Are older people obsessed with commenting on other peoples weight?

All older people, or just your mother? You do realise that what you've said shows that you're obsessed with weight don't you?
Some of us older people don’t comment on people’s weight at all - were not a homogenised group FFS!

Goodness me 😂 I repeat, lord help us if you get upset, if this is what you're like when you're not upset.

I am, to be specific, 48 years of age. I was born in 1976. 48 is often rounded up to 50, but is in fact younger than 50.

If it is so important to you to win then sure, I will let you. You are completely right, older people - but not all older people - are obsessed - but not actually obsessed - with commenting on other people's weight. And no younger people, except some younger people, would ever make a comment on someone's weight. Well done you, you just won the Internet! 😂😂😂

Meanwhile I will carry on going up to strangers in the street and telling them how fat they are, like all the other old people 😂

Yes! Examples over the past few months:

• Director of a play I was in saying to the male lead, "Don't stand like that, it makes your big belly stick out more."
• Costume lady saying to a female actor, "I'm not sure we're going to find a big enough dress for you. People never used to be this size."
• Director saying to same female actor, "You look older than MrsSunshine, even though you are younger. I think it's because you are bigger."
• My aunt saying to my Mum, "It looks like MrsSunshine is going to be big soon."
• My Mum telling me about this comment and saying, "She means you're getting there."
• My Mum asking my husband if he's pregnant, and laughing.

And that's just the ones off the top of my head.

I don't know how they don't realise how rude they're being!

I agree, in my experience it’s those who I suppose are classed as elderly now so 80 and above. They are also from a certain socio economic class (the one I was born into) where they had no currency apart from how they looked and how clean their house was. I’d say a lot of them I know are very unhappy , were in very sexist marriages and are very misogynistic hence passing on the weight madness to their daughters.

that is my experience, i am not generalising at all. I didn’t know any educated women when I was a child, apart from teachers of course. They’d all left school at 15.

No, I agree, you have not at any point clarified what you mean by "older". Other people have. (I assume you will concede that? Actually no I don't assume that 😂but I state it as a fact, that I can prove, should you want to argue about it).

I am not 50, no. I am younger than 50. Interesting though that that you think being considered "old" is something to be offended about. I know some over-50s but none of them has ever commented on my weight. While other people have said "oh yes my mum used to, so therefore OP you must be right" - my answer is "well actually only my mum ever has done, so maybe it's a mum thing rather than an older people thing". I am very sorry that this does not suit your narrative.

I see your Never called anyone stupid for not agreeing with me, I did imply stupidity and I raise you with What is it with people being too thick and not being able to read a thread. Do you know what "imply" means? Because it's not that! 😂

Anyway, I am glad you are happy. I hope you have a long life and get to reach old age, I feel it will be educational for you.

Not at all. My mum would have been in her late 30s when she made comments about my sister's weight. My sister was a perfectly healthy weight- nothing big about her. But she sowed a seed and my sister has been focused on weight or thinks she's bigger than she is ever since. My mum still finds it funny to talk about how 'chunky' people are - not one of us could be described as anything other than slim. Strange woman.

No, you really haven't.

I am not over 50, which according to this thread is the definition of "older". I am also not the one going around calling people "stupid" for not agreeing with your assertion that older people are ruder than younger people (I can see the irony even if you can't).

But sure, if it makes you happy to think that I am old, stupid and rude, then sure. Let that be your narrative, and I hope that it makes you happy. ❤❤❤😊

Thank you it's pretty relentlessless but I'm getting hardened to it now 😂

Yes a proud active Grandma, who does not comment on people's weight, or embark in ageist shit.
Also not a rude uneducated idiot like you, honestly is that the only comeback you have got. It's pathetic and not funny.
Engage your brain before posting.

You sound like a teenager is ageist? Nah, you should be realising I meant some or most teenagers.

Obviously it’s not all people of an older age, but I’ve found it’s a vast majority. To be honest the next time I’m subjected to this ‘weight talk’ about others (and it’s always from people aged 60+) I’m going to point out it is an older person thing to talk about and the younger generation tend to not really discuss it. All weight is up for discussion, too fat, too thin, people’s food choices, it is very wearing. Boring conversation.

It's amazing how much effort people (some people) put into nitpicking over generalisations and qualifiers. The same brand of time-waster forces us to specify "Not All Men" 🙄

Presumably they spend their lives campaigning for health warnings to be changed to "Smoking Often Kills", "Children Sometimes Cross Here" etc, and complaining about news headlines like "South Sudan Dying Of Starvation".

... Or perhaps they don't. Perhaps they have no real difficulty understanding normal language, but enjoy pretending to so as to sidetrack other people's discussions 🤨

@ByZanyRubyOrca do you have an eating disorder? You haven't said. But maybe that's why the comments of your patients bother you. Although if you do it may be unacknowledged, because your comments do seem to lack the insight that someone with such a condition might have.
In all seriousness - do you? Because if you do then it reframes so much.

How old are you OP? You're coming across like a teenager. You still don't get that you've not posted in chat, where like minded people agree with everything you say. So what actually is your AIBU? Oh that's right, you don't have one. I don't think you're posting in good faith anyway, anymore than I did last night. Middle aged women upwards need not be perturbed by YOUR ignorance.

If this is you not upset, then lord help us all if you do get upset 😂