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To not mention miscarriage to pregnant friend?

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ScentOverTheEdge · 25/05/2025 12:54

Hi all. Sorry if this is the wrong forum but need advice. My sister is pregnant, due in July following a miscarriage a few months ago. I’m thinking it would be triggering to mention my friend has just had one too, or am I overthinking? If she asks how my friend is shall I just deflect and not tell her? YABU = Be honest about friend’s MC. YANBU = Deflect and don’t mention MC to her. Thanks in advance x
edited to add - title should say sister!

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ScentOverTheEdge · 25/05/2025 13:01

ThinWomansBrain · 25/05/2025 12:59

why on earth would you share your driends personal health information?
Even if your sister was not pregnant?

Thanks for your thoughtful comment. Have a lovely day x

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ThinWomansBrain · 25/05/2025 12:59

why on earth would you share your driends personal health information?
Even if your sister was not pregnant?

DappledThings · 25/05/2025 12:58

Massively overthinking. If it comes up, it comes up. If it doesn't, it doesn't. No need to be planning it.

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ScentOverTheEdge · 25/05/2025 12:58

Oganesson118 · 25/05/2025 12:57

Is she likely to see and interact with the friend? I don’t know why it has to be mentioned at all if not. It’s not really anyone’s business to share other than the person who had the miscarriage.

No, not likely to interact but v likely to ask me how she is

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ScentOverTheEdge · 25/05/2025 12:58

ThejoyofNC · 25/05/2025 12:57

Regardless of the circumstances, I don't think you should be discussing anyone else's miscarriage.

Thank you. I will just deflect then x

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ThejoyofNC · 25/05/2025 12:57

Regardless of the circumstances, I don't think you should be discussing anyone else's miscarriage.

Oganesson118 · 25/05/2025 12:57

Is she likely to see and interact with the friend? I don’t know why it has to be mentioned at all if not. It’s not really anyone’s business to share other than the person who had the miscarriage.

Sahara123 · 25/05/2025 12:57

I would play it by ear, tell her the truth if she asks, but don’t bring it up otherwise .
Hope your friend is ok, it’s so heartbreaking x

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