming across as try hard or fake?

I've never raised my voice to my children

But I don't tick all your other Disney Mum boxes

I wouldn't be surprised if people thought I was a Disney Mum. I did a lot of baking and made my DCs very good quality packed lunches full of veg and protein. We also went on amazing long haul holidays. However, I was living with domestic abuse and had virtually no cash of my own.

Depends on their ages doesn't it. When mine were 3 and 4 it was all play doh games, baking, going to the park and collecting a nice leaf which you then take home and paint. The ppl who said about an hour or two of TV over the weekend is quite reasonable, that's what we did.

But with a 10 or 9 year old yes you can go out but sometimes they don't want to and there are more screens and fights over piano practice and whether they are allowed giant pints of bubble tea, and so on.

My kids rarely eat anything that’s not home made and don’t watch any tv but I work full time and they are in nursery so I only have 2.5 hrs with them each evening inc getting ready for bed. If I let them watch a film that would be most of our time together used up and I’d rather make the most of the time iv got. At weekends we are always doing family stuff as it’s the only time we have. I try and get my kids involved in cooking, they are only toddlers so mixing and pouring! We don’t have social media. Still have the same problems that every other family has.

Yeah, Walt Disney had a real vendetta against mothers for some reason.

Most moms in Disney movies are dead.
😂😂

true

And not only social media is not real life, or pretending to be,

but people seem to quickly forget that there is some work involved. It's not a mum just posting random pics with a tinkly laugh, it's researched, posed, heavily edited. Pointless or not, it's another debate, but it's so far from a candid snapshot of their life.

Every single one of the photos and videos released by the royal family and Will and Kate are completely staged and filtered. Why would you think anyone else on social media is any different?

Most moms in Disney movies are dead.

I cook dinner from scratch most nights. I bake brownies or cookies pretty frequently. I don't buy sweets, so if I want something sweet I have to make it. The byproduct is that is that my kids also get a treat. Nobody sees my doing any of these things though. It's just what my mother did, who it's what I do.

You do realise social media is not real life don't you?

I hope the poster was being sarcastic, because that Sunday sounds like the most boring day I can think of 😂

Poor kids, and poor mum.

They never mention the children arguing, making a mess, irritating their parents, whining etc.

in fairness... WHY should they mention it?
You are talking about complete strangers on the internet, selling a certain image.
How unattractive would it be to see all the gory family details. How intrusive too.

This ⬆️

What was the name of that American, Kelle Something? A ‘momfluencer’ whose daughter had Down Syndrome, but who was always generating cutesy content from all three of her children — all crafting and bunting-hung bedrooms, and gambolling in leaves in carefully-curated outfits and kits for road trips. Only she lived in Florida, so she had a friend further north send her boxes of autumn leaves to throw around decoratively. The one blogpost I remember had an entire kitchen dresser for some reason dragged into a clearing in woods for some folksy photos of woodland fun…

One of the daughter was called Lainey Love. Big therapy bills loom in poor Lainey’s future.

It was like picking a scab. Compellingly awful.

Cautious, you’ve won Mumsnet today. 🏆