Around 22 years ago I was in a very violent and abusive relationship for a couple of years. It was horrific.
Long story short I got pregnant, I was young and naive, the abuse got even worse. He then cheated on me and went off with another woman while I was heavily pregnant. It was the most awful time of my life. I got myself together went back to work after mat leave, found a little house to rent near my mum and dad. He saw the baby a handful of times for a few months, never sent a penny our way for anything, stole from us instead, but there were lots of threats to take the baby and how he was going to bring the baby up with his new girlfriend then flipping to begging to get back together, then he would threaten to burn my house down with me in it. Police involved, all just horrible.
Eventually after a few months he got bored and I simply never saw or heard from him again.
Since then I’ve bought a house in a different town, have been very happily married for 15 years, had another child. Completely moved on to the point that I can go days and forget it all ever happened. The baby is of course grown up now.
Everyone close to me knows about what happened and that ex has been an absent father and that my husband has brought my child up as a step parent.
Yet I still get people asking me if I ever see or hear from my ex as if it’s as normal as asking if I’ve had a cup of tea.
It makes me cringe and shudder a bit.
Aibu to think that it’s insensitive and people should know better than to bring it up?