Are older people obsessed with commenting on other peoples weight?

Having been through it, they should have the decency to not pass it onto the next generation.

I think that's what happened to millennials, their parents were obsessed with weight which they internalised and so many either became anorexics, or ended up binge eating because of shame around food (and easy access to addictive junk) or just plain self hatred.

That's why many millennials don't comment on others weights or looks, because they saw how awful it was and don't want to pass it onto others.

Yet you don't care about offending anyone else. You clearly don't see that. I also find your attitude stinks considering you're a nurse. That's a bit of honesty, which you seem to like 👍 I will scroll on now.

@Puppylucky
Size 16 is not horrendously overweight FFS! It’s the average size of women in the U.K. Plenty of women who are tall and a size 16 look quite slim. This sort of shit is proving the OPs point! Older family members commenting on people’s weight in a derogatory manner is definitely something I’ve witnessed in my family.

It's a hot topic of conversation among the older (70+) women in my family that's for sure.

Recently saw my aunt for the first time in a year - her first comment was about my partner's weight, then she went on to give me a run down on the current fat status of everyone in the extended family.

My own mother was always obsessed with other peoples' looks but now, having lost a few kg and seeing herself as slim for the first time, is insufferable. She never shuts up about what she eats (or doesn't) and what she weighs.

Sorry I’ve got to disagree with you there STRONGLY!!!
There would only be about 3 daily!!!

NOW LTB!!!!

Wait to be told to scroll on love 😅

Have a look at a nursing text on person centered care and then read your question and the first few lines of your post again if you can't see what's wrong with it. You refer to older women as 'they..are obsessed' as if we are all the same, and as if our thoughts, feelings and behaviours are 'obsessions'. You may well have observed generational differences (as I said), and I can understand that this may have grated on you. Perhaps you meant this as a light hearted post, but you can't really expect older women to accept being stereotyped like this! How about trying to understand where this is coming from, how social norms have changed over time, why some older women have shifted their views and some haven't.

@someon you do have to admit there are some godawful sights out there on the street and they don't seem to care about what revealing clothes they were.

Do you actually know the purpose of AIBU? You need an audience, love.

So what's the problem with older people talking about weight then? If the OP is concerned that it's offensive, she's not doing a good job in defending her position, while being rude and blasé herself.

These replies calling the OP ageist are getting ridiculous and boring. Ok so the thread title could have been phrased better, asking if there was a generational shift in attitudes to commenting on weight. Is no-one capable of saying, 'you phrased that badly but we know what you mean'?

Again, attitudes and values change through the generations and yes, older people are, in my experience, more likely to comment on weight. As I said in my last post, my octogenarian parents live in retirement accommodation and I've got to know the other residents well. And there's a lot of weight talk!

Couldn’t agree more OP my mum is in her 60s and just like this. Mainly weight comments but boob size or needs make up etc etc no one escapes a comment by her, she feels the need to comment on absolutely everyone’s appearance. I find it so cringe

This. It was rare to see someone who was perhaps a current size 16 when I was a kid in the late 60s. It’s common now. The average size of people
has changed.
I’m commenting on this because the OP raised the subject. The original post is the usual ageist crap.

Yes, we get it; you keep telling us you stand by what you've said. That begs the question why you chose this category of the forum to make your post. No, you clearly don't care who you offend. Nurse you say?

I have a good friend who is 79 that I meet for Lunch when you walk in the street with him he always tuts and makes comments and pointing saying did you see her or him he is always saying how he cannot believe how lots of women are so fat and overweight nowday’s he says no excuse for it and cannot understand why you would want to be like that I was very taken aback when I first heard him saying this to me I has telling him to lower his voice to me it’s got to a point where I expect him say it now it’s like he cannot help himself but To me it’s the norm so I do find his comments odd and obsessive

Well luckily your Nana's opinion matters not one jot to anybody on whose weight she's criticising. Bit like our opinion doesn't matter to you on an AIBU thread.

I don't own any pearls, and if I did I wouldn't be clutching them. 😂😆

You carry on with your mindless ignorance.