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empee47 · 2025-05-25T06:58:19+00:00

Went to Tesco yesterday and visited the loo. Washed my hands and turned on the hand dryer and another lady started yelling at me that I was upsetting her daughter because of the noise. Daughter looked to be about 3 and was visibly distressed. Had they asked me not to use the dryer until they’d left the sink area and explained why, I wouldn’t have done. Apparently I can’t possibly be a mum myself as everyone knows kids are scared of the noise. Happens that I have 2 kids myself and the noise has never bothered them. It was the aggressive way she was bellowing at me in public that annoyed me and the sense of entitlement that everything had to run her way.

lemondrops4 · 25/05/2025 09:31

Funkeh · 25/05/2025 07:59

I mean I wouldn’t use hand dryer because they’re woefully unhygienic but yeah the noise is also horrific
maybe just take your own tissues next time

what a pathetic comment 🤣🤣

pestowithwalnuts · 25/05/2025 09:28

If the mother knew how much the dryers upset her child then she must have been aware that people would be using them
So she shouldn't have taken her in there.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 25/05/2025 09:25

They do make the most horrific noise and I completely understand why it upset her child but if she didn't ask you had no way of knowing.
I can't tolerate the sound of them but just have to go in and out of the toilets as quickly as possible.
I know a lot of people will think s this sounds mad but I do think there should be more consideration for people with misaphonia, autism etc when designing new products. They may work better than the older style driers but the noise is unbearable.

gamerchick · 25/05/2025 09:23

It was probably the last straw in a difficult day with a 3 yr old. I wouldn't give it any more thoughts.

You don't work on telepathy.

TheGreyQuail · 25/05/2025 09:14

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 25/05/2025 09:06

I hate the “you obviously don’t have kids…” used at a stranger in an argument. It’s so deliberately hurtful.

Anyone who has ever said that to me has been told in a polite voice and a smile to "Jog off, actually I have had six."

Nominative · 25/05/2025 09:14

rainbowstardrops · 25/05/2025 08:23

Oh, were you there too?

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On MN, people always go around screaming, shouting and yelling. It's well-known you just read that as "spoke a bit loudly".

ilovesooty · 25/05/2025 09:13

Longenough98 · 25/05/2025 08:37

Never have. Never will.

if it’s a troll thread, doesn’t mean not fairly entertaining to watch unfold!

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Well the alternatives are keeping your mouth shut or getting deleted for troll hunting.

TheGreyQuail · 25/05/2025 09:11

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Your point is what exactly? I wasn't there and you weren't so we don't know.
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Flashahah · 25/05/2025 09:07

Funkeh · 25/05/2025 07:59

I mean I wouldn’t use hand dryer because they’re woefully unhygienic but yeah the noise is also horrific
maybe just take your own tissues next time

Nah you’re ok, I’ll wash and dry my hands with the perfectly good facilities provided.

Annoyeddd · 25/05/2025 09:07

Communitywebbing · 25/05/2025 08:12

I am one of those silly women. I find the hot air dries my skin out and normally let my hands air dry. Wouldn’t use a tissue though.

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There is a big difference between someone who does not use the dryer because of skin reactions and someone who flaps around then says the dryer doesn't work when it does.
The newer types rely on air speed and direction not temperature and are much quieter.

BallerinaRadio · 25/05/2025 09:06

Devonshiregal · 25/05/2025 09:04

Do you remember that fun phase when people were trying to force the abolition of clapping. In case someone with sensory issues were overwhelmed by the very human desire to clap, we all had to click? Never mind the fact that if you have (this severe or know you’re triggered by clapping) sensory issues you’re unlikely to be in a lecture hall of 200 other people but sure, let’s just sit here and click in case someone is upset by something that has been happening for the span of human existence.

ps as someone with sensory issues, a room full of clicking sends me right over the edge in a way clapping never has.

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Come on that was never seriously a thing. It was something one person likely said and the media picked up on it as an example of 'wokery'

ScottBakula · 25/05/2025 09:06

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It's a small world isn't it @empee47 , I bet you didn't realise that there was another mn'er in the same Tesco toilets at exactly the same time as you and has seen your post on here in time to comment within less than 5 minutes of you posting .
It's amazing !

Or perhaps wasn't there and is just been antagonistic, I wonder . . . 🤔

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 25/05/2025 09:06

I hate the “you obviously don’t have kids…” used at a stranger in an argument. It’s so deliberately hurtful.

Devonshiregal · 25/05/2025 09:04

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 25/05/2025 08:01

What happened to the courteous request ‘ do you mind not using the dryer until we’ve gone …now hurry up small child we are keeping the lady waiting’.

It’s a sad world now.

Do you remember that fun phase when people were trying to force the abolition of clapping. In case someone with sensory issues were overwhelmed by the very human desire to clap, we all had to click? Never mind the fact that if you have (this severe or know you’re triggered by clapping) sensory issues you’re unlikely to be in a lecture hall of 200 other people but sure, let’s just sit here and click in case someone is upset by something that has been happening for the span of human existence.

ps as someone with sensory issues, a room full of clicking sends me right over the edge in a way clapping never has.

ShillyShallySherbet · 25/05/2025 09:04

BallerinaRadio · 25/05/2025 09:00

Yeah it's another aren't parents unreasonable post, loads of them about recently

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I know. What a strange thing to find on a section of a forum called mumsnet named “Am I being unreasonable”

Koalafan · 25/05/2025 09:04

Helpmeplease2025 · 25/05/2025 08:59

Doesn’t matter.

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Yes, because only you matter. 🤢

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 25/05/2025 09:03

Wow. One of my kids is terrified of hand dryers but I’d never presume to tell someone else how to behave in public!

Koalafan · 25/05/2025 09:02

Helpmeplease2025 · 25/05/2025 08:57

That’s your choice. Other people do not have to avoid using them though, in case one child gets upset. Lots of children don’t care, and even if a child is bothered, it’s never a requirement for someone else to refrain from using it.

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It's called consideration.
It doesn't make my life any harder not to use it.

WhoAteTheLastBrownie · 25/05/2025 09:02

YANBU but those hand driers are pure evil

Readytohealnow · 25/05/2025 09:01

I’d have stared at the silly girl (the mother, not the kid) with blank eyes and turned the drier on again.
Time to work on sone resilience my friend! (Entitled little so and so)

BallerinaRadio · 25/05/2025 09:00

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Yeah it's another aren't parents unreasonable post, loads of them about recently

historyrepeatz · 25/05/2025 08:59

She was BU. Both mine were scared when little and the younger one very much so. Bet she never gave using the dryers a second thought before she had kids who had an issue. If a harried mum asked politely if I could hold off for a second whilst she got her fearful child out that would be fine. I’m not sure how I would handle someone yelling at me for using them. Ignore the ignorant posters who come on to threads to say you are making it up. They would say the same to me about some of the things I’ve experienced whilst out but haven’t posted about.

Figcherry · 25/05/2025 08:59

Dgs hated the hand dryer. I used to tell him, hands over your ears and he’d be fine.

Helpmeplease2025 · 25/05/2025 08:59

Fingeronthebutton · 25/05/2025 08:47

Maybe She’d had a very bad day with a child who, by the sound of it has sensory processing disorder.

Doesn’t matter.

Helpmeplease2025 · 25/05/2025 08:57

Koalafan · 25/05/2025 08:45

Do you actually mean that she had to speak louder than normal over the awful noise of the hand drier? Lots of children find those unpleasant, so I make a point of avoiding them these days, unless there's no other option. Paper towels are much better.

That’s your choice. Other people do not have to avoid using them though, in case one child gets upset. Lots of children don’t care, and even if a child is bothered, it’s never a requirement for someone else to refrain from using it.